Met a GREAT new girl, BUT...

[stormwriter]

Finally, i found a hot blonde that is also cool. She has no problems telling me how much she likes me. She does the calling and emailing. She's thin, with natural D-cup cans. Things are going pretty damn good!

There are two things though, that i'm bummed out about.

First, she said she's not into oral. "I'm not saying you WON'T ever get it, but it will be very infrequently." That realllllly bummed me out, cause i love oral. I think i would rather have a girl give me oral, than have sex most of the time. Dammit, i love it.
So, you can imagine my concern. We've had sex 5 times, and the only time she gave me oral was when i grabbed her head and put it down there. Even then it was only for a minute or so.

Secondly, she's got TONS of guy friends. I'm trying to not get insecure. Two of her friends are ex-boyfriends. SO, you guys know what its like when there are tons of good looking guys around. I really trust her, and don't think she's going to f**k one of these dudes. It's just annoying. For example, at a wedding this weekend we went to, one of her guy "friends" said he would love to date her if i wasn't in the picture, and he was all flirting with her.

So, i'm continuing on, and seeing how the bedroom actitives continue. I'm not too excited about having sex, cause i know there won't be any oral. dammit.

So, if you guys had any opinions, or experience with this type of thing, (especially the oral situation) let me know.

Thanks dudes.

 

[Austin Allegro]

The only time I've been in this situation I got fed up eventually and told the lady I wasn't satisfied with our sex life and that I didn't want to see her again if things weren't going to change.

They DID change dramatically as she said she didn't want to lose me, but after a while things went back to the way they were - if a woman REALLY doesn't want to do something she won't, or not for very long anyway.

Whatever you do don't come across as needy - women's mags constantly tell women about how much men want oral sex, that they like it better than penetration etc and she MAY use this as a form of bribery.

So I'd say either:

a. offer to next her (not in a threatening way, just in a 'well we're obviously not suited' type way) and things may improve, at least in the short term, or

b. wait until she wants YOU to do something to HER and don't do it. Then she might get the message. or,

c. have a long afc style in depth talk about mutually respecting other's wishes etc. Only as a last resort though! or finally

d. Next her. If oral is really important to you. And let's face it it's not the most distasteful thing in the world so I don't really see what her problem is with it.

 

[NewMan]

Your not going to get your oral - plain and simple.

You've got 2 choices - except or move on.

The idea of holding something back from her will not work - thats just going to lead to other issues in your relationship.

The fact that she has so many guy friends, and doesn't give you what you want would lead me to tell you to NEXT her.

She probably does this to all her boyfriends - they will complain and want oral - but stay with her because they are AFC and she's hot - but finally she gets sick of them and moves on. They of course - being AFC - hang around with her and become friends.

Buck the trend and NEXT her fast.

Tell her that sex with her is like Fvcking a dead fish - and that your not prepared to go without oral sex.

I bet noone's done that to her before.

 

[Austin Allegro]

Newman, nice post - love the 'dead fish' line.

Shows I'm still thinking very much along AFC lines!

 

[bman]

if you're going to threten to next her for not giving oral, make sure you got her IL raised. make sure your **** is clean too, dont give her any reasons to not give oral.

 

[Falcon Eye]

First of all, there's nothing worst then a long term relationship with a woman who won't do BJ's; if things don't change this will likely be a STR.

The only thing I can say is be the best you can be in all aspects of your life, let her see that she has something of value in your relationship. When in her presence always work hard, play hard, dress well, and show her that you do have other options. If oral sex is important enough to you, you have to be willing to walk away. Don't threaten to walk if you're not willing to do so.

She must place a high value on her relationship with you, the higher the value the better your chances of getting oral sex from her.

When your got her in bed sex her up good; give her as much oral as she wants. Fvck her hard and often. Look after her needs; this will result in her placing a higher value on the relationship.

If at the end of the day she still won't do it then you have a decison to make.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

As far as not getting head, that's suxs and your going to have to deal with that.

But about being jealous of her "guy friends??" LOL That's the funniest **** I've ever heard. If you give a girl a reason to lose interest and stray away from you then she will. But she'll never fuvk any of her guy friends (emotional tampons "chicks with ****s") EVER!! Just make sure you don't turn into a bowl of putty and go AFC on us after a while. Because then she WILL cheat on your ass.

I think its so funny that guys are always worried about their new girl cheating on them. But if you don't give them a reason to cheat in the first place, she never will. Kinda like the confident Alpha vs. The Needy AFC.



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