met HB9 at shoe store, and...

[pyros]

Hello.


I met a HB9 in a shoe store when I was there with my ex some weeks ago.
This chick was also looking for shoes so while my ex was trying on some shoes, this chick and I briefly talked. I felt some attraction going on but since I was with my exgf nothing else happened besides chitchat.


The thing is I saw her two days ago on FB because she goes to a club that I also go. I added her and she accepted inmediately.

I posted a comment on her wall and she almost inmediately replied, she she liked it next day.

Next day we talked on FB for a while. Since I felt it was some chemistry going on, I suggested we should go grab a coke that same afternoon. She said that she could not because she was meeting some friends. Then inmediately I suggested she should give me her number, but she said:
'oh, sorry but for now I do not think it is appropiate.'
I asked if she was married (joke, she's 27) and she said 'yes'.
I said if it was a perfect relationship, and she said it was ok, not perfet but ok, to which I replied that a relationship should not be just fine, it should be great.


It is obvious that she does not have any relationship because she does not have pictures with any guy on FB. Well, she does have pictures with a boyfriend or something like this, but they are from half a year ago and just a few. Nothing recent.

Next day we talked a little bit more, some humour here and there, some little flirting from my side, etc. She was going to this club last night and me too but we did not see each other there. Today I said I did not see her, we talked more, we laughed, I did some ****y jokes, I flirted a little bit more etc. She checked my age from my profile.



I do feel she likes me but I might have been too agressive/direct the first time we talked on FB lol


How should I do to get a date with this chick? I do not want to prolong the FB chitchat for too long. I was thinking that I will talk to her on FB two or three more times, build some confidence, joke a little bit, flirt a little bit, and then suggest to meet.


Any tips guys?
Thanks!:rockon:

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

You ask her out. She tells you she's married. Then, you determine that it's a lie.

You ask for her number, she denies you.

The only evidence you have of her being interested is that she responds to you when you pay attention to her (hint: all women love attention, whether they're interested or not).

So, here's my advice. Smarten up. If a girl won't have sex with you on the first date, that's called "playing hard to get." If a girl won't give you her damn number, that's called "I dont like you."

 

[PDubb75]

You ask her out. She tells you she's married. Then, you determine that it's a lie.

You ask for her number, she denies you.

The only evidence you have of her being interested is that she responds to you when you pay attention to her (hint: all women love attention, whether they're interested or not).

So, here's my advice. Smarten up. If a girl won't have sex with you on the first date, that's called "playing hard to get." If a girl won't give you her damn number, that's called "I dont like you."

Yep.

Sounds like you are putting too much stock in details that mean nothing, and using that to discount the obvious lack of interest. You make a point to tell us she immediately responds to a Facebook message, but shoo away the fact she says she's married.

Think about it. If she had interest, why would she lie and tell you she's married? If she was married and interested, she probably wouldn't tell you she was married. If she's not married and interested, why on earth would she tell you she was?

The only advice here is to move on.

 

[pyros]

Hi.


I dont know if you're considering that we just briefly talked in the shoe store, and then we talked on FB and within the first 5 minutes I suggested to meet and to get her number. Then she just replied that she was busy and that she did not want to give me her number. But she did not say: sorry but I have a bf.

She just said later on that she had a 'relationship' and just because I asked.
All this within the first 10 minutes of chatting.



So she may be seing someone, or not, but it is obvious that it is not a formal relationship because as I said, she does not have anything uploaded that says that on her profile, just around 10 pics with a guy, and these are from more than 6 months ago, and nothing else new or recent.



In any case, I'll game her a bit one or two times, ask her out again, and if she declines, I'll not spend more time with her, dont you think?
or what?


Thx.

 

[Purefilth]

Hi.


I dont know if you're considering that we just briefly talked in the shoe store, and then we talked on FB and within the first 5 minutes I suggested to meet and to get her number. Then she just replied that she was busy and that she did not want to give me her number. But she did not say: sorry but I have a bf.

She just said later on that she had a 'relationship' and just because I asked.
All this within the first 10 minutes of chatting.



So she may be seing someone, or not, but it is obvious that it is not a formal relationship because as I said, she does not have anything uploaded that says that on her profile, just around 10 pics with a guy, and these are from more than 6 months ago, and nothing else new or recent.
She said no, so to you its a NO!!!!


In any case, I'll game her a bit one or two times, ask her out again, and if she declines, I'll not spend more time with her, dont you think?
or what? NO!!!!!!!!! Move on, drop it, youre going nowhere, except maybe the friendzone if you play your cards well!!!
:kick:

Thx.

NEXT!!!!

 

[PDubb75]

Again, you are focusing on the details of this story that mean nothing, and ignoring the HUGE signs.

She wouldn't give you her number, she tells you she's married (I don't know what you mean by no 'formal relationship' if she says she's married. Just because Facebook doesn't say anything?), and worst of all... she may not actually be married!

That last point is major. If she was married, you could possibly use the excuse that she WANTED to give you her number, but was nervous and hesitant because of the marriage. If she isn't married, she's simply denying you. Nothing more to think about. It isn't her way of telling you to try harder for her (and even if it was, you shouldn't).

Do yourself a favor and move on. The fact you pointed out that you just briefly talked doesn't help your case at all. She's not interested.

 

[pyros]

Hi.



Well, well, I felt some attraction going on but we'll see.
The marriage thing was just a joke. Instead of asking her if she had a boyfriend I said if she was married. We both understood it was a funy way to ask if she wasn't single.

While we talked on fb, she commented that I was younger than her (because she checked my age) and she asked me which kind of girls I like.
So I guess she refused to meet and give me her number just because I asked for it really fast and we were just talking on FB, plus she's probably seing someone as I said.



So, in my opinion she's probably seing someone now but since she's very hot I'll game her from time to time.
Now I'll wait to see if she contacts me.
After one or two more interactions I'll see if I can get to meet her in person. If she refuses, then I'll just next her.


You're all saying she's not interested. It could be yes, but probably you've been in similar situations so even if she's seing some dude, she could change her mind because I'm a better option. You're always saying here that girls are always looking for a better catch.



I mean, Im not gonna try to 'win' her for weeks, but, if I just game her from time to time, she may be now seing a guy, but in some weeks she may be making out with me, or didn't you meeet a girl that was not so interested in the begining or she had a boyfriend, and after some time you banged her?


I'll try to spin more plates too.