Hahaha, Boiler.
If you knew me you'd see why I think that "BALLS" comment is funny.
I think that you are missing something here.
She isn't initiating anything. I'm asking her out. I'm just not using the standard "Hey do you wanna go on a date with me line?" When you do that you are placing the ball in her court. You may have done the "bold" initiating but ultimately it is HER that is choosing YOU. She is choosing whether or not your plan is going to happen. You are placing her in control of your destiny.
In my scenario I already have plans to go do something amazing and I merely present an option for her to join me. I'm going regardless of her answer. This isn't done to avoid rejection although that's a nice bonus isn't it? It's done so that I'm always in control and she gets a glimpse at the interesting and fun life I'm leading. (with or without her)
