Most of the people on this forum have the same story. You feel like you fell behind the ball somewhere along the line and things just aren't coming together.
You make excuses
Not good looking enough
Not popular enough
Don't know enough girls
Buisy with school/sports/after school activities
But somewhere down the line you realize that these excuses aren't comforting. You feel trapped.
When I was in this situation I had a realization. You only get one shot at high school. One shot to make some solid memories and learn something that other than academics. Realizing this pushed me to make some big changes.
1. I knew the transition would be tough, so I found myself a solid wingman. I picked one of my friends and motivated him to make some changes too. Between the two of us we can usually find something to do, and motivate each other to push forward.
2. Never settle for a mediocre week end. Like most I spent my fair share of friday nights at home or chilling with one friend. Although this is good once in a while, it should not be a habit. After looking forward to the weekend so much I feel obligated to make each one memorable in some way, and for the last few months I have rarely been disappointed.
3. Avoid wasting to much time on hobbies which provide brief entertainment. Some like to play video games, watch tv/movies, or drink/smoke with just your guy friends. My major distraction was poker, and although I enjoy it from time to time and had a good time win or lose, the fact of the matter was it wasn't productive. For the amount of time I poured into it, I developed few skills which would help me in the long run, and the whole time there was a voice in my head telling me that I could be having a much better time out there learning the ways of a DJ. I then changed my attitude towards poker in general. Instead of being something I looked forward to doing, it became my entertaining plan B, the thing I would try to slap together at the last minute when I was sure nothing was going to happen. My friends who seem to be satisfied being AFC will always be there to chill with if I cant find anything to do, but I will always look forward to getting out with my wingman the next weekend.
The moral of the story is you only get four years to screw around and have fun with highschool girls. Don't let other aspects of life block you from setting a good foundation for a future as a true DJ
Please respond with questions and feedback
You make excuses
Not good looking enough
Not popular enough
Don't know enough girls
Buisy with school/sports/after school activities
But somewhere down the line you realize that these excuses aren't comforting. You feel trapped.
When I was in this situation I had a realization. You only get one shot at high school. One shot to make some solid memories and learn something that other than academics. Realizing this pushed me to make some big changes.
1. I knew the transition would be tough, so I found myself a solid wingman. I picked one of my friends and motivated him to make some changes too. Between the two of us we can usually find something to do, and motivate each other to push forward.
2. Never settle for a mediocre week end. Like most I spent my fair share of friday nights at home or chilling with one friend. Although this is good once in a while, it should not be a habit. After looking forward to the weekend so much I feel obligated to make each one memorable in some way, and for the last few months I have rarely been disappointed.
3. Avoid wasting to much time on hobbies which provide brief entertainment. Some like to play video games, watch tv/movies, or drink/smoke with just your guy friends. My major distraction was poker, and although I enjoy it from time to time and had a good time win or lose, the fact of the matter was it wasn't productive. For the amount of time I poured into it, I developed few skills which would help me in the long run, and the whole time there was a voice in my head telling me that I could be having a much better time out there learning the ways of a DJ. I then changed my attitude towards poker in general. Instead of being something I looked forward to doing, it became my entertaining plan B, the thing I would try to slap together at the last minute when I was sure nothing was going to happen. My friends who seem to be satisfied being AFC will always be there to chill with if I cant find anything to do, but I will always look forward to getting out with my wingman the next weekend.
The moral of the story is you only get four years to screw around and have fun with highschool girls. Don't let other aspects of life block you from setting a good foundation for a future as a true DJ
Please respond with questions and feedback
