messy situation with the gf

[Remulak]

she got mad at me afew days ago for choosing hanging out with my friends over her for a day and she called me "selfish". Before I left to go home for the break I went to her place and hung out with her a little bit, she seemed a little distant. We haven't spoken in a little less than 2 days which is the longest we've gone without talking, I want to call her real bad will it make it look weak if I give in she's usually the one to call.

 

[JLW]

Did you already make prior plans with your friends, or did you cancel plans with her to hang out with your friends?

I need more details to help you out.

 

[Remulak]

cancelled plans hours before we were supposed to hang out

 

[Remulak]

thing is I've been sensing low interest from her prior to this too

 

[Remulak]

guys im about to crack i really need somebodys help

 

[TheChicGeek]

Have you tried a frank discussion of your thoughts and feelings about this? I think it sounds like a time to set masculinity aside for a little while to find out what the problem is. It also depends on how long you've been dating her and how serious it is. If it were me and it seemed to be getting pretty serious, I would do what I just said. If it were casual, I'd probably just find love somewhere else for a while. Or choose to go without.

 

[Remulak]

no one else has any experience with a girlfriend acting weird and losing interest? cmon guys, It's been 3 days now still no contact.

 

[jigga23]

been there with a couple of girls. you do not want to call her up and smother the sh!t out of her. dude honestly if shes acting distant then just back off even more. my ex acted distant a couple of times. i would say what is wrong or whats up with you etc. she would say i need space blah blah. so i would say fine you want space you got it bascially. but first I would try to fix it right then and there (probably wrong way). she would just shut down and back off totally. so when she did that i was like fvck it i just totally cut her off myself. no calls no nothing. i would go days w out calling her she wouldnt call either. just tell yourself you dont need her. then one day she would call. just make her feel like she is cut off from you. shell crack trust me unless you do or say something ridiculous to her. its kind of hard in your situtation cause you kind of fvcked her over a little bit. but i guess to cover your ass when you talk to her just say well i felt that you were becoming distant and wanted to have some space between us. good luck

 

[Remulak]

MY UPDATE:

she texted me last night

HER: Hi
ME: Hey
HER: How was ur thanks giving?
ME: it was good
HER: cool whatre you doing?
ME: some homework then going out
HER: ohh
ME: How was ur thanks giving?
HER: it was great
end of convo, pretty lame I think she just texted me cause she told me she was going to a few days back and felt obligated but its been really strange lately we use to talk everyday on the phone now i havent talk to her on the phone in 4 days I'm so confused. Now I'm in this situatin where I don't know if we're even going out anymore?! I've noticed her being hot and cold sportatically as far as interest the last few weeks. Right now I plan on waiting for her to call because i don't know what to do i'm a mess right now. It's like her interest just shut off and she doesn't give a shyt about me although she gets jealous when I bring up girls that like me.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

I was f*cking a girl who had a bf. She became distant from him. Then she broke up with him.

Point is that there's a problem here. Stop ignoring it and talk to her about it straight out. Maybe it can be fixed. Maybe it can't.

Either way you need to approach it because she will definately not.

 

[Themanthatcan]

Talk to her about it face to face when your level headed.Be mature about the whole conversation and just ask her point of view and give her yours.

 

[In2theGame]

she got mad at me afew days ago for choosing hanging out with my friends over her for a day and she called me "selfish". Before I left to go home for the break I went to her place and hung out with her a little bit, she seemed a little distant. We haven't spoken in a little less than 2 days which is the longest we've gone without talking, I want to call her real bad will it make it look weak if I give in she's usually the one to call.

Rem, Stop it. Read what i am writing to you. Listen to me. I have been there and i feel i have gone through the rough brutal heart aches so i can pass on the knowledge to other in need,... like yourself. unfortunatly your probably going to ignore what i say to you because your going to let your emotions run your actions but you have to ignore that and be strong. If she doesnt want to speak to you. dont speak to her. Leave her alone, dont call her, dont Text her dont do ANYTHING!!!! that involves her. Do you see whats going on? Your waiting for her to contact you? Let me repeat.. "YOUR..WAITING... FOR.. HER... TO...CONTACT...YOU"... may i ask why? IF shes treating you like crap.. Dude move on. i hate girls like this with a passion. My Ex Fiance was like this and Oh my good god in the heavens , im so happy i left her. Girls like this will toy with your heart like a game and your the one who keeps on losing. Im sure.. No, i am 100% positive... That if you just shut her OUT! completely she will be crying and saying things like "How come you are being this way, Why arent you wanting to speak with me?" Boo Hoo. Cry me a Ocean. Rem Please take my advice.. When i was in your shoes.. my mistake was "waiting on her". Im sure your not a bad lookin guy. If other girls find you attractive, then why waste your emotions on a girl whos treating u bad? Why?? When you ignore her, she will either leave a voicemail or Text saying, Why arent you talking to me?? Your Response will be, "You didnt want to talk to me when i wanted to talk to you" Then u hit her with the Big blow "I liked you but you shut my out, Goodbye" Then thats it! she realized she F--ed up with her stank attitude and understanding. Listen to ME!!!.