More Than One Girlfriend

[The Message Boy]

Okay guys, I guess this is a good problem to have but I don't know lol.

I have went from just "talking" and "dating" about 9 girls that I was really close to, to now being in serious relationships with 4 of those girls. The others we are still cool but it's not going to be like a close relationship or anything.

My whole thing is that after we do it, I still get that feeling like I don't want to be around her lol. And I feel bad because she would beg for me to stay the night or something and I usually have to make up an excuse to get away lol.

How do you guys handle more than one serious relationship? If I wanted to get married to some pretty good chicks, I could choose either one of these four chicks.

I would say they are 6-7's, some guys might say they are 8's but, I say their looks, internal value, being smart, etc. is the total package.

We talk about everything, from politics, business, school. I love school and they do too lol.

I don't know, I dont want to hurt anyone of them though, I told them that I have stopping talking to other girls but obviously I haven't yet.

 

[squirrels]

My whole thing is that after we do it, I still get that feeling like I don't want to be around her lol. And I feel bad because she would beg for me to stay the night or something and I usually have to make up an excuse to get away lol.

Oh, I know THIS feeling.

Honestly, if you still want to "get away from her" at the end of the night, then you DON'T want to be exclusive with/married to any of these women.

You can be brutally honest with them...they will either leave you or they will ignore you and continue to try to force commitment on you.

So best you can do is just enjoy it while you can, and keep your options open, until you find one that you CAN stand being with past the end of the night. If they leave, they leave. If they stay, they stay. It's not your responsibility to save women from relationships that aren't "what they want".

That's the dating-game, man. What're you gonna do? If you don't want to hurt women, don't date.

I gave it up for 2 years because I got tired of breaking women's hearts, of having drama creep into every "relationship" I attempted because women had all these ulterior motives and self-worth disillusions and other sh*T in their heads. As much as I tried to "break them free", it was like they WANTED to create problems for themselves, and the fact that I wouldn't support them in the creation of those problems drove them nuts.

Women are all in a hurry to "get monogamous" because they base their self-worth off of it. If all their friends have steady boyfriends/husbands and THEY don't, it's automatically, "What's wrong with me??"

I swear, it's so damned high-school.

Honestly, if I were you, I would date them until they start pulling that "where is this going", want-to-stay-the-night crap, then cut them loose and move on to the next one. Be a serial dater, if that's what it takes. Get your affection from ever-changing faces until you find the one that likes you for YOU, instead of just liking you because you've got a pen!s and can validate her sense of self-worth. You'll know when you find her...because you won't WANT her to leave when the night is over.

That's what my parents told me...they "knew" when the night was over and neither one of them wanted to go their separate ways that they were right for each other. They've been married 35 years, I think it is now.

 

[dark god]

Ur in a serious relationship with 4 chicks? when do u find the time to sleep?
seriously dude, how do have 4 girlfriends and hide them from each other? Im not trying to doubt u but..c'mon man seriously?

 

[The Message Boy]

Thanks for the replies guys. Yes, I'm still trying to manage the four relationships. See I don't stay in the same city as NEITHER of them and I already put rules down early in our normal "friendship" days where I don't tolerate anybody just popping up over my apartment.

I try to spend time at their house for the most part but I've done both.

They previously were aware that I was talking to more than one girl but now that I'm getting serious, they think I've stopped.

Lol, I guess I'm trying to make this manageable. To tell you the truth, I can't let anyone of them go. I like all of them, each one brings a different vibe to my life.

Ahhh, I love women

 

[jophil28]

Thanks for the replies guys. Yes, I'm still trying to manage the four relationships. See I don't stay in the same city as NEITHER of them and I already put rules down early in our normal "friendship" days where I don't tolerate anybody just popping up over my apartment.

I try to spend time at their house for the most part but I've done both.

They previously were aware that I was talking to more than one girl but now that I'm getting serious, they think I've stopped.

Lol, I guess I'm trying to make this manageable. To tell you the truth, I can't let anyone of them go. I like all of them, each one brings a different vibe to my life.

Ahhh, I love women

Do you "love" them enough to be open and honest with each one about the existence of the others?

 

[Jean Valjean]

dude


wish I had your problem


(sometimes not good though if you piddle you life away chasing after tail all the time 9 is alot)

 

[Poonani Maker]

I have a problem with Using a woman who worships me to get other women to want me. I don't want to lead her on, yet I Need her to show other girls, I got options. I feel bad about it, and if she really knew my motives, then I'd have to watch out for some trouble coming around the corner. Some women are like Indians, and they will come at you with a tomahawk to scalp your ass at 2 a.m. in the morning, drunk and embarrassing you in front of your neighbors.

Women have the luxury of using guys and not reaping the whirlwind like we do.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Message Boy,
You have a very exciting and fulfilling life,be prepared to lose not one of them but two of them at a time,thats been my experience...the moral always keep a few in the wings...Try not to sleep over but no excuses good solid reasons,I have a Dog whose needs always come first ("You don't want him to starve,bark,crap on the carpet do you")excuses imply that you should be performing for her...another good habit is to always go to her place to perform the dirty deed,you don't want her turning up unnanounced do you?Having a few other interests will maintain the sexual tension keep her interested in you,but always have reasons,good ones,why she cannot have too much of you,Job,Hobbies,friends,hospital visiting you can invent stories about your deeds that will involve her....just remember,once they have you in the net they just lose interest,having a few on the side gives you the confidence to indulge in brinksmanship.

 

[Solomon]

If you ready to settle down then do that, Karma is a biitch when it comes to how you treat other people, trust me on that, I know!

 

[The Message Boy]

Lol yeah guys I got to update my journals here. I didn't know if folks wanted to read them or not lol.

Okay in relation to this one here, let me ask you guys some questions and get some suggestions.

Okay so these four girls in particular we've ****ed many times and one of these girls I'm actually considering marrying. I mean, she's like very, idk, mature and quality to me. Just my overall taste, even though she pisses me off because she tries to SAVE THE WORLD and lets her family run over her. Her god damn cousin (18 or 19 year old) she let stay in her house and he hit her and put sitches in her face. The god damn guy is still gone and no one knows where he is.

But these girls all have something special:

Girl A: I would marry, she seems to be from a more professional stand point someone I could talk to about everything from investing, to politics, to everything. My PROBLEM with her is that we dont get to spend much time together because the chick is always running. She works 3rd shift, goes to school during the day, and she's a single mother. Now, I know the single mother thing is a red flag but her "baby's father" and her was going to get married before it didn't work out. He's some idiot in the army lol.


Girl B: Is like a chick I would hae dated in high school, it's not immature about her, it's just like that old school "i luv you, hung up, no you hung up" type of stuff. I don't think she's really like someone I could marry because, idk, we are just not there there, like, she's not that type I guess. BUT, unlike Girl A, she's ALWAYS there for me and not always running.

Girl C and Girl D: These two we are starting to get close. I've been talking to Girl C for awhile and it's just something lik, drop dead sexy about her to me. Girl D is "ok", I don't really like her that much as she gets on my nerves? But, idk.


I got a pretty good social circle and it's really nothing for me to meet new chicks. But these four chicks aren't going to do it for me lol. Girl A and Girl B are my HEART right now but Girl a is like NEVER ****ing there and Girl B is always there but she just....idk.


I'm about to do a huge sarging session, omg, guys I very rarely get rejected. I swear, MOST of the time the girls are laughing and flirting back with me and I'm like a total ****ing ****-head most of the time! I mean, I don't really have a "style" or techniques or anything like that, I really just enjoy meeting women and I just get wrapped up and let whatever flow out. Lol, I will tell you that 90% of the conversation is sexual and they seem to love it.


I want a girl like Girl A but with Girl B's attention towards me. Girl B is like ALWAYS there, Girl A is like NEVER there lol, but Girl A has qualities that make me want to marry her, but I can't marry no chick that's not there.

And I've cussed Girl A out MANY TIMES. Many, because I ****ing tell her that you need to call me more than once a god damn week or some ****. But I do realize that she's working but, idk, I'm not going to move in on her all serious like that.


One thing I can tell you though, I love me some women boy.

 

[radiodude]

Message-

Good numbers. I think I had maybe 5 at a time tops when I was active in my earlier years.

Yes, this is the dating game and if you're going to participate, you're going to have to be willing to hurt a girl's feelings now and then.

Example: In college, when I was balancing 5, I was hanging out at one's house one night, we had alot of classes togeather so I was over there studying and afterward we had some sex. As we were basking in our afterglow my phone rang and it was another one I had went out with that Friday before. I answered and talked for a few minutes.

During our conversation I blew it and whispered something to the other one laying next to me and the one on the phone heard it and flew off the handle at me saying how it didn't make her feel special that I was seeing other girls even though we WEREN'T exclusive.

She was hurt and told me she didn't want to talk again and even got emotional before she hung up. I felt bad....truly. But we weren't exclusive and had only been out togeather two or three times and quite honestly there wan't anything overly special about her in terms of what I would have needed for an LTR anyway. Not that I even WANTED an LTR to begin with.

The funniest part is that the girl who I was with during the conversation asked if she had "gotten me in trouble" when I got off the phone afterward. LOL!! She didn't care and was cool about it.

 

[old married dude]

Some words of advice...if they don't know about each other already, make sure to cover your a$$.

I enjoyed doing what you're doing in my younger days until I got sloppy & someone got very jealous. She decided to get revenge by vandalizing my new Mitsubishi 3000GT in the same manner as that Carrie Underwood song. After that, I said never again. :nono:

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

She decided to get revenge by vandalizing my new Mitsubishi 3000GT in the same manner as that Carrie Underwood song. After that, I said never again. :nono:

So essentially your monogamy is the result of extortion.

Have fun with that.

 

[Da Realist]

I don't see how you can have a serious relationship with more than woman. First, everything is good in the beginning. You can have fun til they reach the point where they want to marry you. That's when it gets serious and they pout and whine. That brings me to my second point: you ever had one woman keep up mess with you? Imagine that times 4.

But I'm not saying all this to disuade you from it, but I know how much of a pain it can be. I had to remember names, dates, schedules, stories, etc. I just said forget it when I found one I wanted to stay around. If it works for you though, I say go for it. Extra points if you can tell them all about each other and make it so they're arguing over what to make you for breakfast in the morning.

 

[The Message Boy]

Lol I need to update this. I've actually began a sarging session since last week in my "social areas" and I'm just racking up chicks right now lol.

I don't know, I feel as though I got some things to make up for since in high school I really didn't get to be the "guy" I wanted to be. So I guess I just need to get my rocks off for a minute.

But you know what's funny? I don't feel like a player or something like that, I feel more like an overall "loving" guy.

Like, I'm not just doing it to get in her pants and leave, I'm actually geninunely interested in every girl I meet lol. I want to keep them all around as friends and freak partners.

 

[old married dude]

So essentially your monogamy is the result of extortion.

Have fun with that.

:crackup: Nah, wasn't my wife that did that & if so we would no longer be married.

It was some batsh1t crazy chick from college, she ended up in jail for assaulting some dude not too long after she effed up my car.

 

[Zunder]

I don't know, I dont want to hurt anyone of them though, I told them that I have stopping talking to other girls but obviously I haven't yet.

Oh diddims, you don't want to "hurt anyone".
Are you 26 or 16? You sound like a f-king twaat, mate.