Mirroring?

[L16]

The advice here when a girl is slow to respond and shows lowered interest is to mirror.

When people are giving that advise, especially as it relates to texting, does this mean if she takes 3 hours to respond you also take 3 hours or more to respond? Are you matching response times like that and matching the energy/enthusiasm of their messages?

Or is it more like if they take 3 hours, just don't respond immediately, take at least 45mins + and match their energy?

I know that ideally, you are mirroring because you are so busy with your amazing life, but some people aren't quite there yet and have to fake it till they make it sort of thing.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Is this about the distant FWB?

Anyway, strictly speaking about response times-you reply whenever you feel like it and when you actually have time. For example, if you're changing your winter tires (which takes about an hour), you focus entirely on the task to avoid mistakes. When you're done and everything is complete, then you respond. Same logic applies if you're at the gym (2 hours), rolling a blunt (5 minutes), cleaning the kitchen (20 minutes), having dinner (10 minutes), or even just scratching your balls while scrolling through an article or Instagram (30 seconds).

As for mirroring, the timing of your response doesn't really matter. The bigger picture is that her lowered responsiveness usually means the dynamic is fading. This doesn't guarantee she'll come back eager, because there are many factors at play-maybe her priorities shifted, or the conversation just got dull, or she started seeing someone else. The point of mirroring isn't to revive things; it's to avoid chasing and to keep your own frame.

Lastly, the purpose of texting is logistics— either setting up plans or letting her qualify herself to you. Ideally, you'd text her once a week, crack a quick joke, then ask her out. If she's the one initiating constantly-sending good morning texts, updating you on her day, asking about yours, and making herself available-then she's qualifying herself, making it easier for you to set up a date. But if you don't take the lead and she gets tired of putting in effort, she'll assume you're not interested and start pulling away.

Hopefully, that answers your question. This covers the basics, though there's still an art to texting. As I wrote in another post, without the element of surprise or the anticipation of both parties meeting in the future, or it becomes too predictable and you keep giving into her caprice, the “relationship” and dynamic will likely become stagnant and boring.

 

[sevbucmash]

All dudes text the same thing. Girl is literally answering the same questions all day long.

Her appearing to lose interest in you, could be related to losing interest to a different dude, and you just happened to write same or similar thing as him, or she's just tired doing same thing over and over again.

Know what she wants. She wont' tell you what she wants, you have to guess it.

Get her off text. Voice or video (in whatsapp for example) are much better.

 

[New_Journey]

texting

Texting is not chitchat, is to make dates and logistic. Stay off the phone

 

[BPH]

Texting is not chitchat, is to make dates and logistic. Stay off the phone

@L16 this.

I text to make plans, and if I'm texted. If she stops responding, so do I. But I'm not sitting there watching the reply times.

If she takes a while, I don't rush to respond.