aceventura74
Don Juan
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In a nut shell:
Hello everyone,
Second time poster, my best friend is an avid member and poster on here and said this forum helped him out with a lot.
Background:
I'm a 23 year old male, just finished college up. I was really involved academically and in lots of clubs and stuff, but never really spent too much time with women other than being friends/best friends. Zero relationship experience my entire life. No casual hook ups or anything either. Still waiting on that first kiss too.
A few months ago, on June 1, I posted on my college's facebook page some tips about succeeding at that particular school. This cute girl “liked” my post and we started messaging, and we really hit it off. She's 19. For the first 2 weeks we just texted 24/7, over 4000 messages, and super lovey/dovey and gooey. She appeared to be all over me, more-so than any girl I've ever met. She asked me out on a date too, which was my first ever, pretty fun we just hung out and walked around holding hands (first time ever doing it, probably had sweaty palms, I was sweating bullets that day!!!) nothing spectacular. After the date, we carried on texting and stuff, things going great. I in fact asked her out again roughly maybe 4 days after our first date? She said she was busy, so I was cool. Later the next week, I asked her out again, she was still busy. Then, about 2 weeks after that date, out of nowhere, she kinda stopped talking to me, we'd maybe text 1-4 times per day, compared to the 400-500 we used to do. I kinda got ticked at her and texted her accusing her of dating other guys and not wanting to see me, she got pissed. The reason I was so infuriated at the time was she made me promise “not to see any other women.” I apologized, we carry on, but hardly texting/communicating at all. Hadn’t seen her since our first date in the beginning of June. Fast forward to August 1, we start talking again, but like casually and rarely. I asked her how she felt about me, and I told her I had feelings for her. She told me she doesn’t and never wanted a relationship, and that she had never been in a relationship. I was even more confused at this point cause we went on a date and really clicked at the beginning of it all, and our intimate messages really seemed like she wanted a relationship/or that a relationship would be possible some day. As sad as I was, I had gotten closure, and I was, to be honest, ok with this. She told me “its not you” kind of thing as well; she said she had family responsibilities and that really eats up all her time and that she started working full time. She said her family responsibilities really started up in July, so that’s why she was so “busy” compared to when we first met.”
I’m ok with the thought of being friends with her, but at the end of August, she starts calling and texting me again. I feel like she's coming back onto me, and she gets really into texting me when I shoot her a simple "hey." She actually called me up after I just sent her a text to just talk, like we used to when we first met. I kept myself in line, not to get excited or anything. But we start talking a lot on the phone and texting, so I got a little confused.
Question 1: Is she back into me…?
We actually set up a date, or rather “hang out” was the words I used at the end of September. We’d been talking so much lately, I thought it’d be fun and she was super excited when I asked her to hang out.
Date #2
Confusing. We meet up, and we get coffee. She wasn’t really too engaged in the conversation, and I really tried to give her great openings to talk and respond. Instead she was just one-word responding. But whatever, the first half of the date sucked. Second half was really confusing for me. As we leave dunkin, I’m walking her to the bus stop, and I try to hold her hand. She literally swats my hand down and says “no I’m mad at you” and giggles at it, and for the hell of it I keep trying to grab her hand – she keeps saying “shes mad” and “not yet.” A lot of my friends who are women all told me this was her unbelievably awkward way of flirting with me. We even joked about that a few times on text. I think she kept saying "she's mad" because I kept texting her that on Saturday (about a joke she mad and I 'pretend' got angry)
Date #3
I was kind of in the area and bumped into her (so not really a date). She’s talking ot all her friends I’m with mine. Randomly, as she’s leaving she comes up to me and asks me to walk her to the bus stop, and I say yes. I go for a hand grab (as a joke) she shoots it down again, but then grabs my arm and we walk to the bus stop together. As we’re saying goodbye, I give her a long hug, and then a kiss on the cheek.
I followed up by asking her to hang out this past week, she said she’s busy and couldn’t make it. Lately its been me also trying to talk and text with her, It’s a lot more one-sided.
Question 2: Now what? Has she lost interest in me or something?
Her bday is coming up and I got her a present…my plan is to give it to her and then see where things go.
Question 3: Should I stop trying to grab her hand? (I don’t want to come off as some touchy pervert or some jerk who makes her feel uncomfortable)
Question 4: Should I try to kiss her when I give her the present?
Hello everyone,
Second time poster, my best friend is an avid member and poster on here and said this forum helped him out with a lot.
Background:
I'm a 23 year old male, just finished college up. I was really involved academically and in lots of clubs and stuff, but never really spent too much time with women other than being friends/best friends. Zero relationship experience my entire life. No casual hook ups or anything either. Still waiting on that first kiss too.
A few months ago, on June 1, I posted on my college's facebook page some tips about succeeding at that particular school. This cute girl “liked” my post and we started messaging, and we really hit it off. She's 19. For the first 2 weeks we just texted 24/7, over 4000 messages, and super lovey/dovey and gooey. She appeared to be all over me, more-so than any girl I've ever met. She asked me out on a date too, which was my first ever, pretty fun we just hung out and walked around holding hands (first time ever doing it, probably had sweaty palms, I was sweating bullets that day!!!) nothing spectacular. After the date, we carried on texting and stuff, things going great. I in fact asked her out again roughly maybe 4 days after our first date? She said she was busy, so I was cool. Later the next week, I asked her out again, she was still busy. Then, about 2 weeks after that date, out of nowhere, she kinda stopped talking to me, we'd maybe text 1-4 times per day, compared to the 400-500 we used to do. I kinda got ticked at her and texted her accusing her of dating other guys and not wanting to see me, she got pissed. The reason I was so infuriated at the time was she made me promise “not to see any other women.” I apologized, we carry on, but hardly texting/communicating at all. Hadn’t seen her since our first date in the beginning of June. Fast forward to August 1, we start talking again, but like casually and rarely. I asked her how she felt about me, and I told her I had feelings for her. She told me she doesn’t and never wanted a relationship, and that she had never been in a relationship. I was even more confused at this point cause we went on a date and really clicked at the beginning of it all, and our intimate messages really seemed like she wanted a relationship/or that a relationship would be possible some day. As sad as I was, I had gotten closure, and I was, to be honest, ok with this. She told me “its not you” kind of thing as well; she said she had family responsibilities and that really eats up all her time and that she started working full time. She said her family responsibilities really started up in July, so that’s why she was so “busy” compared to when we first met.”
I’m ok with the thought of being friends with her, but at the end of August, she starts calling and texting me again. I feel like she's coming back onto me, and she gets really into texting me when I shoot her a simple "hey." She actually called me up after I just sent her a text to just talk, like we used to when we first met. I kept myself in line, not to get excited or anything. But we start talking a lot on the phone and texting, so I got a little confused.
Question 1: Is she back into me…?
We actually set up a date, or rather “hang out” was the words I used at the end of September. We’d been talking so much lately, I thought it’d be fun and she was super excited when I asked her to hang out.
Date #2
Confusing. We meet up, and we get coffee. She wasn’t really too engaged in the conversation, and I really tried to give her great openings to talk and respond. Instead she was just one-word responding. But whatever, the first half of the date sucked. Second half was really confusing for me. As we leave dunkin, I’m walking her to the bus stop, and I try to hold her hand. She literally swats my hand down and says “no I’m mad at you” and giggles at it, and for the hell of it I keep trying to grab her hand – she keeps saying “shes mad” and “not yet.” A lot of my friends who are women all told me this was her unbelievably awkward way of flirting with me. We even joked about that a few times on text. I think she kept saying "she's mad" because I kept texting her that on Saturday (about a joke she mad and I 'pretend' got angry)
Date #3
I was kind of in the area and bumped into her (so not really a date). She’s talking ot all her friends I’m with mine. Randomly, as she’s leaving she comes up to me and asks me to walk her to the bus stop, and I say yes. I go for a hand grab (as a joke) she shoots it down again, but then grabs my arm and we walk to the bus stop together. As we’re saying goodbye, I give her a long hug, and then a kiss on the cheek.
I followed up by asking her to hang out this past week, she said she’s busy and couldn’t make it. Lately its been me also trying to talk and text with her, It’s a lot more one-sided.
Question 2: Now what? Has she lost interest in me or something?
Her bday is coming up and I got her a present…my plan is to give it to her and then see where things go.
Question 3: Should I stop trying to grab her hand? (I don’t want to come off as some touchy pervert or some jerk who makes her feel uncomfortable)
Question 4: Should I try to kiss her when I give her the present?
