Messed and Screwed Up Need Advices Pls

[xcomapocom]

I meet a lady about 9 years ago.There was 1 time we meetup again few months after graduation, surprisely she still remembered me. She approached togather with my friend. We sat down and chat however the dummest was when my friend left, just the 2 of us the chat stop and after a while I ran off and left her along.

I didn't know that I had fall after few months later. I managed to ask her out 3 times but everytime I see her I feel nervous and loss of words.

1 time I asked her for her birthday on the phone, she paused then I asked her again. She said no. The next day my friend told she was very angry.

I sms her apologising, she said i had done nothing wrong no to say sorry. But I was stupid and overdo it(my big problem)

We lost contact for about 2 years until 2 year ago, I managed contact her however I overdo things again. The dummiest thing I was to express my feelings to her until she sms said she scare of me. I then bought a Winnie The Poon bear with a sorry msg and personnelly send to her office. I sms her again.

The reply got lesser and lesser. Recently, I sms her again, she still reply. By the way both of us are of different nationality. Because of her, I become less timid in terms of dating and talking opposite sex. She help me changed my life.

My biggest problem(s) are overdo things, not a funny guy (quiet one), express my feelings too fast, didn't treasure time toagther to know better, tell things straight in her face.


Can you kindly please advice me how to improve this relationship.

 

[serial_kisser]

jeeez...man you're scaring me ...too....what the hell are you doin;?..you need to get on with the game.....try to control your emotions....pretend she is the ugliest girl the one who has braces on her teeth.....and how would you speak with a girl like this...pretend she is the one.ok...and next time you ask her out.....try this one......you:hey ....guess what me and my friend are going to (whatever) i was wonder if you want to join us....then stop don't say a word until she speaks......if she says' she can't make it.,,,,,..tell her ..cool....we'll be havin' wonderful time while you be doin' some boring thing...(with the smile..)..and walk away...,,then wait how she reacts later on.....
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PS:..never ever apologize and say please to a woman,,,,i mean never ever...

 

[the_reader]

lol my friend, I've been where you are, sorry to say, i know how you feel, but just try to move on. Or just try not so hard to think of what to do when your around her, try to relax, dont' seem so excited, and for heavens sake, don't leave her alone!

i know it's hard, someone turned down a dinner tonite, i was ready to take my losses and move on.

this web site will help you, it helped me a lot, gd luck!

 

[arlanda]

Originally posted by serial_kisser
never ever apologize and say please to a woman,,,,i mean never ever...

That's a crappy advice, pal.

 

[blinkwatt]

I never apoligize for anything I do,I just take it as a lesson learned and move on. Save "I'm sorry" for when you mean it or when you are a really in some deep sh1t with a lady and its all your fault. Instead of using that all the time you could say "oh gosh,I didn't mean to do that"
or "ok I learned my lesson Iam ready to move on".