met a girl recently but school ends soon

[tps]

Hey all, this is my first post.

Anyway. I met this girl through a friend a couple weeks back and we hit it off pretty well. We've gone on two dates already and things seem to be going well. The only problem is school will be ending in two weeks (this next week and finals week). Our hometowns are easily 5hrs away so I doubt I'll be seeing her over the summer.

I want to start a relationship with this girl, but i'm afraid that rushing it will freak her out. she's very shy when around guys, and it's always been me who has been making the moves. she never texts me first, but when i text her, she responds enthusiastically.

i'm thinking about just going for it. are there any tips you guys can give me to make this go smoothly?

 

[oneboy21]

add her on FB, text and chat will keep your contact
go from there

 

[bigneil]

If you have chemistry together, this is an opportunity for long distance romance. You will be close enough to drive there, or meet half way no problem. Plus you know you'll see her again in the future. You already have her cell phone. You already went on a date. Start making things romantic.

Text something humorous like "So do you think you'll be able to stand it?" And she'll text "stand what?" And you text "Being away from me for 3 long months?"

Meanwhile, date other women when she's gone, but occasionally send her something poetic so that you stay on her mind.

 

[Iceberg]

Hey all, this is my first post.

Anyway. I met this girl through a friend a couple weeks back and we hit it off pretty well. We've gone on two dates already and things seem to be going well. The only problem is school will be ending in two weeks (this next week and finals week). Our hometowns are easily 5hrs away so I doubt I'll be seeing her over the summer.

I want to start a relationship with this girl, but i'm afraid that rushing it will freak her out. she's very shy when around guys, and it's always been me who has been making the moves. she never texts me first, but when i text her, she responds enthusiastically.

i'm thinking about just going for it. are there any tips you guys can give me to make this go smoothly?

You've gone on 2 dates with her and you're already talking about starting a relationship?

You barely know the girl. That's not a relationship...it's clinging to her for dear life. It screams "I don't get girls very often, so when I find one I have to LOCK onto her as soon as possible!!"

Stay in touch with her through the summer. Hell, maybe even try to visit her once or twice. But relationships just happen. You don't ask your way into them. Either the girl is into you or she isn't. Calling it a relationship isn't going to make her MORE into you. She's excited about YOU...not the title of your "relationship".

And not to be a d*ck, but you gotta grow up. You went on 2 dates with the girl and you're seeking a relationship.....we're not in 3rd grade anymore, buddy.

 

[EFFORT]

are there any tips you guys can give me to make this go smoothly?

Have sex with her and don't ask her to be your gf. Keep things very light over the summer. Maintain a flirty/playful banter exchange in texts but keep the frequency low....send out 1-3 a week and if she doesn't respond reduce it down to 1 text every 2weeks and don't question her for why shes not responding.

DO NOT get heavy! She's going back to her home town and will be meeting back up with old sexual partners that will also be back home. She'll be having flings, so be ready for it. Don't become some needy, jealous **** block.

Use the summer to upgrade yourself. Listen to some self improvement products. Revalute and update your goals in life. Spend time researching your career and refining your path to it. Look for networking opportunities. Start lifting weights and join a martial arts club. Get a part time job that's somewhere on the path to your future career. If you can't find one that's fine just settle for whatever, main thing is to have some source of income. Go out with your friends and have fun. Make it a habit to approach 2-5 women a day, get in contact with old hook up partners if you had any and throw up a profile on POF. Get outside of your comfort zone. You definitely want to be having sex with other women this summer and create an abundance mentality in your mind. Do some research on fashion and make your look better. Stay busy and productive this summer.

When you get back to school resume where you left off with the girl if you still even want to...

This is the advice I wish I followed when I had the same issue about 6 years ago.

 

[tps]

thanks guys for all the prompt replies! i'll be sure to keep all of your advice in mind.

however, i have one more question. the two of us will be going on a date right after finals end. i want to leave a lasting impression. any suggestions as to what we should do for our date?

thanks in advance!

 

[Fred_Scuttle]

Have sex with her and don't ask her to be your gf. Keep things very light over the summer. Maintain a flirty/playful banter exchange in texts but keep the frequency low....send out 1-3 a week and if she doesn't respond reduce it down to 1 text every 2weeks and don't question her for why shes not responding.

DO NOT get heavy! She's going back to her home town and will be meeting back up with old sexual partners that will also be back home. She'll be having flings, so be ready for it. Don't become some needy, jealous **** block.

Use the summer to upgrade yourself. Listen to some self improvement products. Revalute and update your goals in life. Spend time researching your career and refining your path to it. Look for networking opportunities. Start lifting weights and join a martial arts club. Get a part time job that's somewhere on the path to your future career. If you can't find one that's fine just settle for whatever, main thing is to have some source of income. Go out with your friends and have fun. Make it a habit to approach 2-5 women a day, get in contact with old hook up partners if you had any and throw up a profile on POF. Get outside of your comfort zone. You definitely want to be having sex with other women this summer and create an abundance mentality in your mind. Do some research on fashion and make your look better. Stay busy and productive this summer.

When you get back to school resume where you left off with the girl if you still even want to...

This is the advice I wish I followed when I had the same issue about 6 years ago.

poor advice here. they went on 2 dates she probably wont have sex with him. why would he ask her to be his gf when he is leaving? maybe she never had that many partners back at home or any at all. maybe she will find a new guy over the summer. resume what? the 2 or 3 dates they had? you dont know. you are speculating everything here. poor advice. you get a D for Effort.

 

[EFFORT]

they went on 2 dates she probably wont have sex with him.

She may or may not. I could of been more clear though. OP if the situation seems right look to get things sexual with her.

why would he ask her to be his gf when he is leaving?

He said he wanted to start a "relationship with this girl" so I told him to not ask her out

maybe she never had that many partners back at home or any at all. maybe she will find a new guy over the summer.

Yeah, a lot of different things could happen over the summer. Women generally have a lot of options. So just assume she will be with other guys. Main thing for the OP is to focus on himself and talk to other women.

resume what? the 2 or 3 dates they had? you dont know. you are speculating everything here.

Yeah I agree, I'm speculating a lot here based off the general information the OP provided.

poor advice. you get a D for Effort.

I'm always up for learning something new. If the OP followed my advice, how would it negatively impact his life? What would your advice to the OP be?