Most popular kid in school

[AlexLefty]

Hey guys, I guess you can call this my journal to becoming the most popular kid in school.

So first of all, some of you may know about the boot camp that Speak and I were doing a few weeks ago. After failing miserably at it and being down in the dumps for a couple weeks, I've finally recuperated and am ready to ACTUALLY make some PROGRESS.

So here's a little background about me:
-I'm pretty short, about 5'8 I'd guess
-Weigh about 130 lbs
-I'm toned with a mediocre 6 pack
-Always had long hair, just got a short hair cut, looks good
-I'm a smart kid in all these hard programs and classes
-My Highschool has about 3,000 kids - Im a junior
-I'm already known of by a lot of people, there's a lot of kids that I say hi to and maybe have short convos, but I have about 15 true hanging out friends
-I've always thought of myself as good with the ladies, due to an inflated ego that I don't know why I have, it stems from elementary I think. Then I hit junior high (because of my smartness I went to jh at a highschool in a special program with about 200 other kids) and sh1t started going down. I lost confidence, but since last year, I've gotten most of it back and am only climbing higher.
I also think that my ego has come from this website. I know SO much more than other people, that I actually felt superior to them. But what I've found is that I need to swallow my pride. I need to realize I'm not all that and actually make some MORE friends. I need to get over how annoyed I get with some kids (some of them are pretty popular), and I just need to make friends and get popular.

What I want? I want to be the most popular kid in school. I've always dreamed it. Now I'm going to get it. I want more friends, chicks and fun times than I can handle.

To make this happen, I've started up the boot camp again, and am taking it more seriously. I just stared the second week of the boot camp today. In addition to the boot camp, I'm also adding requirements to talk to popular guys too. I'm just going to be recording some of my progress down in this thread, and maybe some of you can learn from my experiences.

And so it begins..

 

[AlexLefty]

Boot Camp - Week 2 - Day 1

So today was the first day of the second week of the boot camp, and sh1t was it exciting. First of all though, I finished up the first week pretty well, and said hi to a lot of chicks in my school and made some new guy friends. Pretty good. But i need to keep going higher.

Anyways, I'll summarize the day for you. I started off school with a few missed opportunities to start convos, and was really pissed. So after 1st period I was walking with this girl i met a few days ago and got her # :yes: . So I went through the whole day not getting any convos until the train ride home when I talked to this random guy. Pretty good convo, but I told myself that I wouldn't go home until I atleast got a convo with a chick. On the bus ride home there was a perfect opportunity, but I passed, I need to follow the 3 second rule strictly from now on, and I'm sure I'll be able to start up a conversation. So to get my convo with a chick I went to a store, passed, and went to another store. I saw this cute girl who works there that also happens to go to my school (I've seen her in the halls, never talked though). So I paced around trying to work up the courage. I ended up picking up a shirt and bringing it with me to the dressing room to try it on (she works by the dressing room). And after another 5 minutes of freaking out, I finally went for it.

I asked her if she thought the shirt looked good and then said "hey, don't you go to my school", she acted like she never saw me before, but I know she did. The convo went on from there for about 2 mins, and I kind of messed up a little, my mind was racing so fast I couldn't remember what to say lol Anyways, that was the greatest feeling I've ever had, because that was my first TRUE dry approach to a girl I've never talked to. After being SO nervous I felt SO FVCKING ACCOMPLISHED. Walking home I was just screaming "YESSS" man it just felt good. AFter the 1st one, the rest come easy right.
Fvck was it sweet.

My boot camp week 2 totals are 2 convos.

 

[Crissco]

Way to go bro, im gonna keep an eye on this

 

[NorwegianDJ]

2[/B] convos.

FVCK YEAH MAN! I can tell that this sh1t will be good, just by reading that last post.
Try reading "Conquer your campus" It's a good read, and relates to your situation.
Keep going bro, subscribed.

 

[MrP]

Keep it up man!

Here's something I've done: Ask every hot girl you see if they have any gum.
If they say yes, you get free gum and if they say no, you ask why.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Keep it up man!

Here's something I've done: Ask every hot girl you see if they have any gum.
If they say yes, you get free gum and if they say no, you ask why.

That's a good one, but thats taking value. What about being the guy that always has gum, and gives to people, and limiting it over time? Which is giving value, but not letting yourself get used.

 

[AlexLefty]

Try reading "Conquer your campus" It's a good read, and relates to your situation.

Post a link for this
I know its not an article but where do you read/listen about this stuff?

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Post a link for this
I know its not an article but where do you read/listen about this stuff?

Sent you a PM.

 

[AlexLefty]

Update - Weekend

Sent you a PM.

Thanks, so do I just click "Download this torrent (magnet link)", and is it like a text file or music or what?


So this weekend, pretty much sucked, like usual. Now, don't get me wrong, I did have fun, but I just don't feel like I'm where I want to, or SHOULD be. I spent all friday and saturday hanging out with 2 of my closest friends that I've known from elementary school. They're cool and all, but they're complete and total AFCs, and I've tried to introduce them to this site so that we can all become players but they just reject it...We spent the majority of the weekend playing basketball, video games, and smoked a lil bit. Fun, until I realize I should be partying and hanging out with chicks and guys that get chicks on the weekends. It gets really frustrating and just really depressing because I always have sh1t set up for the weekend and it never works out, so I just resort to hanging with my AFC friends.

This weekend I was supposed to hang with a chick on friday night, but she flaked, said she had to go see her mom in the hospital. Then, later that night I was going to go to this big dance thing with my supposed friend, but he flaked and never called me back. Then on saturday, 2 other supposed friends never called me back. You can see how it could get depressing?

See, I live far away from my school, about 20 minutes away, which means I also live about 20 minutes away from all my friends that go there, so it's very hard to just go hang out with them on a whim. Unlike my good 2 AFC friends, who live within walking distance. I think what I need to do at my school is get a popular 'best friend' so I can do more sh1t with people from my school. I've also said that I'm not going to hang with my 2 AFC friends AT ALL next weekend, Im going to force my way to hanging with people from my school, even if I have to call 500 times.

Bootcamp
Needless to say, I was pretty down, and didn't feel like doing anything with the boot camp, so I didn't do anything on friday or saturday. But today, I thought "If not now, when?" and I went to Shopko with super low confidence and said I wouldn't go home until I got atleast 1 convo. So, after a while I eventually got one with an old guy who was buying TV's. Then, while I was looking at shoes, a chick that worked there asked if I needed help. I said no, then walked away, then I cursed myself for not starting a convo, because it would have been so easy. So despite awkwardness, I went back and started one with her. It wasn't as good as it should have been, I can do better, because I know what to do and say, but it was still better than the one I had with the other chick who I saw working and went to my school. I'm slowly improving through experience though I think! Now that I'm actually getting SOME experience. I just need to keep practicing so my convo skills get to where they should be. It's like I know what to do, but until you actually do it ENOUGH, it's not going to work out, anyone else know what I mean?

Week 2 totals 4 convos

 

[SPEAK]

Hey Alex keep your head up kid. Today I came to a conclusion when I was driving and alone with my thoughts.

I realized that there will always be dry spells and times when you are hookin up with everyone.

This weekend I hooked up with a true HB10, the quarterback's ex girlfriend. The weekend before I hooked up with a hot ass girl that used to think I was a total a$$hole. I also got head in the showers at our public pool this weekend from a different girl.

I'm not saying this to brag or anything I'm just bringing it up because last month I had no girls that I was even talking too.... Now everything is falling into place. However I know thats not going to last.

So the conclusion I came up with is that since dry spells are inevitable, use them to make yourself better. When you feel like you aren't talking to any girls and have no real popular friends go out and improve yourself. Work on your body, your sense of humor, school, hobbies, or whatever. When you do that everything else will follow and when that happens enjoy it because you WILL face another dry spell.

Keep up the good work my man

Speak

 

[AlexLefty]

Week 2 - Day 12

Well as you can see, I went 5 days overtime with the bootcamp. But the good thing is, I finished week 2 today! I got 2 convos with 2 different guys that work at different stores and now I'm done with week 2 of the boot camp. Now, because of thanksgiving break, which starts tomorrow, I won't be starting Week 3 of the boot camp until next week. So there's the boot camp update.
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So, for the general update:
I got this chicks number like a week ago, and I called her twice on thursday the 18th to try and plan out a date for the weekend but she didn't answer. The next day she said she was sleeping when I called, she said she was guna call me back but forgot, and then she asked why I called. I was kinda pissed so I didn't really say much to her.

Then friday after school she bugged me again about why I called her on thursday, I told her I was guna she what she was doing on the weekend. So then she told me her grandma was in town and told me to call her if I wanted to hang. So keep this in mind, because against my better judgment, I called her again on saturday, more on that later.

As for the weekend, it went mediocre, but honestly, I don't care, because I still had fun for some reason, and my confidence is really high right now :cheer:. So on friday I chilled with like 3 popular guys from my group from school and we just went over to my friend Ericks house and played CoD for a while. Then I went to the school musical with my popular friend Evan, we both had to go to the musical for extra credit in our world civ class. After that I just went home. So friday was ok, but what I realized was that my popular friends and I didn't do much, it wasn't much different than hanging with my AFC friends, maybe it was just an off day but it's funny to think about.

On Saturday I ended up hanging with my 2 AFC friends, even though I said I wouldn't. I don't regret it though because we played basketball for like 4 hours. They're both really good at basketball and that's one of the only reasons I respect them. I also respect them simply because we've been friends for so long. I also called that one chick on Saturday aswell. Once before going to play basketball, and once after. It was against my better judgment because nothing was planned out, but my dad kinda convinced me to do it (it was really the first time I've talked to my dad about girls). She ended up not answering, again..B1tch. It's funny because she shows high interest levels at school. Idk. Ima keep perusing though until I know she is not interested.

So after basketball I called my one popular friend and planned on going over to his house, but my dad wouldn't let me use the car..so that's great. I learned today that he hung out with some other popular guys and that they did fun sh1t..thanks a lot dad lol. So I just ended up hanging with my AFC friends for the rest of the day.

Anyways, the weekend was ok, but I still feel like I should be doing more!

So I feel really good for some reason, and I'm going to make it last. But I think what I need to work on the most with friends is getting more respect. After all, you need to respect someone to like them. I feel like all my popular friends only mildly respect me. So to gain more respect I'm not going to talk as much, as in not saying so many random kind of annoying comments, from now on when I talk, every word I say will matter. I feel like the person who doesn't talk very much, but always has something GOOD to say when they do talk, will be respected more than the guy who always talks and says random sh1t. Sometimes less is more. Of course, I'm not going to extremes. Maybe cutting out a sentence here and there. I'm also just going to carry myself with more dignity. Instead of trying to force my way into a conversation, I'll go do something else, like walk around and meet new people, you know, do my OWN thing
What do you guys think?

And there's my wall of text

 

[UniKKatiL]

If you can talk to girls like no one else and socialize with people, and be the ****, be the real thing, be the Alpha male, the leader, the guy that makes **** happen on a boring Sunday then everyone else will look up to you. Even your popular friends. Why? Because they will realize you're better than them. But to me it seems that you want popular friends to be popular yourself, it seems as if you're striving to get them to respect you, and you want to ditch your AFC friends because they are boring. It seems like you need other popular people around you to have fun. But imagine if you were the guy that could talk to any girl on the street, and get laid easily, the guy that was the main center of attention, the guy that knew how to have fun then you wouldn't your popular friends. You would take your AFC friends out and show them how to have fun, and they would strive to be just like you. How do I know?

Back in 10th grade, I was AFC but my best friend, who I had been friends with since we were little kids, was the total ****, he would grab my hot maths teachers ass, who was married btw, and talk to every girl. He got laid all the time, and he was really good in soccer/football and boxing. Very atheltic. (I was myself but not good with girls) And all those ''popular guys'' strived to be friends with him and gave him respect. but did he care? No. He thought they were losers (and to this day I realize they are losers) He wanted to be friends with me even though I was AFC. One of the reasons I wasn't that social back in 10th grade was because I had problems with a skin disease called vitiligo. One day We went out talked to girls and that's when it all started for me. And you see it's a cruel world out there but I have always liked him, because he was one of the few people that wasn't friends with others for interests. He was REAL. I hate fake people. And I was never friends with him because of the way he was, it's just that we could talk about anything, and I think he realized that.

So yes, **** your popular friends dude, do your own thing. Also take boxing classes and bulk up a little.

And today I don't even care about girls. I go out to have fun, talk to random people etc and it's all fun.. girls are just a bonus. If you need girls to make you happy or other people then you got a problem.

And I've noticed the most popular guy is always the funny guy.

And one more tip: Do what the **** you wanna do, be free, never follow anyone, and do your own thing.

If you want to grab that girls ass then do it, don't be afraid to be rude, and don't be like everyone else.. be DIFFERENT and that's also when you will become popular.

 

[AlexLefty]

Thanks UniKKatiL for the much appreciated advice. I think I kind of realized what you were saying just this very day. Because all my friends and sh1t were talking in a circle, I joined in, then I was like, fvck this, why am I striving to join in the convo when I have no real desire to, am I just trying to impress people?

And as I said, I am going to gain respect by doing my Own thing, and do it with pride.

But I don't think I fully realized what I was saying. You really do put it all into perspective. Thanks dude, now I'm going to read your post again.

 

[Groovy]

Just a reminder: Trying to make others like you = AFC.

Don't seek approval of others. And don't let the opinions of others about yourself affect your self esteem.

They like you? Great. They don't? Okay. Either way your self esteem is high! You don't get depressed about it.

Make sure you aren't trying to validate your ego.

Make friends but don't seek approval, don't base your self esteem on how others think about you.

I'm not saying to be unfriendly or unsociable btw.

Just a reminder for you all! Peace. This is just my opinion you think about it and then you make a conclusion if you agree with me or not.

 

[AlexLefty]

So I'm going to start week 3 of the bootcamp tomorrow hopefully (If i have time to read all the stuff n sh1t)

Anyways, things have been going pretty good, thanksgiving break was not so bad, did my own thing and had fun doing it. What did you guys do for turkey day?

So I started keeping a daily journal yesterday, in addition to the boot camp journal, setting goals and stuff, I've found it really helps to have some goals set up, such as "improve conversational skills". So anyways, I was getting on the train today after school and I saw this hot chick a few rows up, and decided to sit across from her. I sat down and said 'hi'. She responded and I then proceed to call my dad to let him know i was on the train, and while i was on the phone I was thinking "I blew a convo opportunity with this chick, I should have talked to her earlier, oh well, if only I was on week 3 of the bootcamp I'd have motivation to talk to her.." (Basically it was all bullsh1t.) When I got off the phone though, something just came over me, I noticed she had a pierced lip, and I asked her if it was real and said I liked it, and the convo went on from there. It was probably the best convo I've had so far.

She was really interesting too, she said she lives in a foster home and that her foster parents always get mad at her because she has sex and does drugs lol. So then I found out she goes to raves, and as I was leaving I said we should go to the next rave together and for her to give me her number. She said she didn't have a cell so I gave her my number. I really am getting better though and I'm really proud for pulling out my balls and getting experience.

Although cold approaching a hot chick on the train may not sound like a huge deal, it is actually pretty big. Come to think of it, December 1st a year ago, I never would have had the balls to talk to a random hot girl. I also didn't have the same knowledge that I do now. I guess the point is that I feel like I have a lot of the necessary knowledge to be a DJ, but over the past year, I've realized knowledge doesn't mean sh1t if you don't have the balls to act upon your knowledge and use it. Getting in the field and getting experience is the second half of the battle. Meaning that all the knowledge in the world wont matter if you don't get out into the field. I'm really proud of myself that I'm now using my knowledge and actually getting experience. Talking to this girl on the train was probably like my 4th or 5th real cold approach, and I was hardly even nervous this time. I can feel it becoming easier and more natural. So trust me guys, once you start getting experience, it will become easier. After all, the first time is always the hardest, after the 1st, the rest come easy.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Bump.
Im still subscribed

 

[LearningSlowly]

Then friday after school she bugged me again about why I called her on thursday, I told her I was guna she what she was doing on the weekend. So then she told me her grandma was in town and told me to call her if I wanted to hang. So keep this in mind, because against my better judgment, I called her again on saturday, more on that later.

Mistake. If she has ANY excuse to flake, a flaker will use it.

When she told you that her grandma was in town, you shoulda thought "Okay, see ya next week" and not been so available.

Otherwise, you're doing great (I bet you some guys and girls already see you as the most popular kid in school. So don't waste that reputation by supplicating to the "popular" group.)

 

[AlexLefty]

Hahahaha WHAT THE ****?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

Totally forgot I ever wrote this!

Look at me using proper sentences and being all philosophical and emotional haha

Funny thing is, all those 'popular friends' are now my good friends, and becoming good friends was never really as hard as i thought. It's funny to see how much more grown up i am now (due to experience).

Like this was a blast from the past..I actually remember some of this stuff, but a lot of it i don't haha.

And it's funny to think how much anxiety had me by the balls, and how little it does now, comparatively.

Wow.