Alphathree
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(DISCLAIMER: I know we disagree on the definition of an "Alpha Male." Read at your own risk.)
One of my friends is the AMOG of AMOGs.
Most of them time, he's quite nice. He compliments absolutely everyone -- AFCs, AMOGs, HBs -- and he is always demonstrating value with high-fives, low-fives, back-slaps, hand shakes, and so on.
But every once in a while, someone crosses him the wrong way, and when that happens, oh man, it's all over. He is never violent but he's very physical. He will make the presence of his entire body known and it will dominate your reality.
One of my other friends was drunkenly misbehaving and ran into this AMOG a few times. Instantly, the AMOG put his hand on my friend's shoulder and got very close and said in no uncertain terms "SETTLE. DOWN. You ran into me at least three times there." And he just held eye contact.
It was by no means physically threatening, more like physically intimidating.
Weeks earlier, a girl had been misbehaving around me. She had handcuffed my friend to a chair (don't ask) and taken the key with her.
So I calmly held her around the waist while another person pryed the key from her hands. Well, she decided she was going to go into the "A man is physically assaulting me!" *****-girl mode and I saw that I couldn't let that behaviour slide.
So I just said "Come here." and I took her aside and said sternly. "Look, you are acting like an eight year old. Are you eight years old? You think you're the queen around here? You're the queen of NOTHING - okay? - nothing."
Well, she left angry and hurt, but I got respect for the rest of the night for calmly settling the matter.
(Imagine if I had let her control me with that behaviour?)
A week later, she called me to apologize. I didn't return the apology or accept her apology. I just said "Okay."
You have to remove all barriers. You cannot be the Alpha Male most of the time. You cannot be the Deputy Alpha Male. If people misbehave, you have to calmly discipline them.
This isn't an "attraction technique" per se, it's about having respect for yourself. It won't just "get you women," it will make your life worth living. Never submit to the whims of others.
FOR SKINNY GUYS AND **** TESTS:
As an aside, some girl asked me what size my biceps are today. I don't have biceps, okay? This girl could beat me up. The wrong response would've been "uh, small?" I shot back with "what size are YOUR biceps?" She knew her size. Then I beat her at thumb wrestling and laid on the C&F all night. She wasn't just punching me... she was rapid-punching me, like, my arm hurts now. And she was doing this while I was driving!
Similarly, I like responding to "how much do you weigh?" (uh, not a lot) with "how much do YOU weigh?"
You have to know how to handle this one, because they'll try to socially shame you for asking the question back. You have to hold your ground.
The point is, for skinny guys, it doesn't actually matter that you're skinny. What matters is whether or not you are confident in yourself physically. You'd be surprised how little your size matters... you can intimidate and demand respect without bulging biceps.
One of my friends is the AMOG of AMOGs.
Most of them time, he's quite nice. He compliments absolutely everyone -- AFCs, AMOGs, HBs -- and he is always demonstrating value with high-fives, low-fives, back-slaps, hand shakes, and so on.
But every once in a while, someone crosses him the wrong way, and when that happens, oh man, it's all over. He is never violent but he's very physical. He will make the presence of his entire body known and it will dominate your reality.
One of my other friends was drunkenly misbehaving and ran into this AMOG a few times. Instantly, the AMOG put his hand on my friend's shoulder and got very close and said in no uncertain terms "SETTLE. DOWN. You ran into me at least three times there." And he just held eye contact.
It was by no means physically threatening, more like physically intimidating.
Weeks earlier, a girl had been misbehaving around me. She had handcuffed my friend to a chair (don't ask) and taken the key with her.
So I calmly held her around the waist while another person pryed the key from her hands. Well, she decided she was going to go into the "A man is physically assaulting me!" *****-girl mode and I saw that I couldn't let that behaviour slide.
So I just said "Come here." and I took her aside and said sternly. "Look, you are acting like an eight year old. Are you eight years old? You think you're the queen around here? You're the queen of NOTHING - okay? - nothing."
Well, she left angry and hurt, but I got respect for the rest of the night for calmly settling the matter.
(Imagine if I had let her control me with that behaviour?)
A week later, she called me to apologize. I didn't return the apology or accept her apology. I just said "Okay."
You have to remove all barriers. You cannot be the Alpha Male most of the time. You cannot be the Deputy Alpha Male. If people misbehave, you have to calmly discipline them.
This isn't an "attraction technique" per se, it's about having respect for yourself. It won't just "get you women," it will make your life worth living. Never submit to the whims of others.
FOR SKINNY GUYS AND **** TESTS:
As an aside, some girl asked me what size my biceps are today. I don't have biceps, okay? This girl could beat me up. The wrong response would've been "uh, small?" I shot back with "what size are YOUR biceps?" She knew her size. Then I beat her at thumb wrestling and laid on the C&F all night. She wasn't just punching me... she was rapid-punching me, like, my arm hurts now. And she was doing this while I was driving!
Similarly, I like responding to "how much do you weigh?" (uh, not a lot) with "how much do YOU weigh?"
You have to know how to handle this one, because they'll try to socially shame you for asking the question back. You have to hold your ground.
The point is, for skinny guys, it doesn't actually matter that you're skinny. What matters is whether or not you are confident in yourself physically. You'd be surprised how little your size matters... you can intimidate and demand respect without bulging biceps.
