Stanley
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I'm a 25 year old virgin.
The past year or so I've been swallowing the red pill a bit and have been focused on self improvement and positive change. A series of traumatic events and then a deep depression during covid has emboldened me and I've made substantial strides for the better. Book of Pook was by far the biggest game changer alongside lifting.
Quick background.
Despite being 25 and a virgin I've only dated girls in their early 20s that were Hb8 and gorgeous, I used to think they were out of my league. I've only had short lived relationships and the girls were BPD and anxious-avoidant. Several were abused sexually and I allowed their hang-ups to influence me and become my own. I've worked through this and addressed my insecurities in therapy as I was clearly attracting this type of woman. I lived at home all through college and was a commuter to a community college with few women. When I finally went to a 4 year university I noticed in one semester that women were constantly coming after me which took me for surprise. Growing up I was scrawny and got bullied as result. By the time I turned 20 I was 6ft and was scouted for modeling, but I still thought I was unattractive and I lacked confidence, so I didn't do it. I had low self esteem then...
With each passing year I became a better man and also continually grew into my looks. In the span of 6 months at the age of 22 I had:
Fun_Country club job_
-A 27 hb7 year old at my job reach around and grab my ****.
-My manager (early 30s spinner) openly wanted to **** me at work. (should've done it)
-skinny dipped with a girl (21) at work, but still didn't do anything sexual with her out of insecurity.
_Music teacher job_
-Coworker (20) wanted me to get with her to make an engaged man jealous (I passed)
-Manager (32) make sexual advances at me (I passed)
-Older Ghetto black woman (35) wanting to be my sugar moma and then stalked me for months. (hard pass)
_college_
-Homecoming queen on campus wanted me for the rebound
-**** tons of choir girls wanted me and openly approached me. (I'm a musician)
-Played piano at transfer student event in a lobby and had three girls give me their numbers (I chickened out)
-Poly chick wanted me for a threesome (I bailed)
-Music department referred to me as 'Romeo' as there were always girls coming after me.
During covid I had girls over zoom giving me their numbers or snapchat and one girl was bold enough to call me and asked me to come pick her up...she got my number through our class list. In every single instance these girls came at me HARD. I didn't realize my looks were so appealing and I had natural game and red pill qualities. My first girl friend was a model hb9 at 21 and was bat**** crazy. She had accused me of being with **** tons of women when I was openly a virgin. (lesson learned)
Fast forward to now.
I'm now getting approached by attractive young women on a regular basis and actively have to avoid my female coworkers since they want to get with me. One of these girls became my oneitis and we had a situationship for a bit. I don't **** where I eat anymore, but I knew she was leaving. Really cute lil half Chinese girl and came across as high quality ltr material, i'd peg her hb8. I played the game real good and held frame, but eventually me being masculine and confident scared her off. She had very low self esteem and was exceptionally shy... Regardless I'm now learning the nuance of game and when I fail I have my looks to fall back on. The issue I face is all these women assume I'm an absolute Chad player who is constantly getting laid...in my eyes that's a good thing... but I'm a virgin.
Girls ALWAYS assume i'm a stud and smashing constantly. I had a fear or stds and pregnancy for a while and post poned sex/relationships to focus on myself. Now i'm at the point in my life where I want to say **** it and just do it...but I'd be nothing but an inexperienced disappointment and wouldn't live up to all these hot young women's ideas of me. That and I live at home and feel odd bringing girls home and it just seems unappealing. I don't know what to do with my body, I would feel awkward and embarrassed to be frank and I have a fear of failure with these women...
I'm wondering if you dudes have some advice or tips to overcome this insecurity of mine. I've considered doing dating apps and filtering for an older woman and explicitly stating i'm looking to learn how to please a women and have fwb/teacher like relationship. Or on the flipside going for a young inexperienced girl/virgin and fake it until I make it. The only issue with that is where the **** do I take them? Whereas the older woman going for the young guy might be more open sexually and have a place to smash.
Direction and a stern kick in the ass would be much appreciated fellas. I feel like a little ***** right now
The past year or so I've been swallowing the red pill a bit and have been focused on self improvement and positive change. A series of traumatic events and then a deep depression during covid has emboldened me and I've made substantial strides for the better. Book of Pook was by far the biggest game changer alongside lifting.
Quick background.
Despite being 25 and a virgin I've only dated girls in their early 20s that were Hb8 and gorgeous, I used to think they were out of my league. I've only had short lived relationships and the girls were BPD and anxious-avoidant. Several were abused sexually and I allowed their hang-ups to influence me and become my own. I've worked through this and addressed my insecurities in therapy as I was clearly attracting this type of woman. I lived at home all through college and was a commuter to a community college with few women. When I finally went to a 4 year university I noticed in one semester that women were constantly coming after me which took me for surprise. Growing up I was scrawny and got bullied as result. By the time I turned 20 I was 6ft and was scouted for modeling, but I still thought I was unattractive and I lacked confidence, so I didn't do it. I had low self esteem then...
With each passing year I became a better man and also continually grew into my looks. In the span of 6 months at the age of 22 I had:
Fun_Country club job_
-A 27 hb7 year old at my job reach around and grab my ****.
-My manager (early 30s spinner) openly wanted to **** me at work. (should've done it)
-skinny dipped with a girl (21) at work, but still didn't do anything sexual with her out of insecurity.
_Music teacher job_
-Coworker (20) wanted me to get with her to make an engaged man jealous (I passed)
-Manager (32) make sexual advances at me (I passed)
-Older Ghetto black woman (35) wanting to be my sugar moma and then stalked me for months. (hard pass)
_college_
-Homecoming queen on campus wanted me for the rebound
-**** tons of choir girls wanted me and openly approached me. (I'm a musician)
-Played piano at transfer student event in a lobby and had three girls give me their numbers (I chickened out)
-Poly chick wanted me for a threesome (I bailed)
-Music department referred to me as 'Romeo' as there were always girls coming after me.
During covid I had girls over zoom giving me their numbers or snapchat and one girl was bold enough to call me and asked me to come pick her up...she got my number through our class list. In every single instance these girls came at me HARD. I didn't realize my looks were so appealing and I had natural game and red pill qualities. My first girl friend was a model hb9 at 21 and was bat**** crazy. She had accused me of being with **** tons of women when I was openly a virgin. (lesson learned)
Fast forward to now.
I'm now getting approached by attractive young women on a regular basis and actively have to avoid my female coworkers since they want to get with me. One of these girls became my oneitis and we had a situationship for a bit. I don't **** where I eat anymore, but I knew she was leaving. Really cute lil half Chinese girl and came across as high quality ltr material, i'd peg her hb8. I played the game real good and held frame, but eventually me being masculine and confident scared her off. She had very low self esteem and was exceptionally shy... Regardless I'm now learning the nuance of game and when I fail I have my looks to fall back on. The issue I face is all these women assume I'm an absolute Chad player who is constantly getting laid...in my eyes that's a good thing... but I'm a virgin.
Girls ALWAYS assume i'm a stud and smashing constantly. I had a fear or stds and pregnancy for a while and post poned sex/relationships to focus on myself. Now i'm at the point in my life where I want to say **** it and just do it...but I'd be nothing but an inexperienced disappointment and wouldn't live up to all these hot young women's ideas of me. That and I live at home and feel odd bringing girls home and it just seems unappealing. I don't know what to do with my body, I would feel awkward and embarrassed to be frank and I have a fear of failure with these women...
I'm wondering if you dudes have some advice or tips to overcome this insecurity of mine. I've considered doing dating apps and filtering for an older woman and explicitly stating i'm looking to learn how to please a women and have fwb/teacher like relationship. Or on the flipside going for a young inexperienced girl/virgin and fake it until I make it. The only issue with that is where the **** do I take them? Whereas the older woman going for the young guy might be more open sexually and have a place to smash.
Direction and a stern kick in the ass would be much appreciated fellas. I feel like a little ***** right now