Mixed Signals

[liferuiner]

I need advice on something...Met this young girl (18 years old),exchanged numbers,started flirting by texting..last week she called me and we went to a club with friends.We danced all night,strong Kino,she was all over me so I decided to isolate her and told her we'll go for a walk and then I'll drive her home..she was not drunk so I decided to make my move and as we sat alone I leaned to kiss her,but she backed off with a scared face and she started rumbling "I'm so sorry,but I have a BF that lives out of town and I like him very much,sorry we should be just friends,I'm so sorry.." I didn't react just smiled and drove her home.



Next day she calls me and pretends nothing happens,2 days later I recieve a message from her "You call no more,you text no more bla bla..".Later that day I called her and asked her out and she agreed.Last night we went out,everything was perfect till the moment she casually mentioned her BF that works in another town,then she mentioned her ex and an another ex..ignored again..later the night I took her home after her brief hesitation,she played my piano and about and hour later she said she has to get up early and I drove her home again,but I decided not to try to kiss her...



I'm confused,she knows my intentions after the kiss close rejection,but she doesn't try to avoid me,but initiates contact and pretends it has not happened..then in the middle of the date she mentioned that BF again and the continues flirting..not sure if she is confused and feels quilty for being into me because of her BF..or I am thrown deep in the Friend Zone..advices ?

 

[nismo-4]

She's stringing you along like a friend (emotional tampon beta) don't you see that?

Women who are interested in you won't confuse you. Would she bring up a boyfriend if she were talking to Channing Tatum? I think not. Alas, mixed signals means little to no interest. You should've bailed when she just wanted to be friends (things ain't getting sexual for you.)

To break down this sickening case:

I need advice on something...Met this young girl (18 years old),exchanged numbers,started flirting by texting..last week she called me and we went to a club with friends.We danced all night,strong Kino,she was all over me so I decided to isolate her and told her we'll go for a walk and then I'll drive her home..she was not drunk so I decided to make my move and as we sat alone I leaned to kiss her,but she backed off with a scared face and she started rumbling "I'm so sorry,but I have a BF that lives out of town and I like him very much,sorry we should be just friends,I'm so sorry.." I didn't react just smiled and drove her home.

She thought you weren't gonna make a move. ALWAYS call a woman's bluff. I would've dropped her ass right then and there. I also would've been sexual from the get-go.

Next day she calls me and pretends nothing happens,2 days later I recieve a message from her "You call no more,you text no more bla bla..".Later that day I called her and asked her out and she agreed.Last night we went out,everything was perfect till the moment she casually mentioned her BF that works in another town,then she mentioned her ex and an another ex..ignored again..later the night I took her home after her brief hesitation,she played my piano and about and hour later she said she has to get up early and I drove her home again,but I decided not to try to kiss her...


She just wants you as an emotional tampon. The guy who listens to her cry about all her exes. BUT SHE'S SEXING THEM ALL MOTHERF**KER, JUST NOT YOU! The rewards of being a nice guy are not fun, are they? When she texted you, why the hell did you respond in the first place?

I'm confused,she knows my intentions after the kiss close rejection,but she doesn't try to avoid me,but initiates contact and pretends it has not happened..then in the middle of the date she mentioned that BF again and the continues flirting..not sure if she is confused and feels quilty for being into me because of her BF..or I am thrown deep in the Friend Zone..advices ?

You were in the friendzone LONG ago. Her BF is better than you. Sorry.

Read between the lines. Now read your crimes.

You are guilty of being an orbiter, being an emotional tampon, and accepting friendzone invites. Just pay your fine of 2 blue balls and drop her ass. And spin more plates while you're at it.

Case closed. Exit the courtroom.

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

Her boyfriend is out of town, so she cannot get male attention from him.

She's using you as a surrogate for that attention.

She wants, in her mind, to stay loyal to her BF, though it's not likely many guys would consider their GF texting other guys and going out with them as being loyal.

Anyway, she's shown/told you that she's not interested in you sexually yet she knows you are AND she continues to contact you to go out. You are not on her roster of romantic interests.

Walk away if you can't "just be friends", which is clearly not what you want.

Funny thing about these chicks, though. If you told her off that she was leading you on when you've made your intentions known, they will be like, "Wha wha wha??? Can't a girl just be friends with a guy? Why is she always a "*****" if she just wants to hang out with a guy?" Well, once might be okay, but if a guy tries to go for a kiss and gets rejects but she continues to want to have is company, she should know better (and likely does).

Anyway, she's just using you for male attention.

Your other option here is to use her as a pivot/social proof. Hit on her friends and/or go out to clubs with her and use her presence as a stamp of female approval when you game other women.

 

[Uncharted]

So you got rejected when trying to kiss her - she had a boyfriend. And then you asked that chick to hang out??

Your chance at that point was already zero. Find a single girl! If she wanted to be with you she would have not mentioned the bf, kissed you, and then probably broken up with him at some point so she could date you.

Like everyone is saying, she just wants attention. She does not want to sleep with you. I'm sure it's tough to hear because it seems like she does like you, but she is an attention wh0re. She might seem like a nice, sweet girl but she is abusing you for her own attention needs.

I also agree that this is not the type of girl you want to be with anyway. She thinks this behavior is OK when she has a boyfriend? That means if you started dating she would be texting, flirting with, and hanging out with other guys. Is that the kind of girl you want?