Met girl from internet tonight and things went pretty bad.. Did I do the right thing?

[ryannath]

^^I don't know about that phone sex right before you go pick her up. Wouldn't that kill sex drive a bit? Not a good idea to me if you were having phone sex to orgasm, but if the guy didn't orgasm, it would be ok I guess. Just a little dirty talk would be better I think to get her horny but not satisfied.

 

[ryannath]

And, yeah OP , you saying you made it home ok was so stupid. If she told you to tell her you made it home ok, then it would make sense, but if she didn't then, that was a mistake by you. Like the other guy said, she doesn't give two ****s about you. I bet she wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire. She doesn't deserve anymore of your time.

 

[John-467]

Quite simply, if you change your mindset to something similar to this your "women" problems would change.

1. Get women horny first.

2. Give women a great sexual experience second.

Focus here, don't focus on the rest of the other things this site and others might tell you. Read on sexuality, sexual state, being seductive, romantic state of minds, read literature on things of this such.

Let that material sink into your subconscious mind, let it become YOU. You should BECOME this "Romeo" this "Seductive Guy," and you aren't trying to be like no one else. Actually, you are tapping into a part of you that you quite honestly, didn't know was there and thus haven't used it as much.

Focus here FIRST.

You should honestly be able to go out and get laid, whether you meet girls online, at the bar, or at Arbys, it's doesn't really matter to tell you the truth.

Now that you know you are ATTRACTING women to you, now sit back and take out a pen and pad.

Write down what you would like a woman to be in a relationship. Looks, behavior, attitude, wisdom, support level, etc. Write it down.

Now, instead of just sleeping with all women, filter the forest. That's right, go out now and begin to TURN WOMEN DOWN, as you find that particular chick that fits what you are looking for.

This has many benefits that comes with it.

>> You only keep women in your life that truly care about you as a person, they are a lover and a friend.

>> The women you turn down, now all of a sudden want you more. Thus, they begin to change their lives a little to fit the profile that you are looking for, so this gives you more of the "types" of women that you prefer.

>> Other guys and other people in the "Social Circle" see what's occurring with your life, and you automatically become the "cool guy" "alpha male." This leads to benefits as far as getting into clubs for free, having people watching your back in case someone fvcks with you, having people that like you in case you need favors, etc.

- DJF

 

[DJVladdy]

This is actually gonna be a response to what DJF said:
I understand what u mean by sexual state. Thats good news for me. The bad news is i recognize when i get into that sexual state, but it happens almost randomly. Like i wish i could trigger something so the feeling visits me more often when im out in the public. I'm not really experienced enough to "turn on" my own sexual state.

 

[John-467]

DJVladdy, you said,

"I'm not really experienced enough to "turn on" my own sexual state."

Let me tell you a secret here.

Nature/God, or whoever you want to call him, he created Man with natural gifts, talents, but each one of us has a separate CALLING and purpose for life. Now I can't tell you what your calling is.

I can tell you that one of the "gifts" you have is WOMEN. Women are a gift, they were put here to nurture and support your life and actually help to make you a bit better.

Now, the thing here is that apart of being this MAN, is a thing called, "Sexuality."

Seductiveness, being sexual, sexual state...all of this is nothing more but a natural re-connection to our Masculinity.

It's like this

SEXUALITY-Masculinity-Feminity

It's all one chain.

Sexuality is sitting here, in the universe, the problem is that Men have ran away from it because we have been told it's "bad". However, women haven't been told it's "bad" actually women are raised to "look their best," "make sure they are beautiful, etc. See, women are raised to stay CONNECTED to sexuality, men are raised to MOVE AWAY FROM IT.

So when you say, you can't turn it on, it's not a light switch. It's not a t.v. power button.

It's a re-connecting to a PART OF YOU THAT'S ALREADY ON.

You re-connect through RE-PROGRAMMING.

You've been programmed to not think seductive, not think sexual, not live in this flow. So you have to break down that incorrect thinking, to come BACK to the natural flow of life and natural flow of thinking that God/nature created you to think.

Only then do you come back into the chain of Sexuality.

Sexuality- Masculinity- Feminity

Coming back into your natural sexual state of man, MAKES YOU A MAN. Yes, I said that MAKES YOU A MAN. Just like that same thing makes a female a WOMAN.

Notice how you are naturally attracted to Beyonce, Pamela Anderson, and other women similar. You didn't ask for it did you? Ever thought about why you are just so attracted to them?

Because they are in the chain of Sexuality. They are WOMAN, and sexuality is beautiful.

So re-connect with your sexuality, so women can naturally be attracted to you.

- DJF

 

[Tha Realnezz]

YOU ARE WRONG. Check yourself fool.

SHE INVITED ME TO PLAT TENNIS.

When I got there, yes we did sit for 20 minutes and talked but she RENIGGED on her deal to play tennis!

She flaked, and I deserve an apology.

ALSO

When she said no tennis, I offered to take her to a movie, and she said no. Then a nice restaurant and she said no.

HOW AM I AT FAULT HERE

But okay she's a chic,she's thinking this guy drove an hour overhere he might be expecting *****..You shouldn't have just gotten up and left just talked with her and say you had **** to do..after an hour or so THEN left..

She's too far anyways,let her go..

 

[Docs]

And for all you could of known, she wanted to talk first and then start making out with you...

But no, you acted cool with your riced out civic as you did a 2 second burnout in front of her house. 10 points for being an idiot.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

My 2 cents:

1. Driving an hour to hook up with someone you just met on the net is a bit extreme. Question: Was the date at a midway point or closer to her neighborhood? This question alone should be used as a qualifier.
2. I'm still not convinced that action dates are good first dates. I'll admit that it's a great way for a guy to display his marketability but what's in it for the woman? Most women want to see if you're a flake before committing to a long drawn out date (unless she's a professional dater).
3. Her "someone in the back seat" remark was a sh1t test, you should have played it off like an absurd joke. You may have seemed to have taken her seriously and it may have raised a red flag to her.
4. Her wanting to sit and talk was her way of saying "I'm not feeling it for this guy yet; let's see if I'm right." You pushing the tennis thing was what most guys would have done (incorrectly) but hey, you drove an hour for this right (I'm still wondering why). Would it have been so difficult to sit and talk for a few minutes, gained rapport, increased her interest level and then suggested the tennis thing again? This could have been used as another way to qualify her.
5. Jumping online and sending her the "I'm home" message was a bit AFC. Getting pissed off afterward was definitely AFC.

http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/blockedme.php

 

[Microphone Fiend]

So you know what? I said you are not in the right mindframe and Im out of here.

you were not either. When you found out she was not in the right mindset, you should have did something that earned her trust or showed that you were both going for the same thing. Instead you refuse to do anything she wanted to do and went home by yourself.

Did you REALLY only go for tennis or did you go with the hopes of something else happening? Skip the fvckin tennis if she wants to sit down and talk, then you can really lay some game down. Tennis wont get you laid unless you are Agassi or whoever is popular in tennis atm. No kino, no interaction between you, nothing.

A big LOL @ "I deserve an apology"

 

[Agent Zero]

You gotta be more flexible man. I mean, did you really want to play tennis that bad? The first time you meet someone from online it's perfectly reasonable to just sit there and talk. Also, consider that she is the girl and playing tennis could be in a somewhat secluded park as opposed to sitting in public and talking to her.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=18400
best post on the subject

 

[L777]

Maybe 'play tennis' was a metaphor for something else that you missed.

Maybe 'talk' was a metaphor for "have sex", who knows?

Although in all probability she is a weirdo that has issues.

I say leave it and find someone else to 'play tennis' with.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

HAVE YOU IDIOTS FORGOT THIS PART!

When she showed up she said she SWORE SHE SAW a person HIDING in my car, like we were going to kidnap her or something.

After that she was all paranoid and sh!t.

THERE WAS NOBODY IN MY CAR.

This was NOT my fault.

 

[Raikojo17]

HAVE YOU IDIOTS FORGOT THIS PART!

When she showed up she said she SWORE SHE SAW a person HIDING in my car, like we were going to kidnap her or something.

After that she was all paranoid and sh!t.

THERE WAS NOBODY IN MY CAR.

This was NOT my fault.

it's not your fault. but you could've done something to ease her fear, like ....oh i dont know... sat down and talked!

she might have imagined a person in your car. asking to take her somewhere only confirms the fact that you might be up to something sinister.

all you had to do was sit down and get to know her a bit. yo couldnt have wanted to play tennis that bad. if so then go with a buddy or something.

you did nothing to make her more comfortable around you. she wanted to get to know you. you blew it. she doesnt owe you anything,your the one that chose to drive an hour just to play tennis.

at most you owe her an apology for acting like a baby. then expecting her to jump for joy when you told her you got home safe. at that point she couldnt cared less.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

HAVE YOU IDIOTS FORGOT THIS PART!

When she showed up she said she SWORE SHE SAW a person HIDING in my car, like we were going to kidnap her or something.

After that she was all paranoid and sh!t.

THERE WAS NOBODY IN MY CAR.

This was NOT my fault.

Ahem....

3. Her "someone in the back seat" remark was a sh1t test, you should have played it off like an absurd joke. You may have seemed to have taken her seriously and it may have raised a red flag to her.

 

[chance-]

did she see a photo of you before you met? i agree with above. it's possible that she just didn't like what she saw. the "can't we just talk" was probably so she didn't feel so bad (she probably wanted to leave but felt too mean to do that and offered a talk).

you did act a bit childish with the little fit you had. i know you're angry but don't give girls that satisfaction. if she said that to me i would of laughed and said: "yep and he's gonna help me put you in the boot... come say hi to him."

 

[Golden Arms]

Big deal.

Just find a different tennis partner

 

[My Name is Nobody]

did she see a photo of you before you met? i agree with above. it's possible that she just didn't like what she saw. the "can't we just talk" was probably so she didn't feel so bad (she probably wanted to leave but felt too mean to do that and offered a talk).

you did act a bit childish with the little fit you had. i know you're angry but don't give girls that satisfaction. if she said that to me i would of laughed and said: "yep and he's gonna help me put you in the boot... come say hi to him."

yes she saw a photo and she said i was cute.

And we agreed that we were just freinds.

SHE OFFERED TO PLAY TENNIS.

i WANTED TO PLAY SO I DRIVE OUT THERE TO PLAY TENNIS.

Then she got weird as hell.

It wasnt a sh/t test Francisco.. she really thought she saw someone else in my car... she's a freak.


I didnt even want this girl.. I drove out there because she INVITED ME to play tennis... then she acted like a b/tch after i drive out there. I am going to tell her f/ck herself later.

 

[chance-]

lol. how about you just delete her and forget it man. that'll just make her happy if you go off at her. girls like it when they get guys angry. makes them feel powerful, like they won in the game... or something.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I'm going to log in to AIM tonight , if she is on i will not say a word.

If she refuses to start a convo with me, I will delete her for good.

I will give her one more chance.

OH this is the same girl who joined on MATCH.COM and in her profile says she is just looking for FRIENDS.

What kind of psycho is this?

OH and PS: She is obsessed with her ex boyfriend that dumped her.

She isnt even that hot BTW/