Multiple approaches in the same bar?

[Dark Haired Alpha]

OK, I finally got rid of my approach anxiety and don't have a problem approaching sets. Please leave the comments about my join date aside, I did use the information on this website very successfully, but I didn't really have to approach until I moved and don't have such a wide social circle anymore.

My only concern is, is it a good idea to make multiple approaches in the same bar - in most bars, I think I get noticed pretty quickly and I'm not sure whether approaching 5 or 10 sets won't make me come across as too desperate. Also, after I build some rapport and get digits, should I better leave the bar or continue talking to other girls?

Thanks!

 

[TheMale]

i definitely gonna follow this tread !

i had the same question since i once was with some friends in a bar and we just approach every single hot women there, but after 2,3 set there was chicks that we already approach and chicks we didnt approach who were staring at us like for saying guys you're lame !

my friend and i even approach the same set but starting with another chick we hadnt noticed, the chicks in the set were like 'you dont remember us, we just rejected you'

was funny !

 

[Chamber36]

Well, Tariq Nasheed dedicated a whole chapter on "how to work the club" in his book The Art of Mackin'. What he says is that you basically have to work 2 sets at the opposite sides of the club.

 

[Mr Wright]

If you're fun, making the girls laugh etc any other girl would love to experience some of that too. If you look like a sleazy guy with serious player vibe of course shes going to blow you off.

Ive worked rather small rooms, made out with multiple girls(some were even friends with each other), who have seen the others girls and not even batted any eyelid, if anything it turned them on more.

 

[Love's Orphan]

A friend of mine does this. His trick is memorizing the phone numbers and write them down in the restroom. That way other ladies see him as just socializing when he is actually number closing.

 

[TheMale]

A friend of mine does this. His trick is memorizing the phone numbers and write them down in the restroom. That way other ladies see him as just socializing when he is actually number closing.

i dont get the idea.

memorizing phone number of whom ?
and when exactly does he write it down ? when a chick is around or alone ?

 

[J Roc]

women are in the club to get picked up. why hide the fact that you are there to meet a bunch of women. i have no problem approaching a female, getting her number and approaching a women who is a few steps away.

 

[TonyBaloney]

Yeah it works....

Seen two girls of late from a night at a local bar.....the chicks were standing ten feet from each other. One of them who i banged saw me french kissin the other one, and when i went out on a date with her:flowers: she said " i cant believe you kissed that tall girl" i said, LOOK, i was drunk at that point, but i was always looking at you out of the corner of eye, you just didnt see me lookin ha!

 

[Love's Orphan]

You go to one lady, talk for 10 mins or so, ask for number and memorize it if given. Other ladies cant see you saving it on your cell or writing it down. Or they may get defensive (they think you are a player). You leave the convo first and go to the restroom or outside to save/write down the number. Rinse and repeat. Ive seen him do this several times to get 2-3 numbers, back when I knew nothing about this.

 

[Chamber36]

omg can't you just number close in public??

 

[Love's Orphan]

He is closing in public.

 

[n00bPimp]

If you dont want to be seen as that guy thats trying to pick up girls, then you must be seen as that social guy.

Take a typical night, where a #closing rate is less than 5 out of 10 if you're good, already you're not number closing every girl in the bar. Heck, you're probably not gonna get past a few words with 1 or 2 of them. Also, if you open one set, there's no telling how long you'll stay in it. If you're into them and they are into you, and is not possible to get an SNL, then you want to stay in there for at least 1 hr in order for that # to be legit. (Its very easy for a number to flake if you only spent 10mins talking to them). By the time 1hr has passed, most of the people have seen you with the same girl and other girls are already placing you in the "chooser" category. Next, your best bet to come under the radar is to merge sets. If you're in a set that doesnt seem to be going anywhere, open the people next to you and introduce your set to them. Also, reopen sets and introduce them to other sets every so often. Very important, make sure you are friendly to the guys too, other guys will often try to amog you if they see you as that guy who talks to all the girls but can't pick up any. They will wait for you to warm up the girls and then they'll strike, so its best if you can befriend them before hand.