Mixed Signals, which to believe??

[Mr_Pink]

I broke up with my ex about 2, 3 weeks ago, so since then I've been on the search for a new girl. Since then, I met a girl that I've been talking to during my Studay Halls in the library. She tends to be a bit gossipy, and talks about some people behind their back, so just to clear things up, I had a friend of mine (who's really good friends with her btw) bring me up in conversation. The bastard won't tell me specifics about what she said, but strongly advises against me asking her out. This also happened to be about 2 weeks ago when this happened.

The past two days though, this girl has been showing some signs of intrest. She's been asking me about how things between me and my ex are (possibly trying to figure out my status??), and then bringing up something about me saying a while back how I could've moved by her and it would've been cool if I did.

So, should I just go with my gut instinct and see if this girl is intrested or not, or believe the friend?? I'm like 90% set on asking her out sometime, but what she said to him has been a nagging curiousity for a while now...

-Mr. Pink

 

[1hepcat]

Your "friend" probably is an AFC that wants to hook up with her. Sounds like he might be trying to c0ck block you.

I'd say just go on the vibes that you get from the girl and leave third parties out of it.

 

[Sir Auron]

Yeah either what he said *points above* or if your friend is trustworthy, she probably just b!tches about everyone behind there backs and as to not show interest she didn't act nice towards you.

 

[Porky]

He doesn't know what she wants, and even if a girl knows what she wants she isn't going to tell people the whole truth, even her best friends.

HEre's a tip, guys. If a girl's best friend tells you not to ask her out, but you're getting strong signals, do it.

 

[J2K]

I've only been playing this game for about 2 months, but from what I've gathered, one thing is that humans are VERY jealous, be a guy friend to a girl, 2 girlfriends, or whatever, usually guys don't get too jealous of other guys, but it happens. Ok, that being said, if you see a few signals, what the hell? I, like others, think your friend may be c0ck blocking you. Test it out, go for it, but if you do see anything of the nature your friend was telling you about, watch it, but other than that, have fun.

 

[snatchdaddy]

** "So, should I just go with my gut instinct and see if this girl is intrested or not, or believe the friend??" **

Personally I think this is the wrong question. If I were in your situation I would be asking myself, "Is this girl even worth asking out?" or even better yet, "Are there any girls that I have a hot nut for that aren't so d*mn gossipy?"

Even if she is interested in you now chances are she will eventually start gossiping about you. I'd just advise you to find some other hot chick that doesn't have such personal hang ups. Then again some guys like b*tches with unecessary hangups cause when she starts flaking it makes it easier to dump her.

 

[Mr_Pink]

I'm not particularly into this girl, but I'm trying to just get a date since I broke up with my ex about 3 weeks ago, so I'm just looking for a new girl, to answer the above.

Anyways, I severally doubt the c0ckblock, since this guy has a gf he's been seeing for about 2 years now. However, he is overly flirty with like 20-30 girls I can think of off the top of my head, so maybe he just likes knowing he has a choice of whoever he wants. He did say before he talked to her how he thought we'd be a horrible match, so maybe he didn't talk to her and is just talking about that??

-Mr. Pink

 

[studmuffin15]

it doesn't matter if he has a gf or not. he may just not want U to get with this particular chick for whatever reason. i would never listen to a a third-person in a situation like this.

i will give u an example...

when i was in college, there was this smokin hot blonde in one of my classes. she was rich as hell, wore versace to class everyday, etc. one day i was talking to another guy in class about her and he said, "yea, she has a rich bf who buys her a lot of ****." i figured she was high maintenance off the bat, but was still interested in going for the screw. when i heard this, i kinda thought o fukk, i guess there is no potential there then. also being an AFC at the time, i figured i was able to use a fellow guy to fill me in on her and thus avoided the "formal" rejection of going for the digits and having her tell me she had a bf.

BUT, after making some small talk with her over a number of weeks, and asking her questions like, "so what do u do for fun on the weekends, etc.", i never ever heard her mention that she had a bf. i found out from her that she didnt have a bf and made my move.

when i called the dude out on this, u know what his response was? "uh, well i think somebody told me once she had a really rich bf and thats how she got all those clothes".

let that be a lesson to u >>> never, ever, back off from a girl based upon what a third party says. go with ur gut and from what happens directly between u and the chick.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

PINK: Your bro is looking out for you because knowing you well, he probably feels like she's a waste of time. He probably has noticed all these bad qualities she has, (gossip) and knows she's not worth your time.


Based on what you told us, I really don't think that proved that she was into you. It shows a cordial basic interest in things going on in your life, but I wasn't there and I couldn't see her body language or tone of voice. Just do what you want, it can't do anything but help you get field expierence.



PIMP

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by J2K
I've only been playing this game for about 2 months, but from what I've gathered, one thing is that humans are VERY jealous, be a guy friend to a girl, 2 girlfriends, or whatever, usually guys don't get too jealous of other guys, but it happens.

I wouldn't say its jealousy J,
People, especially men, are very COMPETITIVE. Were competitive by instinct. Its a good thing. it helped our anscestors survive threw hell. Had it not been for mankinds extreme competitive nature J, me and you would not be here, as well as the rest of us.