Mike's principle for meeting more people #1: Social Networking

[pilot0001]

Don't have a big social network or wish you could gather more heads around you?

Hang around people who always have people hangin around them. You will meet people by the dozens. Furthermore- you might outlast that person and be left with the group... now your the person who always has people hangin around them

I know 2 or 3 guys in college who are very outgoing and know alot of people. I got to know them and have met some interesting people (guys and girls) through them.

 

[Ricardo]

There truly needs to be a concerted effort to meet more people. I have thought of making this a game somehow.

Are there any organizations you recommend joining? I am a member of a couple of scientific societies, as you can imagine this is good for new job networking, but not good for girls as there are very few women there.

 

[Kwah]

I seem to be one of those people that always has people around, even though I hardly ever say anything.

Kinda weird, I dont even know all the people that seem to be around me.

 

[krd]

Originally posted by pilot0001:
Don't have a big social network or wish you could gather more heads around you?

Hang around people who always have people hangin around them. You will meet people by the dozens. Furthermore- you might outlast that person and be left with the group... now your the person who always has people hangin around them

I know 2 or 3 guys in college who are very outgoing and know alot of people. I got to know them and have met some interesting people (guys and girls) through them.

That's all well and good, but if you're a relatively shy person like I am, you tend to get lost in large groups. If you are hanging around someone who already has a lot of people hanging around them, you may be overlooked, while the more sociable or outgoing people in the group will get most of the attention.

[This message has been edited by krd (edited 11-06-2002).]

 

[Kwah]

precisely, Im the center of the group and most of the time Im not even the focus. I just sorta am the glue

Make sure your recognized for a reason, or find a slightly smaller group and congregate with them.

 

[stuartSan]

Tips Forum.

 

[Snowboard Dude]

Agree and Disargee.
You do need friends to find parties, have people to hang out with and do things with but being the center of attention of a large group can be difficult. I do very well in 1 to 1 convo with most people. So get to know lots of people and when there is a large group find the person you want to talk to and remove them from the group at least temporarily. Rather than trying to impress a whole group with a story or joke or convo just concentrate on a few people at a time. This is especially useful in very loud settings where you can't hear someone more than a few feet away. Everytime i get a girls number and/or hookup its from talking to her personally not in a group so use the group to get an intro especially if you are friends with someone that knows tons of people.

 

[pilot0001]

I disagree with some of what people are sayin. Obviously- Im not conveying we forget about 1 to 1 convo! By no means. But even if your the shy type (like I am) its still benifficial to join in on the groups. You'll still meet people that way and get a social network going / add to the one you have.

Just don't get cought in a 1 up situation. Their will always be leaders of the group, don't get pissed if your not as loud as he is. I used to do this all the time while ignoring the opportunities I had to meeting those people and getting 1 to 1 with them. Their will always be girls hangin around guys, and girlfriends have girlfriends. I don't think this forum talks about social networking enough. I've even seen posts talk it down.