More good profile examples Please

[ragwood]

I've been searching this site and the rest of the net for online dating advice. I find good general info, but examples are pretty rare. Does anyone have links to a good profile? Any first sent messages and follow up convo that worked?

I just started on okcupid. I'm not expecting anything because I'm aware of what guys are up against, but at the same time I always hear that good online game will reap results so I want to at least try it for a little while.
I looked online and copied verbatim a supposedly "good" profile, that didn't give away anything specific but conveyed a general attitude. Then in the interests part I say what music, movies, books, interests I'm legitimitely into.

Out of 25 messeges so far I have no responses. I sent out 15 yesterday that had interesting titles no "hey" etc. that made statements about specific things from her profile that I considered original (that other guys might not talk about) and received no responses.

Then today I tried some advice I read about on these forums and started emails with the title "bad news..." and wrote the line about the guy who just sent you an email is married. I did about 10 of those with an additional question related to her profile...and no responses and you know the quality of women are about 5 or 6 in real life.

I did recive one response from a 4 or 5 girl who was really concerned over "what guy I was talking about that was married" I never ackknowledged it and instead made a statement and question about her profile each time she asked.
I'm a good looking guy, 6 feet tall, caucasian, athletic body, I could lose about 15 pounds to be in top shape.

 

[Wilko]

Ragwood, I'll send you a PM with a slightly edited version of my own profile, it's doing more than OK for me right now. Some of it's not going to be applicable for you, I think it would be a great idea if you worked over the top of it, changed the bits you need to (while keeping it interesting, smart and funny) and PM'd me back a copy. We can take it from there.

Actually this "profile coaching" is something I could really get into. I'm throwing it out there, if there's any other guys who'd like a hand reworking their profile, please PM me.

Your research puts you ahead of the game to start with, that's good. It does takes time mate; time for the girls to reply, time to get enough plates spinning, time to hook "dates" up with everyone's competing shcedules. My experience is that it can take up to a month for things to hit "critical mass", then, hopefully, you're inundated with "dates", kiss-closes, f^k-closes.

I've seen the "bad news" spiel you're talking about and I'm not overly surprised about the indifferent response it got. I've also seen some girls use a variation of it.

Anyway, PM on it's way.

 

[The Piano Master]

I dont know, the first few things that came up from a google search seemed to be pretty good.

 

[runner83]

Paste a copy of your profile here, so it can be reviewed.

Otherwise, kind of hard to offer any advice.

I did get some success in the past with my profile, but in the end, ditched it since real life is a much more efficient way to do it, depending of course on where you live.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

When I was on Plenty of Fish I didn't even read profiles. No time for that. Why? Because I waited for a RESPONSE first. Why would I go insane reading all that same old same old nonsense and making a "perfect" profile for myself, crafting "original" responses to any woman/girl who most likely changes their mind constantly, put her profile up after a breakup, or had her monthly 'friend' visit her (on the rag) when she did it? I'd much rather make a few clever, funny, wise assed spam mails and bang them out like an A.D.D afflicted chimp! Then AFTER I read her response I'd see how to craft a response and take it in a light hearted or different approach rather than just talk about the normal crap we all "like". Who doesn't "like to laugh", who doesn't "like" vacation?


I looked at the pictures and went against the rules and put pictures of me with good looking women in them. Online dating advice will say that's 'bad' but believe me women see you with other women and both or all of you smiling you don't seem like a loner in pictures with no options who's like the rest of the online Romeos. It will get them to respond that you're a 'player' but subconsciously they like a challenge and come off as not NEEDING them. You have to not care. Online dating is what it is. Take it like that and you won't get disillusioned.

Send titles like: Does your boyfriend know you have an OkCupid account?

Body: I'll bet the poor guy is at home crying over you and you're on OkCupid looking to upgrade! Tsk! Tsk! Woman. You aren't fooling the intelligent people on here! You're bad!

or "You need to change your shampoo!"

Body: Your hair looks great with that style but either you need to change your shampoo or my computer screen is shot! Try Herbal Essence. It'll smell great for your next date!

Or: "I DIDN'T read your profile!"

Body: Yes, I said I DIDN'T read your profile! I saw your picture and thought I'd bang out my brief little email because I thought you were a lil cutie! Don't like it Ms."blue,brown etc." eyes, too bad! Now DEAL with it woman!

You've got to spam alot, tweak the emails, and think of different creative spam messages to get responses and see if they either have a sense of humor off the bat or not by their reply. They will reply. I had 25 in two days and many more previously. I still talk to a few but there's too many women I meet in real life to worry about online nonsense. Just have fun with it and don't take it too seriously or your ego will take a beating. Everyone is "hot" and a "princess" online. If you met alot of them in real life you probably would think different and they wouldn't have such a shield up.


Mostly everyone's profile is the same old nonsense.

 

[Bryce556]

maybe somone could look at my profile, im not having anyluck. and i comment on somtime on the chicks profile and hardley get any messages back. I hvae more luck in RL

 

[Hakuna]

Once you have an interesting profile yourself, I think it'd just be better to send out an interesting but generic message to a HUGE mass of people. Then you can game all the ones that respond. I just think it would be way more efficient than trying to craft a different message for every single woman. Online dating more than anything is a numbers game.