Met the "One"

[Wintrop]

This question goes out to the older guys(well anyone with advice).

I split with my Ex this summer simply because I wanted to be with more ladies before it got any more serious. We dated for 4 years. She is perfect for me in every area except looks. There she would be a 7-7.5.

This is probably the wrong site but for all those with experience dating lots of ladies how frequent do you think meeting someone that you know you would be happy to spend the rest of your life with?

Basically it comming to the point that I have man up to be with her or let her go forever.

 

[STR8UP]

This is probably the wrong site but for all those with experience dating lots of ladies how frequent do you think meeting someone that you know you would be happy to spend the rest of your life with?

1-3 times in your life if you're lucky. Question is.....are you HONESTLY able to recognize her when you see her?

 

[Wintrop]

Do I have enough experience dating women to know? I would say no. I am/ have been friends/dated enough women to know she in unlike most: genuine, unconditional (i know if i were paralyzed she would stay with me), kind and caring.

We share many of the same passions, have similar goals in life, always have things to say to each other.

STR8UP: What would you need to see in a person for them to be the "one"? And have you found them?

 

[Last Man Standing]

What would you need to see in a person for them to be the "one"? And have you found them?

I am/ have been friends/dated enough women to know she is unlike most: genuine, unconditional (i know if i were paralyzed she would stay with me), kind and caring.

We share many of the same passions, have similar goals in life, always have things to say to each other.

You answered your own question!!

You can find another HB7 or higher, but you will not find another who has unconditional love!!

 

[jophil28]

Maybe it is just me, but there is something uppity about first time posters who joined 4 minutes ago, and do not post their age, or give any other details for 'setting and context'.
Why the big secret ??

 

[jophil28]

I split with my Ex this summer simply because I wanted to be with more ladies before it got any more serious. We dated for 4 years. She is perfect for me in every area except looks. There she would be a 7-7.5.

"Perfect in every area except looks "
SO she is faithful, kind, honest, reliable, dependable, generous and compatible with you sexually and emotionally, BUT she only rates a 7.5 in looks ? I feel your pain man. What a dilemma you have.
Your problem is not her looks, it is your shallowness.
THis forum is meant for men who have REAL relationship problems with difficult women. That ain't you .
Your post reminds me of the mindless crap that we hear from women about how , " ...my boyfriend is so good to me- he is everything I want in a man and a future husband , BUT the "chemistry" is not quite right,"

Get lost, twit.

 

[iqqi]

Click on the link in my signature below. Maybe you will find something there that will help you in this situation.

 

[Phyzzle]

I think it was a bad move.

The odds of finding a '9' who is perfect for you like this one is pretty much nil. You are going to pay dearly for those looks.

May I ask, (1) how many beautiful women have you dated? Do you really know what you're getting in to? And (2) what is it about you that makes you a '9'? Know any foreign languages? Friends with any congressmen? Own any night clubs in Boston? Just what makes you think you can pass by all the tens of thousands of guys who have all of these things and land a model hot babe with dazzling intelligence and maturity?

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

WINTROP, you need to post an age on your profile if you're going to post in this forum. You don't have to make it public, but you do need to include it on your profile.

 

[DavenJuan]

Do I have enough experience dating women to know? I would say no. I am/ have been friends/dated enough women to know she in unlike most: genuine, unconditional (i know if i were paralyzed she would stay with me), kind and caring.

We share many of the same passions, have similar goals in life, always have things to say to each other.

STR8UP: What would you need to see in a person for them to be the "one"? And have you found them?

We obviously all would be looking for different things since we all desire different things. No one here can answer that for you.

Some will say based on your age will deteremine whether or not you can tell ..i disagree. i think what they mean is based on your EXPERIENCE you "may" have a better understanding on what you want. and even then sometimes you still dont know.

..all i can say is dont get complacent expecting this to be the rest of your life and getting comfortable. Enjoy the present and not worry to much about the future right now. tomorrow will be here when it comes. whether or not she is the one or not...who knows...does it really matter??

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

... She is perfect for me in every area except looks.

So do you think she is perfect or not?

...
This is probably the wrong site but for all those with experience dating lots of ladies how frequent do you think meeting someone that you know you would be happy to spend the rest of your life with?

You'd be better off asking for someone to predict the stock market.

 

[MooseGod]

Well if your goal right now is marriage, then she sounds like a catch. Trust me, you go out with a chick long enough and she won't shut up about wanting a ring.

That's why you need to put your age in your profile. We can't help you if we don't know where you're coming from. But really, as far as the looks thing...a marriage is a business deal. If you want a marriage that actually lasts, she needs to have the qualities you described. Looks will fade.

 

[Wintrop]

We'll thanks for the help most of you.

I'm 25.

I totally agree with the guy that says it is my shallowness that is the problem. Wish I could fix that.

But to add one more key fact to the picture(I wanted to see how this affects peoples answer) is that I have still to this point only slept with her.

Yes it's a little odd I just signed up but i've been reading the material here for a while, never felt the need to post till recently.

 

[WesCottII]

Are you sure you just arn't creating false memories??

Often when breaking up with someone, we forget all the nasty bits and create these memories of "wow, what a great time we had together" and look upon the time as a golden period in our lives, when frankly it just wasn't the case.

I mean, you broke up for some reason.

 

[Randallpink83]

if you are feeling like you want others girls right now and be free for awhile, I say you better go ahead and take care of those needs cause if you stay with her you will always regret not doing what you want.

....There are so so so many women on this earth. Statistically speaking I think there are loads of good wifey materials out there. 9s and 10s can be great too, thats a bad generalization saying that all the beautiful ones will be b!tches (most guys think that cause they are chumps and beautiful girls won't give them the time of day so they assume they must be b!tches).
So if you are feeling curious... Get out there and see what you can find. Hitting the single life again and playing the game is an adventure.


...Good luck breaking up though. I broke up with my 4yr LTR at the very beginning of this year based on these very same feelings. I don't regret it now cause I like where I'm at right now so much more and I'm gonna keep going, but its hard to break away from a long relationship.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

I totally agree with the guy that says it is my shallowness that is the problem. Wish I could fix that.

You need to stop buying into the feminized, pop-culture, herd-speak. How is anything you've stated in this post "shallow." It's only shallow because you've been conditioned to believe it is.

That said, there is no ONE. All you do is perpetuate your own AFC/ONEitis when you think in such terms as "met the ONE." You're pre-whipped if your thinking in such terms. There is no ONE. There are some good Ones and some bad Ones, but there is no ONE. Get it?

 

[Wintrop]

We'll originally it was a 'break' so i could be with other women, but that doesnt really work. Besides the fact that i feel i need to be with other women there is no other reason we broke up.

Rollo Tomassi:The only thing that is shallow is she has everything i need. I just dont know if the timing is right. In that I mean my desire to sleep with a few women before settling down. And you could be right about there not being a "One". This girl pretty much everything I'm looking for and would make me happy for a very long time.

Anyways I will update how it all goes down.

 

[WaterTiger]

Wintrop
Breaking up with her was the right thing to do. You aren't ready to get married and you want some sexual experience with other women.

Go out have some fun! But when you ARE ready to settle down...DO NOT marry the stripper with the hard luck story! Go back and look up your 7.5 with the heart of gold.