Long story short:
I was interested in a girl (A) and she knew it. She was busy with trying to finish school and was busy with her friends so it was hard to get in contact with her. I took her "busy-ness" as her not being interest. By the time she decided to show some interest I had already began dating another girl (B). Things didn't really work out with girl B and after about a year we broke it off. Girl A was pretty quick to show up the next day when I went out with my friends.
She tried to chat with me but I just broke up the other day and was feeling messed up. Apparently she wanted a serious chat and got angry that I was casual and joked around wither. I didn't feel like dealing with a moody girl so ended up blowing her off and hung out with another girl for the rest of the night.
Since then about a year has passed. We've had some casual chats over msn and text, she seems relatively receptive to more "serious" conversations, so I find myself not joking around as much with her. I'm still interested in her and thought I would give it another try.
What do you DJ's think?
*edit - more detail*
Right now I've finished (1 of 2) of my masters degrees and am looking for a job. She recently graduated as well and has come back from exchange.
I'm in the midst of trying to sort out if this is a girl I want or if she's just convenient. I remember I became unattracted to her for several reasons:
-she's not very social (at a party she sat in the corner and played games on her phone all night).
-she's rather immature for her age.
-she takes a lot of advice from her friends, whom I don't respect and are huge flakes.
-she's moody.
Originally I was attracted to her because:
-physically she's my type
-she's quite intelligent, speaks about 5 languages.
-she's not a needy "buy me stuff" type of girl (difficult to find in my city).
Shortly after she came back, I messaged her on Facebook and said "Welcome back - I would've text you - don't know if your phone still works". About 5 minutes later I got a text from her saying "still the same number =) " <-- that might've sparked that over thinking I'm prone to do.
Perhaps I'm over thinking things now that I have more "free time". I know my issue is that I THINK too much, and I can get worked up pretty easy. definitely Beta behavior.
To cleanse myself of this Beta behavior I've gone about doing my own thing for the past 2 years. I basically said to myself " I don't need a girl", I focused on finishing school, working, and going out with friends. Personally, I worked on myself, developing my social skills, chasing my hobbies etc. I know that I've got a lot going for me, I'll have 2 degree's soon, I have 2 businesses in development and in a few years I'll be living comfortably.
I think what I want most is to see if this girl is worth my time. I want to go out with her once or twice to see if she's what I'm looking for.
I was interested in a girl (A) and she knew it. She was busy with trying to finish school and was busy with her friends so it was hard to get in contact with her. I took her "busy-ness" as her not being interest. By the time she decided to show some interest I had already began dating another girl (B). Things didn't really work out with girl B and after about a year we broke it off. Girl A was pretty quick to show up the next day when I went out with my friends.
She tried to chat with me but I just broke up the other day and was feeling messed up. Apparently she wanted a serious chat and got angry that I was casual and joked around wither. I didn't feel like dealing with a moody girl so ended up blowing her off and hung out with another girl for the rest of the night.
Since then about a year has passed. We've had some casual chats over msn and text, she seems relatively receptive to more "serious" conversations, so I find myself not joking around as much with her. I'm still interested in her and thought I would give it another try.
What do you DJ's think?
*edit - more detail*
Right now I've finished (1 of 2) of my masters degrees and am looking for a job. She recently graduated as well and has come back from exchange.
I'm in the midst of trying to sort out if this is a girl I want or if she's just convenient. I remember I became unattracted to her for several reasons:
-she's not very social (at a party she sat in the corner and played games on her phone all night).
-she's rather immature for her age.
-she takes a lot of advice from her friends, whom I don't respect and are huge flakes.
-she's moody.
Originally I was attracted to her because:
-physically she's my type
-she's quite intelligent, speaks about 5 languages.
-she's not a needy "buy me stuff" type of girl (difficult to find in my city).
Shortly after she came back, I messaged her on Facebook and said "Welcome back - I would've text you - don't know if your phone still works". About 5 minutes later I got a text from her saying "still the same number =) " <-- that might've sparked that over thinking I'm prone to do.
Perhaps I'm over thinking things now that I have more "free time". I know my issue is that I THINK too much, and I can get worked up pretty easy. definitely Beta behavior.
To cleanse myself of this Beta behavior I've gone about doing my own thing for the past 2 years. I basically said to myself " I don't need a girl", I focused on finishing school, working, and going out with friends. Personally, I worked on myself, developing my social skills, chasing my hobbies etc. I know that I've got a lot going for me, I'll have 2 degree's soon, I have 2 businesses in development and in a few years I'll be living comfortably.
I think what I want most is to see if this girl is worth my time. I want to go out with her once or twice to see if she's what I'm looking for.
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