Met a girl today. Questions.

[creativeusername02]

The jist of the situation: I just moved to Jacksonville Florida and don't know that many people. I will start my sophomore year of college on Sept. 2nd. I was at the college today registering for classes and struck up a good conversation with a cute brunette. She mentioned that she knew some college kids in my apartment complex that she parties with sometimes. She got called to fill out her schedule and I continued waiting. I was confident that I could get her number when she returned and just as I thought, I did. However, when she gave it to me, she said "there's a problem...." . I knew it was coming, a boyfriend! She said "I'll give it to you anyway since you're new here." So, she gave me the number despite having a boyfriend. Now, we all know that most girls don't dump a guy until they've got another one that they want to sink their teeth into.... So, I can either try to pursue this chick with romantic interest or just be friends with her and then meet more people through her. Like I said earlier, from her demeanor during our conversation, I think she was somewhat into me. If she wasn't exibiting those signals, then I wouldn't have asked for the number. How should I handle this situation? Help me, DJ's!

 

[Santos]

Treat her as a friend and meet other women. There's PLENTY at college. Just be a DJ around her and any other women you meet, if she really starts getting into you then you'll notice. But for now, just meet more women.

 

[deeman]

I agree with santos. You can use her to meet alot of other single women, but remember to still be a DJ around her too. She may want you all to herself.

 

[xblitz44x]

"Now, we all know that most girls don't dump a guy until they've got another one that they want to sink their teeth into"

Yeah that's true but if she was REALLY digging you and even considered cheating or ditching the boyfriend she would have never blurted out that she HAD one. Even if there was remote possibility, she would have kept the floor open by just simply 'not including it' instead of going out of her way. I would have responded with "What makes you think I'm hitting on you? I just want to make some friends here." This would have probably calmed her down and made her more curious about you, if anything. Then at least next time you see her there wouldn't have been that funky tension. Oh well. Next time.

-Blitz

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by deeman
I agree with santos. You can use her to meet alot of other single women, but remember to still be a DJ around her too. She may want you all to herself.

I go along with you guys. Use her to meet more HBs but still make her want to be around you by still flirting with her (in just a playful way to raise her interest level) every now and then. Be sure to let her see your DJ skills from afar too (the challenge). If there is any bumps in her relationship road with her boyfriend, she will want to at least travel the smoother DJ road to at least enjoy the scenery.

 

[becker]

The problem here is that the extent of her knowledge of you is the five minutes you two actually talked. When you are in college, you just get to know as many people as possible. I remember getting numbers of people who I never even called once. It's just sort of a way to say goodbye in college. "I'll call you!" and just never do it, but if you don't, the other person doesn't really care that much either because there are so many people.

Anyways, keep in contact with this girl if you're interested in her. Who the heck cares about the BF. BFs mean very little in college in my opinion, because it's too early to be tied down, and the atmosphere doesn't support it. I'm going after a girl with a BF right now, and if she ever mentions doing something with him (which rarely happens), I just say "oh, cool", and move on to the next topic as if I didn't care.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Never knock down girls who have boyfriends already - they can open doors to other girls/buddies for you! However, don't try to pull 'steal girlfriend' ****.

 

[creativeusername02]

*bump* Could you guys give some more input please?

 

[OddTech]

People have already given some very good points, there is not much more to add.

Basically the board members are telling you to set her aside and not *put all your hope on one girl.* You're just asking for onetitis. Keep her number in a drawer somewhere and go look for other girls. You just started school and you got a whole year left. Plenty of time to get more numbers.

And sometimes, you shouldn't think too hard on the reasons why a girl would do such-and-such. Don't wonder why she gave you the # even though she has a BF. Don't ask why she was giving you signals. She could just be very friendly to everyone, who knows? It's illogical, I know, but it happens. Don't waste your time, continue sarging.