Million dollar question: why haven’t you settled down?

[Snag87]

I'm 34 and simply have no interest in it. It doesn't suit my lifestyle.

 

[jaymbrs]

Most of these responses I'm reading are all macho and may get likes from other men but it literally shuts a woman off, which is not the intent.

 

[Robert28]

Zimbabwe, with due respect, with that attitude I wish you luck. Reason I say that is because that is some super negative energy and women can sense your energy, trust me on that.

Secondly, the statement is not even true. Sure some women may lack emotional maturity, so do some men. But not all. Definitely not all. Try and think more positively about women, trust them more, that will reflect in the energy you project and you will draw more women to you -- the right women. The women you want to commit to.

You guys may think all this talk about "energy" sounds hokey, but women are perceptive and intuitive, not saying you're not, but we pick up on things, like a man's energy and if that man carries within him the type of negative energy described in the bolded quote above, that is a huge turn off for women seeking commitment and marriage.

How come womens intuition never seems to work when they end up dating a bum? “Oh he started off so nice the first few months, then he just changed into an alcoholic violent abusive felon and left me pregnant!”

 

[derby1]

Zimbabwe, with due respect, with that attitude I wish you luck. Reason I say that is because that is some super negative energy and women can sense your energy, trust me on that.

That's funny because that is precisely how women describe many men! LOL

Hes not far wrong though, allow me to explain, character is built by being forged on the fire and also rejected

Although not womens fault, social media has made it easier than ever for a mediocre woman to get insatiable amounts of unearned validation and sexual offers. She needs only exist.

Ontop of this women have about a billion social constructs set up to void them of any accountability. this runs very deep!

ie: Obesity in women. is a glorious thing
ie: welfare contract which pays quite well in the UK, if things dont work out.
ie: Society believes she should be catered to.
"you look after HER shes a GOOD one"
"your knocking bro"
"ahhh he just couldnt handle you anyway"

As you can see from the above all of this is no good for someones character they never have to figure why they have problems. I noted the other day, out of the 10 women I have recently got out, even though 50% pursued hard, they would still fail a simple quiz about me. I have many local women on my SM, The predictable behaviour across the board, is drinking & selfies. even the 40+. no passions or hobbies at all.

Men dont have all the above constructs, so I would say we havent changed much over time.

 

[B80]

Hes not far wrong though, allow me to explain, character is built by being forged on the fire and also rejected

Although not womens fault, social media has made it easier than ever for a mediocre woman to get insatiable amounts of unearned validation and sexual offers. She needs only exist.

Ontop of this women have about a billion social constructs set up to void them of any accountability. this runs very deep!

ie: Obesity in women. is a glorious thing
ie: welfare contract which pays quite well in the UK, if things dont work out.
ie: Society believes she should be catered to.
"you look after HER shes a GOOD one"
"your knocking bro"
"ahhh he just couldnt handle you anyway"

As you can see from the above all of this is no good for someones character they never have to figure why they have problems. I noted the other day, out of the 10 women I have recently got out, even though 50% pursued hard, they would still fail a simple quiz about me. I have many local women on my SM, The predictable behaviour across the board, is drinking & selfies. even the 40+. no passions or hobbies at all.

Men dont have all the above constructs, so I would say we havent changed much over time.

"ahhh he just couldnt handle you anyway" made me laugh as my ex mother in law said that several times about her nieces when I was still married to her daughter, when they broke up with their partners. I have zero doubt she wheeled it out to others about me/her daughter when we split up. May be some truth on occasions (weak male), but can gloss off women being idiots, doing what they want with lack of respect towards partner sometimes. Never hear men say to other men 'she couldn;t handle you'.

another classic is the monroe quote 'if you can take me at my worse, you don;t deserve me at my best'. when I see that on tinder always swipe left. usually an insight of mental/emotional issues, or just an idiot who use that as an excuse to misbehave.

 

[SW15]

Most of these responses I'm reading are all macho and may get likes from other men but it literally shuts a woman off, which is not the intent.

Please go into more detail on this. Which responses would shut a woman off? I agree that shutting a woman off is not the intent.

The very last place any man should get dating advice, is from a woman.

you don't ask a fish how to catch fish you talk to the fisherman.

Taken a different way, you might want to ask the fish, to find out what attracts them to the bait.

Fishermen are better experts on catching fish than fish are in explaining why they took the bait.

@catsmeow's idea would have more merit in an ideal world. There's often a gap between what people say that they want vs. what they actually respond to. When talking to women, men get responses from many women that are often more reflective of an ideal than reflective of reality.

The male seducer can describe exactly what he did to complete the seduction. If this is a LTR, the male seducer can explain how he seduced initially and how he has kept the fire going for some extended period. With men in LTRs, it's difficult to determine if it is best to take their word at face value because boredom and disillusionment often occur in LTRs. Married and LTR people are often good at hiding that stuff.

 

[nismo-4]

I enjoy the single life.

I haven't met the right woman.

I haven't met one that ticked all the right boxes for me to settle down.

I'm more focused on building my business, bank, body, career, etc.

Any of those will do wonders and show you have some sort of standard for yourself.

Send me my million dollar check in the mail.

Case closed.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I get asked this often and at my age it’s no surprise however I find my usually vague answer of “I haven’t met the right woman” seems to not suffice for a lot of women. Like they legitimately want me to explain what my deal is. And if I was going to be honest, I haven’t settled down yet because I love my freedom and don’t want kids, right now Atleast. But I can’t tell them that, or can I?

"Haven't found anyone that adds enough value to my life to make me consider it." Then change the subject.

 

[derby1]

"Haven't found anyone that adds enough value to my life to make me consider it." Then change the subject.

Im going to add the word "peace " as well. I value my peace over most things. and western women rarely bring it.

 

[B80]

Im going to add the word "peace " as well. I value my peace over most things. and western women rarely bring it.

Quite. FWB's more appealing to me these days, all things considered.

 

[derby1]

Even using the word "rarely" is being kind. It's more like....never.

yeah it actually is....never

 

[Robert28]

How you gonna settle down when women can’t keep a relationship longer than a few weeks or a month or two? They’re always on to the next best thing. They like you today and cold towards you the next. Settle down with that? Fvck right off.

 

[derby1]

Why not try something new on, like actually listening to what women want, what pulls them and keeps them around.

Theres absolutely nothing in society setup towards the catering & adoration of men. no media, no spending, no news. no music.

Theres 3 mainstream songs this week alone, telling women they deserve it all and respect all women.

Woke up this morning and seen 10 memes already, all with men as the antagonist isnt even 1pm yet

You have at least 100 social constructs to void you of any accountability & responsibilities, where men are expected to accept you as you are, and you can upheave the scenario on a whim.

So G.T.F.O.H

 

[metalwater]

Theres absolutely nothing in society setup towards the catering & adoration of men. no media, no spending, no news. no music.

Theres 3 mainstream songs this week alone, telling women they deserve it all and respect all women.

Woke up this morning and seen 10 memes already, all with men as the antagonist isnt even 1pm yet

You have at least 100 social constructs to void you of any accountability & responsibilities, where men are expected to accept you as you are, and you can upheave the scenario on a whim.

So G.T.F.O.H

true and false. the TOP men get a huge amount of attention, praise, and adoration. the other 99% get nothing.

 

[metalwater]

Well, given how so many men on this forum struggle "catching good fish" (quality women) and keeping them around, deeming them flakes, etc which is the excuse they use because they lack the ability to keep women around for any length of time, I beg to differ with that statement.

Why not try something new on, like actually listening to what women want, what pulls them and keeps them around.

A quality woman, *not* an insecure woman who will chase your ass when you treat her like crap which appears to be the type of women you're meeting.

We attract who we are. Want a quality woman, be a quality man. A man with integrity who likes women and trusts them until she gives him reason not to.

Reading this forum, many of you guys carry such a chip on your shoulder, like Zimbabwe claiming women lack emotionally maturity.

Like I said some do, so do many men.

But to walk into a situation with a woman with that type of piss poor attitude is a recipe for disaster right off the bat.

Again it will reflect in your energy and say what you want about energy but it's the most important thing a man could have.

Good positive energy attracts.

Bad negative energy repels.

that quote from @SW15 is good. Funny and true. ever tried getting info from a fish...

lots and lots of men do exactly what you tell, then they learn the hard way about reality. I am well-traveled and later in life. Never ever met a woman that puts integrity above image. I have been in different cultures, religions, crime.... , education, money, poor. Even those that try and do many kind things, it's about the image of doing so. I have met men that will put integrity above image.

Trust is something all women DEMAND, just like men DEMAND respect. It doesn't work out for either.

99% and maybe 100% of women see a man with integrity as weak. Integrity means that he will allow another man to win if such is an agreement. Women see this as foolish, weak, and disgusting.

Women are looking for a winner, not a Saint. It's biology and difficult to accept at first. Red Pill teaches men to become a winner complete with details on how to do it. It also teaches that women are attracted to a winner. It does not spend time on teaching integrity because the horrible truth is that women are repelled by real integrity.

Winning comes in many forms, some not very kind at all, some by lies and fakes, and a few from tenacity.

 

[Jack22]

Winning comes in many forms, some not very kind at all, some by lies and fakes, and a few from tenacity.

True. Rollo said women are amoral by nature, and I think he's right. This isn't a decision that I'm making from a state of emotion either. I don't hate women, I just don't think they have any sense of morality because it does not benefit them from an evolutionary perspective. Morality benefits men because it's a way to divide resources fairly without getting your skull split. Men are alright with a "quid pro quo" situation while women would prefer "a winner take all" model. Morality serves no purpose than to prop up the circus of civilization.

Women can be sympathetic, true. They'll fight for someone weaker than themselves(their communitarian instinct for equality, even when it works against their better interest), but if that person is their partner then they have no sympathy. While it's interesting to see the female perspective, it's so short sighted and idealist I can't help but gawk. From her perspective, she can't understand why we aren't basing our judgment on our emotions, why don't we just do what "feels" right? A lot of us did do that, but that way of thinking only works if you're a woman. I know that sounds "sexist" but that's only because she doesn't understand she's operating from a position of privilege. People who have it often don't know they do, so they stare down from their ivory towers and ask " why not actually try listening to what women want?"

Cause it doesn't f*cking work, that's why. Women don't even realize they're dating a redpill man either, they think he's just a naturally great guy, but when they read the mechanics that go into him becoming that man on this forum they can't help but be disgusted. Yeah, that's the same feeling I had when I found out that Alpha f*cks, beta bucks. Cope harder @catsmeow

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I get asked this often and at my age it’s no surprise however I find my usually vague answer of “I haven’t met the right woman” seems to not suffice for a lot of women. Like they legitimately want me to explain what my deal is. And if I was going to be honest, I haven’t settled down yet because I love my freedom and don’t want kids, right now Atleast. But I can’t tell them that, or can I?

I troll. "I'm waiting for the one."