Mr.Style's approach journal.

[Mr.Style]

OK a report of my day.Well things didn't go so good since I was supposed to be at a lecture for 10 and I woke up at 1!
That f*cked up my day big time!
Needless to say my attempt at 10 approaches never got off the ground though I did get one done...sort of.It was on a girl that is in my tutorial group:

Me:Hey.(I smile at her)
HB6.5:Hi.What are you looking at?(said jokingly,while smiling)
Me:Uh...what are YOU looking at?(lame,I know)
HB6.5: (laughs and walks off with her friends)

She seemed to show interest but her comment threw me a little and I didn't really know how to respond.
After that I headed home but had a funny experience.
I was applying kino on this HB6 who was sat beside me on the bus.My thighs kept brushing against hers and vice-versa but the problem was I didn't know what to say!What do you say to someone who is beside you on a bus?

Anyway,I'm going to try and get some sleep now as if I keep waking up late,I'll not only miss out on chances to approach but I'll fail my year!I will do more approaches tomorrow.Hopefully...

 

[TDOT]

Originally posted by Mr.Style
[What do you say to someone who is beside you on a bus?

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Excuse me, do you have any Grey Poupon?

 

[Mr.Style]

Originally posted by TDOT
Excuse me, do you have any Grey Poupon?

Hmm,has this been field tested?

OK,an analysis of my day today.Pretty crappy and almost identical to yesterday.I need to sort out my sleeping patterns as I woke up late and missed my lectures yet again.Actually,I think all this anxiety of approaching is getting to me.I'm still seeking my first outright rejection and I need to get it out of the way fast.
Anyway,I had only one approach today and it was pretty lame:

(On bus,heading home,beside a HB6)
Me:Hey were you at the lecture just now?
Her:Uh no,I wasn't sorry.
Me:Oh,OK.Never mind.(I didn't know what to talk about)
(After that she started texting someone,presumably her boyfriend)

Since I've been late this week,my only opportunities with girls have been on the bus and it's hard to make conversation on a bus.What do you talk about?The weather?
Still,my conversation skills are improving.I saw a guy today who I knew years ago and we kind of had a falling out years ago but I decided to open up a conversation with him and I really enjoyed it so that was a good experience even if it wasn't with a girl!
A week ago,I probably wouldn't have done that so I'm making progress,albeit slooowly.
If I wake up on time tomorrow I should get some good conversations and approaches done.I hope...

 

[Dublinsfinest]

keep up the work.

I was in UCD last week and I got 1 number and 1 rejection. The girls were not that nice looking. This was at 12pm in the day.

You badly need some material mate. Read, read, read.

 

[Mr.Style]

Originally posted by Dublinsfinest
keep up the work.

I was in UCD last week and I got 1 number and 1 rejection. The girls were not that nice looking. This was at 12pm in the day.

You badly need some material mate. Read, read, read.

Good to hear from you again.I'm curious as to what you said to the girls you approached?

As for me,my situation is as it was.Too many negative thoughts are holding me back.You'll never guess who I saw the other day standing beside me in the library - Rosanna Davidson!That's right,the former Miss World herself.She caught me staring at her.Unfortuantely,I didn't say anything.Bah!It would've been fun to get rejected by her!I didn't think she was that good looking when I saw her though.A HB8,maybe.

Another thing that has stalled my progress is that I've got oneitis.There's this girl in one of my tutorials who is one of the most attractive women I've seen(and I've seen a former Miss World!).Saturday night,I'll probably be going out clubbing so I might have some rejections to report...

 

[Dublinsfinest]

Originally posted by Mr.Style
Good to hear from you again.I'm curious as to what you said to the girls you approached?

As for me,my situation is as it was.Too many negative thoughts are holding me back.You'll never guess who I saw the other day standing beside me in the library - Rosanna Davidson!That's right,the former Miss World herself.She caught me staring at her.Unfortuantely,I didn't say anything.Bah!It would've been fun to get rejected by her!I didn't think she was that good looking when I saw her though.A HB8,maybe.

Another thing that has stalled my progress is that I've got oneitis.There's this girl in one of my tutorials who is one of the most attractive women I've seen(and I've seen a former Miss World!).Saturday night,I'll probably be going out clubbing so I might have some rejections to report...

I was on the lookout for good oul Rosey myself but didn't see her. I was actually meeting up with a female friend of mine from school but she was late so I did some approaches. First was actually me seriously asking 2 girls for directions. Then I took the piss out of one of them just saying things like, "Are you sure your not giving me the wrong directions?! I was warned about you UCD girls!!" I did some other stuff that I always do. like The best friend test, which they loved. Then they asked me where I was from, my name etc. One of them started saying she lost her dog there (where I was from) when she was younger, so I ran a routine about my dog (It's basically a heartwarming story of bull****) so that took up about 2 minutes. Then I closed and went for the hot ones number. Easy peasy.

Second one was terrible. I walked up to a man and woman (I was buzzing from the number close) and I asked the woman for a female opinion. But she completely blew me off. lol. She was like "I havn't got any time for this". But you have time to stand still you stupid tart. Didn't say that but should have. Then I went on my way.

I'm on a mission to approach rosanna davidson. Does she get approached that much???

 

[Mr.Style]

Originally posted by Dublinsfinest
I'm on a mission to approach rosanna davidson. Does she get approached that much???

I'd imagine she gets a fair few approaches but I hear she's dating someone,anyway.I have had some mixed success since I last reported.I don't know if I "got game" but I seem to have some guidelines now to every approach:

Chat with an English HB6:

Me:Hi
HB6:Hi.
(Fluff talk for a while)
Me:Your boys took some beating in the rugby,didn't they?
HB6: Did they?We let you win!
(Some more teasing between both of us)
Me:So what are English guys like?
HB6:Some are Ok,some are idiots.
Me:I bet Irish guys have more charm(smiling)
HB6:Maybe
Me: Definitely.I think you're falling for my Irish charm
HB6:I think I am(laughs)
Me:I'm not sure if you're my type though.I like wild girls.
HB6:I'm wild.
Me:Really?What's the wildest thing you've ever done?
(she tells me.It's fairly wild)
Me:You seem very comfortable with your sexuality.
HB6:Isn't everybody?(laughs)
Me:Stop it,you're turning me on here!
HB6:Oops!But there's nothing wrong with that,is there?
Me:No,I don't think so.
(soon after,I had to get going)
Me:I have to go now.What's your email address?
(she gives it to me)
Me:Take care.

It went well but I won't be keeping contact.I dont feel it would be worth the hassle.Recently,I chatted with a woman in her thirties,who was worth practising on:

Me:Hi
HB6:Hi.
Me:Wanna chat with a younger guy?
HB6:How young?
Me:In my twenties
HB6:Yeah right you're probably some 19 year old kid.
Me: Do I look like a liar?
(Fluff talk,she was quite witty but kept laughing at her own jokes)
Me:Are you single?
HB6:Single?No.(said like she was shocked I asked)
Me:Are you married?
HB6:Yes.
Me: Do you love him?
HB6:Most of the time(she said something like that)
Me:What's he like?
HB6: Sometimes he gets moody and won't talk
Me:Ah well I talk all the time.I think you'd be better off with me.
HB6:I don't think so.Night.
(The situation looked bleak here so I tried one last gamble)
Me:Ah see I knew you were falling for me.That's why you're leaving.
HB6:Yeah right.(said in not very nice way)
Me:Admit you're falling for me bad!
HB6:Stop taking the p*ss.
Me:Hey this is what I'm like.You're falling for my charms,aren't you?
HB6:In your dreams.
Me:So now you want me to dream about you?I knew you were falling for me!
(she laughs)
HB6:I have to get going though.I'm tired.
Me:I hope you won't be kept awake all night thinking about me!
(she insults me saying something about her privates)
Me:Now you're thinking about me and your privates?Control yourself,please!Control those urges!
(she laughs,from there the conversation went into her sex life.I posed some hypothetical situation about her sleeping with me.She said she might consider such a thing)
Me:How is it you went from almost leaving to considering sleeping with me?
HB6:Well you're the only one here who's talking to me,the other guys are talking to other girls.(she basically takes the p*ss out of me)
HB6:I'm just trying to keep your ego in check.
Me:I think it was taking the p*ss out of you.You like a good challenge.
(it got late then and I told her I had to go but it was nice talking to her)

All in all,I'm developing some type of game.I have been thinking lately about how I've changed during my adolescent years.When I was a kid,I was fun loving and outspoken but during my teenage years I got moody and depressing.I need to find the real me to become the man I need to be which I feel requires respecting my younger years and evolving from my teenage years.My life is not where I want it to be right now so I need to figure out my goals and work towards them.I feel at rock bottom right now but perhaps that can spur me on to pick myself up and sort myself out.

 

[Mr.Style]

Another approach on an older woman.
This one was an American who was forty(she was sexy though):

Me:Hi
HB7:Hi
Me:Wanna chat to an interesting young Irish guy?
HB7:Sorrry.No thanks.
Me:Come on.I'm the best conversationalist in here.Besides,I thought America and Ireland were friends?
HB7:They can still be friends.Doesn't mean we have to be.
Me:Nah,I'll just tell everyone I meet that Americans are mean and it won't be hard because this is a small country.
(she laughs)
Me:So what part of USA are you from?
HB7hilly(blah,blah,blah we fluff talk for a while.I then tried to get her to talk about her husband as she told me she wasn't too happy with him)
HB7:Sometimes I feel like I'm not appreciated
Me:And how does that make you feel?(I continued asking questions about her)
Is there still passion in the relationship?(I tried to get the convo about sex)
HB7:It's not too bad(I successfully managed to get the conversation about sex and she was willing to tell me quite intimate stuff.This was arousing for me needless to say but she got a phone call and had to leave)
HB7:It was nice meeting you.Thanks for listening.
Me:Can't you stay longer?You'll just be thinking of me anyway.
HB7:I will be but I have to go sorry.
Me:Will you be around tomorrow?
HB7:No.What about email?
Me:OK what's yours?
(I got the email but I won't be following up on this.It was good practice though)

As I've said before I feel I am developing some general guidelines around women now.I have been realising that I can be very humourous when I act ****y and full of myself which is something I used to do in my earlier years/early teens before I got all moody and quiet.I need to develop my personality more,also I am not great with body language.I tend to slump and hunch.I need to act more casual.

 

[Dublinsfinest]

Good work. Just keep approaching. You actually have the potential to be a quality DJ.

I like your persistance. Remember to always "Make the ho say no". You've got nothing to lose... this is all a learning phase.

Some of the things you say may seem a little toooo ****y but I don't think there's anything wrong with that if you're acting very confident and your BL portrays this. I'm quite similar. But just be careful of that.

BTW Are these nightclub approaches or daytime? Totally different games.

 

[alphawolfx]

Mr. Style - I love your style.

THAT'S some f.ucking good approaches. Keep it up.

 

[Mr.Style]

Originally posted by Dublinsfinest

BTW Are these nightclub approaches or daytime? Totally different games.

Yeah thanks for the kind comments guys but it is worth pointing out that these approaches were done in places I was expected to converse with people.Also the ladies I was dealing with were ladies I wasn't expecting to be successful with anyway.

I still need alot of work to become comfortable at being sociable.I'm a long way off mastering cold approaches.

 

[Mr.Style]

I did an approach last night on a HB7.Here's how it went:

Me:Hi.
HB7Hi.
Me:Having fun? (basic fluff talk follows and I get her name.We build some rapport as I ask her about her interests etc.)
Me:So are you someone I should get to know better?
HB7:I don't know.That's not for me to sell to you.You must gauge that from our conversation.
Me:What kind of person are you?
HB7:I am quite a free spirit.(she goes on for a while about how free she is and how she cannot be tamed etc.She said she was like a whirlwind)
HB7:I can be here one minute, and then gone the next.
Me:Really?So you're basically a thief?
(she laughs)
HB7:Maybe
Me:Really?And what is it you like to steal?
HB7: Dunno.A thief usually steals things that are up for grabs.
Me:Uh,a thief steals things that AREN'T up for grabs.That's the point!
HB7:Sure, whatever.(she didn't seem to like my response)
Me: So are you single?
HB7:Yes.You?
Me:Yes.Why are you single then?
HB7:Haven't found the right guy.
Me:What do you look for in a guy?(she tells me)
HB7:What do you look for in a girl?(I tell her and say I like girls with a wild side)
HB7:Everyone has a wild side.
Me:Oh yeah?What's the wildest thing you've ever done?
(she tells me about skinny dipping naked with friends)
Me: Did you sleep with anybody?
HB7:I've talked all along.You've hardly told me anything.
Me:You never asked me anything.You only wanted to talk about you.(we got into a bit of an argument here)
HB7:You kept asking me questions though.
Me:I kept the conversation centred on you, that's why.
HB7:Exactly.
Me:But you could've insisted I answer some questions but you didn't.It proves my point.A woman's favourite topic of conversation is herself.
(she got annoyed at this and said very little)
Me:Have I made you mad?
HB7:I don't like being called a typical woman.
Me:Why?You're not a transexual are you? (she laughs)
(she then decides to ask me questions and I give very little away about myself.She then gets frustrated and asks me lots of questions)
Me:Wow I feel like I need a lawyer talking to you.
HB7: (laughing)Why?
Me:It feels like I'm being interrogated.
HB7:You asked me lot of questions though.
Me:Yeah but I was subtle about it.It's a chat after all!
HB7:You should be glad I'm asking questions about you.It shows I'm interested.
Me:I think I'm charming you.
HB7:You presume too much.
Me:I presume right.I challenge you.
HB7:Maybe.(I then take the conversation into talking about sex and ask her stuff like her faourite position etc.)
Me: Well listen I have to go soon.What's your email?
(she gives me it.she seemed very excitable at this stage)
Me:So can I ask you one last question before I go?
HB7:Sure.
Me:Have I been charming?
HB7:Charm means kissing up to a woman to get her to like you.
Me:No.Charm means making a woman feel unique,vibrant and alive.(I got that from someone on this site.She loved that answer and actually let out a moan in delight!)
HB7:Well,let's see.You were intelligent, endearing, challenging,sexy and you got me VERY horny...and you were charming.
Me:Yay(I pretended to be delighted upon hearing this.She laughed.)
Well I'm gonna go now.Don't stay up all night dreaming about me.
HB7:You too.
Me:What do you mean?I always dream about me.
HB7: (she laughs)I think I'm going to masturbate over you.Do you mind me saying that?
Me:Not at all.Just be sure to have some dry panties ready in the morning.
HB7: (She laughs and I say goodnight.)

Overall I think I did OK and was quick-witted at times but I need to work on my posture and stuff, as well as eyecontact and kino.
I also need to work on my confidence.

 

[ApocalypseCow2]

Damn, that last one was pretty good. Where was that?

I'm working on my posture, too. Someone posted an awesome comment about walking/standing better: act like there is a rope tied around your waist and someone is pulled it. People with akward walks walk like the rope is around their head or chest.

 

[JiGGhaMan]

Can you tell me how the sex talk went? Like how you introduced it and what you said/asked.

 

[Mr.Style]

Originally posted by ApocalypseCow2
Damn, that last one was pretty good. Where was that?

I'm working on my posture, too. Someone posted an awesome comment about walking/standing better: act like there is a rope tied around your waist and someone is pulled it. People with akward walks walk like the rope is around their head or chest.

I did that one in a place with lots of people around so I was expected to be social, really.Everyone was chatting.
I like that tip about posture.I'll try to remember that.

Originally posted by JiGGhaMan
Can you tell me how the sex talk went? Like how you introduced it and what you said/asked.

I've had great success in getting women to talk about sex.I've found it gets them very excitable.I've used various methods to bring the conversation around into sex.If I remember correctly, for my recent conversation I asked her about dating and how many dates she would go on before sleeping with a guy.If you have built rapport with the girl then she will be willing to talk about stuff like that, I've found.It went something like this, I think:

Me:So how many dates would you go on before sleeping with a guy?
HB7:It would take a couple of dates.I wouldn't do it on the first date.
Me:What if the guy was really charming though?
HB7:I still don't think I would
Me:It sounds like a challenge to me!

From there, I just started teasing her about stuff and I asked her if she was comfortable with her sexuality and then we talked about positions and stuff.

Some other methods I've use to get the conversation into sex have been:

Would you consider yourself to be a passionate person? (then I follow up on what she says)

or

I tell her I like girls with a wild side and if she says she is wild I ask her to tell me the wildest thing she's ever done

or

I have asked girls if they're naughty or nice(alot will say naughty) and I then follow up by asking the naughtiest thing she's ever done etc.

It's not hard to start talking about sex because it seems society is obsessed with sex these days anyway.

 

[Tweek_1984]

Originally posted by Mr.Style


All in all,I'm developing some type of game.I have been thinking lately about how I've changed during my adolescent years.When I was a kid,I was fun loving and outspoken but during my teenage years I got moody and depressing.I need to find the real me to become the man I need to be which I feel requires respecting my younger years and evolving from my teenage years.My life is not where I want it to be right now so I need to figure out my goals and work towards them.I feel at rock bottom right now but perhaps that can spur me on to pick myself up and sort myself out.

I haven't got time to talk alot right now, but what you describe here is very much like myself.

I've been seeing a student soical worker about anxiety and how I've lost my ****y spark and confidence that I had as a kid and lost as a teenager.

Good luck anyways, what you're doing is inspiring.

 

[doctoroxygen]

Hey buddy. It's good to grab your balls and get over the approach anxiety. However, I think you could get much better results with an opener other than "wanna chat?" Try opening with a tease or something funny, "wanna chat" kinda comes off weird.

I was at Trinity for awhile last year, I found Irish girls to be brutal sometimes, but some of them can be sweethearts. Good luck to you.

 

[Pugs]

Originally posted by doctoroxygen
but some of them can be sweethearts.

 

[Dublinsfinest]

Mr. Style, your on the right track. I'd say keep approaching in nightclubs and don't be afraid to go for the NUMBER. Ideally you should approach about 12 girls a night. Also, what is your kino like when your talking to these girls? I see some chances in the conversation for you to escalate to a kiss close, especially at the end. She actually gave you some big IOI's. You're very witty though, I like that.

 

[Layla]

Originally posted by TDOT
Excuse me, do you have any Grey Poupon?

Haha!
Thats the funniest approach I've ever read on this site, seriously. Did you ever try that out?