Wow, this LTR stuff can be really awesome, and really stressful at the same time. I've been in a serious relationship with this chick for almost 2 months now. It has been really great, and I enjoy every second we get to spend together. This is my 2nd LTR, btw.
One thing that I think that is important in an LTR is control. I don't mean controlling the other persons actions, I mean who is the one in control of the relationship. I think that is is good to share control, but I think the man needs to have more control, although the p-tang usually has it's own way of controlling things.
Sometimes, in fact, a good portion of the time, I don't feel like I have any control over whats going on in the relationship. I am a very go-with-the-flow type person. I usually just have fun with my friends, and I don't make demands about where we have to go or what we have to do, as long as everyone in the group is having fun. Now, with that being said, my g/f is the opposite. She likes to be the center of attention, and she is the one in her group of friends who plans everything, and sorta leads them.
So anyway, she cooked me dinner last night complete with candles and music. She told me that I'm the first guy she has ever cooked for. She said in her past relationships, she told the guy he could make it himself. She always makes me sandwhichs and stuff like that. I thought that was nice of her, and I think it says a lot about our relationship. She tells me I can go hang out with my friends whenever I want, and even said she wouldn't get mad if I went to a strip club, haha. The funny thing is, everytime we are apart, all I can think about is her. Somehow I feel like I need to mask these feelings, b/c I don't want her to know, for fear that she will lose interest with me not being a challenge anymore. I know I was a challege at first, b/c I didn't call her often, and sometimes she would txt msg me and I wouldn't reply.
I guess I am just asking for any type of LTR advice you guys can give me. I've found a really good girl that I'm extremely physically and mentally attracted to, and I don't want to lose her. My attraction towards her makes me want to do everything for her, ya know. I mean, like...I just want to do anything I can for her, but I know that would not work out, b/c smothering someone is not good. I guess I just want to find that middle ground where I can do the nice things I want to for her, and at the same time, keep her IL up.
Any advice is much appreciated!
One thing that I think that is important in an LTR is control. I don't mean controlling the other persons actions, I mean who is the one in control of the relationship. I think that is is good to share control, but I think the man needs to have more control, although the p-tang usually has it's own way of controlling things.
Sometimes, in fact, a good portion of the time, I don't feel like I have any control over whats going on in the relationship. I am a very go-with-the-flow type person. I usually just have fun with my friends, and I don't make demands about where we have to go or what we have to do, as long as everyone in the group is having fun. Now, with that being said, my g/f is the opposite. She likes to be the center of attention, and she is the one in her group of friends who plans everything, and sorta leads them.
So anyway, she cooked me dinner last night complete with candles and music. She told me that I'm the first guy she has ever cooked for. She said in her past relationships, she told the guy he could make it himself. She always makes me sandwhichs and stuff like that. I thought that was nice of her, and I think it says a lot about our relationship. She tells me I can go hang out with my friends whenever I want, and even said she wouldn't get mad if I went to a strip club, haha. The funny thing is, everytime we are apart, all I can think about is her. Somehow I feel like I need to mask these feelings, b/c I don't want her to know, for fear that she will lose interest with me not being a challenge anymore. I know I was a challege at first, b/c I didn't call her often, and sometimes she would txt msg me and I wouldn't reply.
I guess I am just asking for any type of LTR advice you guys can give me. I've found a really good girl that I'm extremely physically and mentally attracted to, and I don't want to lose her. My attraction towards her makes me want to do everything for her, ya know. I mean, like...I just want to do anything I can for her, but I know that would not work out, b/c smothering someone is not good. I guess I just want to find that middle ground where I can do the nice things I want to for her, and at the same time, keep her IL up.
Any advice is much appreciated!
