Mixed Signals....is she playin games?

[MrMaN]

im gettin some mixed signals here guys...see if u can gimme somethin that'l help me out.....

I met this gurl a couple of weeks ago when i started working at this park, i asked her to go to lunch with me one day so that we could talk alil......then i asked her out on a date....got the date and went on it sat. night, well i let 4 days go by and i call her last night, accidentally woke her up, (she went to bed early that night), and we talked a bit then i asked her if she had fun on the date with me and she said yes, then i asked her if she would ever consider goin out with me again an she said "why u gotta ask me questions that make me think this late, i just woke up, ask me some other time." WTF??.......she made up a horrible fukin excuse, is she playin fukin games?....What can i do to let er know what shes missin and not to play games, i cant just totally ignore her cuz i see her almost every day at work (by the way i dont work in the same building as her tho).....i can still run a bit of the ignoring game to make her come running......i know shes interested in me cuz shes told other ppl i know that she really digs me and thinks im hott and she showed high IL on the date and hung allover me so im puzzled as to why she would make up an excuse so she wouldnt have to answer me......but do you guys know of anything else that could help me out here?

What do you guys think shes doin here? Analyze this situation for me please.

Thanx peeps

Kris

 

[WatchMeWalk]

I don't think it's HB game-playing this time. You disturbed her sleep, asking for affirmations that your still "The Man". That would indeed annoy most women. Next time you score a first date, don't call again until you have definite plans for the next one.

And BTW, if you want her to feel that she's missing out, no better way than to be seen macking with another woman

 

[jlujan]

You seem too desperate in IMHO, and you woke her up during her sleep, i don't blame her.

 

[TesuqueRed]

Originally posted by MrMaN
...then i asked her if she had fun on the date with me and she said yes...

Ok, she's cutting you some slack here. The...

Originally posted by MrMaN
...then i asked her if she had fun on the date with me and she said yes...

is weak at best and shows insecurity and desperation and worse otherwise...and then this...

Originally posted by MrMaN
...then i asked her if she would ever consider goin out with me again....

is weak X10. It is that "" close---yes, that, like "" that, close to a wuss begging for a date using "pretty please". She's didn't say that and is politely letting you know this is way inappropriate to approach her this way. Her "mixed signals" as you call them is her being too polite and buying you a clue so that you don't get self-conscious and not date her again but get the hint to grow some balls. No mixed signals here.

[QUOTE]WTF??.... an she said "why u gotta ask me questions that make me think this late, i just woke up, ask me some other time."....she made up a horrible fukin excuse, is she playin fukin games?[/QUOTE]

No excuse, no games by her.

Harsh? Yes. I'm harsh, she isn't. This is a favor she and I are doing for you. Calll me a dyck because I am, but what you need to take away from this is not to get a post-date assessment from her to see if she liked you and would ever do it again. This reaks of major--make that "MAJOR" in caps--desperation to her.

She should next you in 1.5 seconds but she hasn't. You're close, though. That tells me her IL is still up there, but you're on probation after that phone call.

You don't need to ask what she thinks about you or the date---she will let you know in so many other ways that you don't have to ask (kino, kiss-close, laughs at your jokes, eye-contact, gives you her phone number, says "I enjoyed tonight" w/o you asking, etc.--and these are only starters!)

What do you guys think shes doin here? Analyze this situation for me please...

You DID ask for it...

So go out again, make it fun and active, just don't do any of this "how am I doing" follow-up stuff, Ok?

 

[gr8one]

Originally posted by jlujan
You seem too desperate in IMHO, and you woke her up during her sleep, i don't blame her.

I forgot,..What was IMHO, again?.....

LoL

 

[jlujan]

Originally posted by gr8one
I forgot,..What was IMHO, again?.....

LoL

In My Humble Opinion.

 

[PiMpJuIcE]

ultimatum

okay look the best way to find out is to give her the cold shoulder if she was really feelin you she would respond