I've dated and played ALOT, but it's been years since I've ran into this personality and I'm a little taken back.
Started talking to a girl while I was in Afghanistan, but "I" cut communication with her when I felt it was pointless with me having 5 months left. I didn't want to fall in the friend zone, so I cut things off in a good way.
I went completely NC and within 3 months she started checking in on me about once a month. We were friends on FB and so I also realized she would know when I got back to the States. When I got home I was actually seeing another girl and so for 6 weeks after getting home I did not contact her.
Right after Xmas I broke up with the other girl and hit up the first one. The next night we went out for drinks.
While I was deployed I could sense the friend zone approaching with her response times, so on this date I simply went in with the approach that I was going to dive and that this was a formality of tying up a loose end from two months of communication a year ago. I was fully expecting to go home after a couple hours.
The night started and the conversation was great and without labor. She's a 7.5-8 and looking really good, smelling good, educated, articulate...the whole package. I show up dressed casual sharp, employing all the little dress tricks because I know women look at details. If you know Scottsdale women (Arizona) or Cherry Creek women (Denver), then you know what I'm talking about. I'm sporting black Kenneth Cole shoes, black Ralph Lauren Purple Label sweater, nice faded jeans, and beneath the sweater is a conservative, yet sharp silver Tag watch that's only exposed if I reach for something.
I mention all the above because I noticed she was looking at EVERYTHING. I caught her even looking at my nails/hands while were were talking...and I was surprised because I've never actually caught a women overtly looking as if she was looking for dirt or unkept nails, but this is how it appeared. When I reached for something at the table she looked right at my damn watch. So all the things "I thought" would be details women looked at...I actually witnessed her doing.
After 4 hours of drinking wine and laughing I had a long drive ahead of me and prepared to make the trip home. She asked me if I was okay to drive and I was adamant that I would be fine, that I just needed to stop and grab a bottle of water on the way out. She then states that she has wine, and water, and more good conversation at her place. I didn't fight it...we go back to her place.
We get to her place and conversation continues and she ends up initiating a kiss. The only reason I did not, and I usually do, is because I never got the signs of interest from her until she invited me back to her place. In this particular case she beat me to the punch. I took it from here and the rest of the night we had sex. I went home the next morning around 6am (work).
Late afternoon the next day I sent her a simple short text saying I had a good time. She responded and I mentioned that we should get together next week before I go away for a couple weeks and she agreed. She then opens up an opportunity for a couple days later, I bite and we have another date.
The day before the date, she cancels, giving me what appears to be a legit reason. I respond by telling her to let me know whenever she's free down the road and we'll play it by ear. She then mentions a specific date she'll probably be free (co-parenting obligations). I simply said, okay, well lets see what happens closer to that date.
Here's what's confusing. Some of her actions show medium interest, but some do not. Up until she invited me back to her place I could not have told you she liked me even a little beyond "hey tonight was fun". She'll initiate contact with me and responds to all mine, but convo's are a little lame. She won't respond to ANY compliment, but will address anything else in the comment. She seemed to get super excited when I broke out a tune on her piano (at her place) and that was the most expression I'd ever got out of her. She's almost...almost expressionless otherwise.
Last bit: She didn't grow up with her mother or father, and has no relationship with either. Appearance wise, she's very classy and does not seem like the type who would sleep with someone the first night, actually a little snobby. My response was to act indifferent and just have fun.
She's nice and cordial, but her vibe doesn't match her actions (not sure how else to put it). Today I was going to ignore her, but by 4pm she hit me up to see what I was doing. The last girl I was with, and most of them tend to express pretty quick what they think or feel, but this one...nada. I figured if she was 100% not into it she would just disappear, but she's not.
Either way, I'm trying to decide if I should quietly next her. Her initiating sex is usually a bad sign as far as relationship potential goes so...
Started talking to a girl while I was in Afghanistan, but "I" cut communication with her when I felt it was pointless with me having 5 months left. I didn't want to fall in the friend zone, so I cut things off in a good way.
I went completely NC and within 3 months she started checking in on me about once a month. We were friends on FB and so I also realized she would know when I got back to the States. When I got home I was actually seeing another girl and so for 6 weeks after getting home I did not contact her.
Right after Xmas I broke up with the other girl and hit up the first one. The next night we went out for drinks.
While I was deployed I could sense the friend zone approaching with her response times, so on this date I simply went in with the approach that I was going to dive and that this was a formality of tying up a loose end from two months of communication a year ago. I was fully expecting to go home after a couple hours.
The night started and the conversation was great and without labor. She's a 7.5-8 and looking really good, smelling good, educated, articulate...the whole package. I show up dressed casual sharp, employing all the little dress tricks because I know women look at details. If you know Scottsdale women (Arizona) or Cherry Creek women (Denver), then you know what I'm talking about. I'm sporting black Kenneth Cole shoes, black Ralph Lauren Purple Label sweater, nice faded jeans, and beneath the sweater is a conservative, yet sharp silver Tag watch that's only exposed if I reach for something.
I mention all the above because I noticed she was looking at EVERYTHING. I caught her even looking at my nails/hands while were were talking...and I was surprised because I've never actually caught a women overtly looking as if she was looking for dirt or unkept nails, but this is how it appeared. When I reached for something at the table she looked right at my damn watch. So all the things "I thought" would be details women looked at...I actually witnessed her doing.
After 4 hours of drinking wine and laughing I had a long drive ahead of me and prepared to make the trip home. She asked me if I was okay to drive and I was adamant that I would be fine, that I just needed to stop and grab a bottle of water on the way out. She then states that she has wine, and water, and more good conversation at her place. I didn't fight it...we go back to her place.
We get to her place and conversation continues and she ends up initiating a kiss. The only reason I did not, and I usually do, is because I never got the signs of interest from her until she invited me back to her place. In this particular case she beat me to the punch. I took it from here and the rest of the night we had sex. I went home the next morning around 6am (work).
Late afternoon the next day I sent her a simple short text saying I had a good time. She responded and I mentioned that we should get together next week before I go away for a couple weeks and she agreed. She then opens up an opportunity for a couple days later, I bite and we have another date.
The day before the date, she cancels, giving me what appears to be a legit reason. I respond by telling her to let me know whenever she's free down the road and we'll play it by ear. She then mentions a specific date she'll probably be free (co-parenting obligations). I simply said, okay, well lets see what happens closer to that date.
Here's what's confusing. Some of her actions show medium interest, but some do not. Up until she invited me back to her place I could not have told you she liked me even a little beyond "hey tonight was fun". She'll initiate contact with me and responds to all mine, but convo's are a little lame. She won't respond to ANY compliment, but will address anything else in the comment. She seemed to get super excited when I broke out a tune on her piano (at her place) and that was the most expression I'd ever got out of her. She's almost...almost expressionless otherwise.
Last bit: She didn't grow up with her mother or father, and has no relationship with either. Appearance wise, she's very classy and does not seem like the type who would sleep with someone the first night, actually a little snobby. My response was to act indifferent and just have fun.
She's nice and cordial, but her vibe doesn't match her actions (not sure how else to put it). Today I was going to ignore her, but by 4pm she hit me up to see what I was doing. The last girl I was with, and most of them tend to express pretty quick what they think or feel, but this one...nada. I figured if she was 100% not into it she would just disappear, but she's not.
Either way, I'm trying to decide if I should quietly next her. Her initiating sex is usually a bad sign as far as relationship potential goes so...
