More women with panic attacks?

[ThisNThat]

Something I'm starting to notice lately is while I'm dating, I tend to encounter women
who have panic or anxiety attacks.

One woman I had dated...in the first month, she mentioned this after we had been intimate. Something about how her previous boyfriends, once they got what they wanted (sex)...they'd treat her like a 2nd class citizen. One of them was her previous ex-husband that she was married to for only a year when she was in college and 19. She's in her early 30s now.

Her last long term, live in boyfriend was the same. Though they were in a monogamous, cohabitating relationship, it was like she was the invisible woman until he started being nice to get his routine nookie.

She was basically treated as prostitute to these guys and not much else. No romance, no courtship. I think since her first marriage this impacted her and caused these panic attacks.

She was afraid, after we had been intimate...that I may wind up being these very same boyfriends. She was anticipating another shoe to fall.

Another woman I went out with mentioned she would get panic attacks as well, I didn't bother with another date after hearing that.

It seems panic attacks are minor though, but getting more and more common among women and can have an impact on relationships, yes?

Although they could make great girlfriends otherwise, is this just a typical flaw since no one's perfect?

 

[Infern0]

Panic attacks are not minor, they are a red flag for BPD and a whole host of other maladies you don't want to deal with.

Mentally and emotionally healthy people do not have panic attacks, don't mess with that.

 

[QuadDeuces]

Dude, you should NEVER believe a word chicks say about their exes. It's just projection of their own character on their exes.
Youre being manipulated big time into becoming her white knight captain save a hoe.

 

[sazc]

This is what I just read....
She continues to choose the same type of guy, over and over again.
Why?
Does she think "I'll change this one!!"?

What exactly is her goal in telling you this information? Unless she ended it with "If you want this to work, I need X, Y and Z to not feel this way" WHY would she tell you that? So you can utilize your telepathic abilities and understand exactly what to do, say and how to treat her so she doesn't feel this way?

So you've managed to bang a chick who doesn't know how to screen very well and also has no clue on how to communicate her needs in a relationship. JFYI

Lol, you guys are funny about jumping to your BPD conclusions. No one can know if she will unroll herself ito being a BPD but I can say with certainty that she doesn't seem to know how to express her needs, and people who don't know how to communicate/express their needs tend to let it all build up inside of themselves, causing them to feel frustrated and resentment, and eventually, typically, 'let it blow'. Someone who eventually blows up doesnt necessarily have borderline personality disorder (tho it looks that way) they just dont know how to manage their feelings well, if at all.

Anywhoo, just an FYI.

 

[Infern0]

1. This is what I just read....
She continues to choose the same type of guy, over and over again.

2. Lol, you guys are funny about jumping to your BPD conclusions.

1. Or, SHE is the same in every relationship and projects that onto all these guys

2. Panic attacks are common in BPD and other disorders, "normal" people don't have them, that's a fact. There is nothing "funny" about it.

 

[sazc]

1. Or, SHE is the same in every relationship and projects that onto all these guys

2. Panic attacks are common in BPD and other disorders, "normal" people don't have them, that's a fact. There is nothing "funny" about it.

what's funny is that BPD is always the immediate 'conclusion'/solution on these boards. It's a catch all here.
A person is definitely dealing with something stressful in their lives if panic attacks are their norm. You dont want to get involved in that kind of a mess.

for sure, there's something about her that keeps 'finding' these same relationships, regardless of who is at 'fault'. Maybe she's just super insecure?

essentially what you have here is a person that is probably non introspective about herself, her choices and her patterns. that's likely to lead to a whole host of other issues. I assume a person who is going to always be the victim, choose behavior that are self serving at other peoples expense and just generally have blinders on when it comes to how they exist in the world and how it affects others.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

what's funny is that BPD is always the immediate 'conclusion'/solution on these boards. It's a catch all here.
A person is definitely dealing with something stressful in their lives if panic attacks are their norm. You dont want to get involved in that kind of a mess.

for sure, there's something about her that keeps 'finding' these same relationships, regardless of who is at 'fault'. Maybe she's just super insecure?

essentially what you have here is a person that is probably non introspective about herself, her choices and her patterns. that's likely to lead to a whole host of other issues. I assume a person who is going to always be the victim, choose behavior that are self serving at other peoples expense and just generally have blinders on when it comes to how they exist in the world and how it affects others.

They lie so much and utilize entitlement so often it's stressful and if there is fear of the house of cards tumbling they will have anxiety. People often tell them what they need to hear so while it inflates there ego it leads to imbalance.

 

[sazc]

people who tell you they have issues....all I hear is "let me into your life so I can bring you some drama"
just say NO

 

[El Payaso]

That's what messed up women do. They tarnish their ex in front of you to gain your sympathy and trigger the nice guy/white knight in you to strive to be the "different one". Don't fall for it. In fact, tune it out.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

My 1st live in gf had panic attacks. She was 18/19, I was just a kid at 20 I had no clue what the fvck she was talking about! At one point I think I was laughing at her. It was weird she was sitting/laying on my stairs all cramped up & couldn't move. She wanted me to call an ambulance but I was like l hell no you are fine. You are not bleeding, yeah I was dikc back then too.

No google back then, so I used yahoo. I just made her drink some water and take depth breaths. The second time it happened I think she did call an ambulance, long time ago I don't remember.

I think EVERY woman I've met has admitted to some form of minor social anxiety. They enjoy being social but get anxiety. It's just blah blah talk, they think we will have some form of empathy for them? I don't know.

I had a panick attack a couple years ago. It was triggered by drinking a Monster when I was hungover. NEVER DO THIS TRUST ME!
I was grocery shopping at the time too. It was not fun, luckily only lasted 10mins. I managed to gain my composure and relax so I could finish shopping.

 

[ThisNThat]

Wanted to go back to this one. I know of a married woman that thanks her husband on Facebook for tolerating her anxiety related issues. Apparently, he's learning to live with it?