Might have lost her interest

[saywhen]

First off, I'm a new user, I've been reading these forums for a while now. Some really good stuff on here...


Here is my story..

I've developed a sexual relationship with a neighbor lady of mine. Which was going great. She works out of town for three weeks at a time so it was an ideal situation. leave me totally free and open while still knowing she will be back for a good bang.

This went on for about a month until she got laid off and i ended spending more time with her. One week, she initiated about 5 hang outs. It seemed to be a great time. We hung out, banged, she met some of my friends, saw my band play live. Basically she was getting more involved in my interesting life. She loved it.

One night she started to talk about her feelings.
How she feels so passionate towards me. And how its so intense.
She said she likes it but is afraid because she gets attached easily.
I played it cool. Didnt give her any definitive response. Just something like " dont worry baby, i got you" she then proceeded to say we need to cool the air cause she wants it to last. Again i play it cool. I agree, tell her we have our own lives to focus on anyway. The next day she ended up calling me over to watch movies. Damn miss signals. I did end up going but kept it very chill. Then drifted away for a few days.

What she said about the intensities really got to my head. I ended up stepping away from myself and eventually tried to tell her i felt the same way. Of course i know this was a bad move. She then obviously became cold and distant.

I then tried to ignore her as much as possible and gave off the jerk vibe. One night it went wayy to far. I was drunk. She came over. And i was a totalll douche to her. This of course put her back on the chase. Only problem was, she was leaving for work the next day.

She told me not to worry and we will hang out when she gets back in three weeks. Its just now the texting got cold and distant again.

I just want advice on how to put chicks back on the chase in a long distant kind of thing.

I know there are pleanty of chicks out there. I have a few going myself.
Its just the sex was super great with this one and I'm not ready to write it off.

Any suggestions to spark any emotion (bad or good) through text to get her thinking of me and back on the chase would be great!!

Thanks guys

 

[Q-Boy]

Just ignore her, or NC her for a week, she'll be back on track.

 

[TheGambino]

Be less availble buddy, you don't have to be there anytime she asks for it. Be more of a challenge and don't rely on her to be happy. I know it's hard but attractive ladies need to have a challenging guy to keep the attraction on. Also be unpredictable some more and think about yourself. Put her more in the second place, but remain charming and that stuff. Just disappear more. I also suggest No contact for know, let her chase you even if it takes months, no contact will never do harm, don't panic or call or ask what went wrong, all that will keep her away from you. Just disappear and she'll feel what shes lost, if shes interested she'll contact you eventually. goodluck!

 

[PlayHer Man]

Spin plates.

Never care more about the relationship than her. Just try to sleep with her on your terms. If she doesn't follow your lead.. show her the door and repeat the process with the next girl. Eventually you will have reliable plates with high interest who are always available for sex. But don't stop there. Add more plates.. hotter plates. Plates are the key to leverage. Women will compete with each other to be TOP plate.

Its not complex.

 

[saywhen]

Thanks guys. I've been trying the no contact thing, keeping it light. I know her interest level was there when it started out but now since she seems distant, not replying to texts, I feel the IL dropping. She's an older gal. She's 32 I'm 24. I just feel the entire no contact thing might make her think I'm not interested anymore and she'll move on.

You guys think the NC rule applies if she initiates a hang out as well? She'll only be in town for a week and I wanna make sure I get back on her mind solid by giving her a good bang. But hey. Maybe not sleeping with her will make her wonder about me more?!

 

[saywhen]

I think a lot of people have this problem starting out in the game..

I got her attraction cause I've always been the kind of guy to do my own thing and not show any interest at first. My room mate and everyone else would hit on her and I was the only guy to shrug her off.

Eventually they start playing their own game. Talking about feelings and trying to sucker you in. Of course once they KNOW they got you they'll start to play with you more. If you fall in, like I did, and try to say you feel the same way, they know they already won.

So I basically no longer look like the kind of guy I appeared to be when it started off. I guess I look needy now. Here's hoping my self image can be restored. If not with this one, I definitely won't step away from myself with the next.


Thanks guys