Mental Dating

[Duke]

Mental dating? WTF is that!?
The goal of mental dating is to see yourself on a date in your mind's eye, and in EXCRUCIATING DETAIL, envision yourself succeeding. AFCs never have a plan. DJs alway have a plan.

Assume the sale and go from there. When you are imagining the date, ONLY IMAGINE POSITIVE OUTCOMES. If you think that you will lose, then you have already lost. If you think that you will win, then you have already won.

Remember... detail, detail, detail!! Picture EVERYTHING the way it would be if you were actually there. Sights, sounds, the sensation of touch, even smells. "The mind cannot tell the difference between reality and a vividly imagined experience."
- Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz

Later today, I'm going to have a movie date with this girl I know called HBCrazy. The following was taken mostly from my private journal and serves as motivation and an example of mental dating. Let the fun begin!

Dark, warm night. I find a parking spot at the movie theater. Since the tape player is broken, pop-radio songs linger in my head. I shake them out and replace them with the Face to Face line, "Inhibition and indecision are quite the same to me."

So it is clearly time to step it up and be decisive--that's what she's looking for. She likes you already--she definitely finds you attractive. It's your job-- and your job only-- to solidify the belief in her mind that you are fearless. Least of all of a little girl.

"Whatever happens, I can handle it" rings through your head. You see HBCrazy in your mind's eye sitting at a table at Barnes and Noble (our rendezvous point), waiting.

dream sequence while in my truck...
In the next moment, you're at her house and she's giving you a fukking insane bl0wjob! She looks up into your eyes as she tightens the suction of her lips around the middle of your shaft and dancers her tongue along the underside.

The next scene, you are walking towards the theater with her. Then she's spread eagle on her bed, holding her pvssy open for you. her nude body shimmers and her eyes flick at you in anticipation. Through quick, shallow breaths, she gets out, "Fukk me, Duke. Please Duke. Fukk me." It's time to move.
dream sequence ends

I get out of my truck, grab my wallet, phone, and keys, and I lock the door. I shut the door and begin walking towards B&N. I walk slowly with my shoulders straight and my head high like an inflated balloon.

You find HBCrazy sitting or standing, just as you had imagined, at or near a B&N table. You make eye contact with her and give her a warm smile. Your words are LOUD and they flow like honey in a sing-song, deep pitch. You speak with the eloquence and assurance of a newscaster.

You remember that women's weak spot is ACTION. They are master communicators, but men create ACTION.

You keep approaching and say, "Hey, HBCrazy. Long time no see!" You are in a fukking GREAT mood right now. Nothing can stop you and success is virtually guaranteed.

I lean forward and kiss her on the cheek. I pull back slowly and I speak SLOWLY. Everything is done extremely slowly. I maintain eye contact and ask with a smile, "Are you ready?"

I wait for her to say "Yes" and promtply remove the smile from my face. With a totally straight face I look her in the eyes and say, "I don't think YOU'RE ready for THIS jelly." (I've done this one in the mirror. It's pretty fukking funny.)

She laughs and we get up to walk toward the theater. We walk side by side. Seven or eight seconds after we start walking I say, "Wait" and use my arm to halt her. At this point she'll be thinking "Huh? WTF." I pat down her stomach and find that she got her backbrace removed (she broke her back a few months ago in a 4-wheeler accident).

I remark sarcastically, "Well, looks like you're not the Bionic Woman anymore!" She will probably say something like "You knew I didn't have a backbrace! You just wanted to feel me up!"
At which point I say "Darling, I don't see you that way" and smack her ass. (mixed messages)

Or she might just laugh. Either way. No matter what she says, I smack her ass after I feel her stomach. And there is nothing she can do about it! Muuwahahaha. *Ahem*

This might branch off into an intense butt-slapping contest!

We make our way to the ticket-master, and I ask her how her summer has been going. I follow up with "What has been your favorite thing about this summer so far?" After she answers, I draw out her responses onto something positive. "Oh, Gulf Shores huh? I bet that parasailing was RAD!" And I let her take it from there.

She'll inevitably ask me the same question I asked her, "So, Duke, what is YOUR favorite thing about this summer?" Well, I just so happen to remember that the LESS I reveal about myself, the BETTER. So I reply with, "It's a tough call, but I have to say it's been my pimping business. Oh god, it really took off!"

Her: *laughing* "No, seriously."
Me: Yeah, seriously. Just because I'm white doesn't mean I'm not a pimp. Stop being racist. By the way, where's my money?
Her: What money?
Me: *shakes head*

We walk into the theater and await previews. I ask her if she wants anything to eat or drink. She will probably say "No." So I reply "Good. I wasn't gonna get you anything anyway!" and walk away before she can say anything.

If she says "Yah I want this and this," then I say "Well then you better go get it before the movie starts!!" Heheh. Cuz she probably thinks I will go buy it for her. Get it?

I come back with a Vanilla Coke or whatever and the previews start. We are sitting in the back row of course (MakeOut Valley as I like to call it) and I prop my feet up in the chairs in front of me. I tell her, "Make sure you let me know if my feet are blocking your view" and stick my foot right in her face.

She'll brush it away from her, no doubt, and I'll continue to sit back smugly in my seat. The stench of popcorn fills the air and M&M and Coke commercials commence to playing.

When the Coke commercial plays, I say "Coke is bad for you. It has way too much sugar" and take a big swig of my Vanilla Coke. I will then offer her some. If she accepts, I'm in like Flynn. If she declines, then she might really be against colas. But she's here with me and that's all I REALLY need to know she's interested. Aside from her flirting with me all the time.

I tell her to "Sit up" for a second. I put my arm around the back of her chair. I say "Ok, you can sit back down, now." I think it's better to do this than just put your arm around her spur of the moment or be cheesy and "yawn" to do it. It's like saying, "Yeah I'm putting my arm around you in plain view because I want to."
Very confident.

Previews continue and I give her a good once-over with my eyes. If anything catches my eye, I'll be sure to ask her about it. She is definitely going to wear jeans, so I'm gonna push/pull her. "I like these jeans, but I think you should have worn shorts instead. They would make your ass look better."

Movie starts. I ask her what perfume she's wearing. Doesn't matter what she says. I sniff her. And I move in closer each time, just letting my breath fall on her neck. Now there's a chance she might say "What are you doing?!" and I'll simply reply "Well genius, it looks like I'm smelling you!"

"Ah, you smell like tropical fruitberries and wild citrus. Ahhh"

Time wears on. Getting her horny, yadda yadda. I whisper in her ear "Let me see your hand." And I take her hand in my free hand. We hold hands and I message it. I tell her that her hands are soft. Whole point of this is to get her feeling girly and feminine and horny.

I initiate a thumbwar with her. "1, 2, 3, 4, I declare a thumb war!"
After I beat her, I simply make eye contact with her and smirk and lift my eyebrows in a "Who da man?" expression of dominance.

Now hopefully my charms will start to wear on her around 1/3 of the way through the movie. If she leans into me, all the better. If I get nothing past what I've done 30 or 40 mins into the movie, I tell her, "Close your eyes. I have something for you." And then I kiss her breifly and act like nothing happened. At this point she either bugs out (but we are thinking POSITIVE SEE!!) or jumps me like a wild animal! Or she will sit there with a grin on her face. Probably the latter.

So I tell her, "Close your eyes again. I have something else for you." If she closes her eyes THIS TIME, then I am fukking IN, NO TURNING BACK. Full-scale make-out session right there. I will alternate gentle and passionate kissing, but I will avoid the cardinal sins of slobbering and shoving my tongue down her throat.

If I succeed at that, then I will rub her leg, and only god knows what will happen after THAT!!!!!

WOOOOOOO!

I feel like I have done all this shyt already! I felt everything like it was really happening, AND I HAVE NO DOUBT IN MY MIND THAT I CAN PULL THIS OFF! I will throw you fellas a field report tomorrow after the date to let you know how things went. This is my first field-test of Mental Dating, so I'll let you know how it goes.

But goddamn, I believe it will work. Ever had to deliver an oral presentation? Well you won't succeed at giving one unless you prepare frontwards and backwards. And I am fully prepared for tomorrow. I'm gonna ace this shyt! Wish me luck!!



-Duke

 

[Dirtheart]

I have also found through personal experience that this can be a very detrimental and risky thing to do.

I know a lot of professionals recommend visualising your goals, but what this does is create an idealistic fantasy in your head and when the time comes, reality cannot live upto it.

Another problem is that by fantasising about a girl this way, you are feeding your emotions and creating attachment. You'll start to think you know this girl better than you do and you'll expect her to react like the person you have mentally created. But when it comes to reality, you'll be unprepared when things don't go according to your visualisation.

How can you relax and enjoy yourself if you are constantly planning and trying to put your visualisation into action? It's good to plan ahead and to know what to do if a situation arises, but visualising in such an intense way doesn't give you much leeway.

I used to do this sort of thing all the time until I realised how much pressure and anxiety it caused me. I find it's much better to keep an open mind and keep all hopes and fantasies at bay.

 

[Dirtheart]

Oh, and excuse me for saying this, but I found your post a little freaky. It's the sort of thing obsessions are made of.

 

[Duke]

Dude, visualizing success doesn't hurt you at all. I know that my gameplan probably won't be realized in every single aspect, but this is an OUTLINE.

It's like when you make an oral presentation. It's not wise to type out the speech word for word, because it ends up sounding like you're READING, which you are. It's better to make an outline, refer to it when you're at a loss for words, and then go from there.

This is the same thing. It's a gameplan, an outline. I'll know what to do along every step of the way instead of being at a loss for words. If I was a pro at this, then sure I could just wing it. But I'm not, so I have to plan. BELIEVE ME. On the last date I went on, I didn't give it ANY advance thought. I just showed up and went from there. It was pretty freaking boring.

The times when I have planned things out, I have been EXTREMELY successful. For example... the Forest Walk game in the tips section of the Sosuave homepage. I planned that out, and it worked great! I also planned out a gag where I would pick up the book "Sex for Dummies" at Barnes and Noble and hold it really close to my face while I walked around. Again, I was wildly successful.

It's as if I'm ACTING. Whenever I do things out of my comfort zone, it helps if its part of a plan. Since I have rehearsed getting OUT of my comfort zone so many times, I can escape it a lot easier. Like a fire escape plan. If you PRACTICE escaping from a burning home, then chances are you'll live. If you smell smoke and then you have to WING IT? Well man, rest in peace.

Why do professionals advocate visualization and "shadow boxing"? Because it WORKS. It works for athletes, it works for comedians, it works for executives giving presentations, and I'll be damned if it didn't work for me! I'll give you my results for sure.

 

[Duke]

And yes, I realize the post sounds obsessive and stalker-ish. What if I was describing how I'd escape my house if it were to catch fire in the same detail? It wouldn't sound freaky at all. But because I described SOCIALIZATION in such an exact manner, ur a little freaked out. Well dude, pretty much anything can be narrowed down to a science, including seduction.

If you think MY post sounds freaky, you should spend some time at ASF. I still firmly believe that this will lead to success. A little jab at my ego isn't going to convince me that this won't work.

 

[Duke]

The following is a direct quote from the book Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. All credit goes to Mr. Maltz.

Excerpt from the chapter "Imagination--The First Key" Practice Exercise:

"Hold a pictire of yourself long and steadily enough in your mind's eye and you will be drawn toward it," said Dr. Harry Emerson Fos****. "Picture yourself vividly as defeated and that alone will make victory impossible. Picture yourself vividly as winning and that alone will contribute immeasurably to success. Great living starts with a picture, held in your imagination, of what you would like to do or be."

Your present self-image was build upon your own imagination pictures of yourself in the past which grew out of interpretations and evaluations which you placed upon experience. Now you are to use the same method to build an adequate self-image that you previously used to build an inadequate one.

Set aside a period of 30 minutes each day where you can be alone and undisturbed. Relax and make yourself as comfortable as possible. Now close your eyes and exercise your imagination.

Many people find that they get better results if they imagine themselves sitting before a large motion picture screen-- and imagine that they are seeing a motion picture of themselves. The important thing is to make these pictures as vivid and detailed as possible. You want your mental pictures to approximate actual experience as much as possible. The way to do this is pay attention to small details, sights, sounds, objects, in your imagined environment. One of my patients was using this exercise to overcome her fear of the dentist. She was unsuccessful, until she began to notice small details in her imagined picture-- the smell of the antiseptic in the office, the feel of the leather on the chair arms, the sight of the dentist's well-manicured nails as his hands approached her mouth, etc. Details of the imagined environment are all-important in this exercise, because for all practical purposes, you are creating a practice experience. And if the imagination is vivid enough and detailed enough, your imagination practice is equivalent to an actual experience, insofar as your nervous system is concerned.

The next important thing to remember is that during this 30 minutes you see yourself acting and reacting appropriately, successfully, and ideally. It doesn't matter how you acted yesterday. You do not need to try to have faith you will act in the ideal way tomorrow. Your nervous system will take care of that in time-- if you continue to practice. See yourself acting, feeling, "being" as you want to be. Do not say to yourself, "I am going to act this way tomorrow." Just say to yourself--"I am going to imagine myself acting in this way now--for 30 minutes--today." Imagine how you would feel if you were already the sort of personality you want to be. If you have been shy and timid, see youself moving among people with ease and poise--and feeling good because of it. If you have been fearful and anxious in certain situations--see yourself acting calmly and deliberately, acting with confidence and courage--and feeling expansive and confident because you are.

This exercise builds new "memories" or stored data into your mid-brain and central nervous system. It builds a new image of self. After practicing it for a time, you will be surprised to find yourself "acting differently," more or less automatically and spontaneously--"without trying." This is as it should be. You do not need to "take thought" or 'try" or make an effort now in order to feel ineffective and act inadequately. Your present inadequate feeling and doing is automatic and spontaneous, because of the memories, real and imagined, you have built into your automatic mechanism. You will find it will work just as automatically upon positive thoughts and experiences as upon negative ones.

 

[Duke]

Phew! That was a mouthful! But it's important because it is the foundation of my initial post and my inspiration to try out this experiment. No offense, Dirtheart, but I'm gonna believe Maltz over you. If I come back here and post a hideous field report, then you have every right to laugh at me. But if it turns out half as decent as I think it will, then I am going to be too excited to laugh at you.

Either way, I hope we can still be friends cuz I've read a bunch of your posts and you seem like a cool dude. Cheers, padnuh!

 

[Duke]

Originally posted by Dirtheart

I used to do this sort of thing all the time until I realised how much pressure and anxiety it caused me. I find it's much better to keep an open mind and keep all hopes and fantasies at bay.

NOT having a plan and fearing that I am unprepared causes ME pressure and anxiety. If I have some semblance of a plan, then I am better off than 90% of guys.

My mind IS still open. I'm simply "envisioning" success. As Maltz said-- if you envision something enough, then you won't even have to "try" or "take thought" to put it into action.

 

[Dirtheart]

I'm sorry Duke if it sounded like I was digging at you. It was not intended that way at all, and I certainly wouldn't laugh if it doesn't work out.

I do believe that imagination has a very powerful influence over the mind, but in this context I am concerned that this kind of visualisation stirs a lot of emotion and you might end up falling in love with this girl too soon, or at the very least, you might feel closer to her than you actually are.

I used to do this with a lot of girls I just started dating. After the first date I spent a few days visualising our next date, what I would do and how great it would be. But just by visualising it I caused myself to develop a strong infatuation with her. I basically expected to meet up with the girl from my visualisation (the girl of my dreams), but instead I met up with a girl who, in reality, barely knew me and was still playing things cool.

I'll even admit that I did become a little freaky and obsessed at times as I became very attached to the fantasy I'd created.

Don't get me wrong, I DO believe that visualisation works. I have used it for things like presentations, overcoming fears and other situations. It helps to develop familiarity with the scene and give you ideas how to cope with it. But be careful thinking too much about a woman because your imagination can trigger a lot of deep feelings.

But regardless, I hope you haven't take offence at what I've written. I hope it does work for you and I wish you the best of luck with your date!

 

[balla]

Another problem is that by fantasising about a girl this way, you are feeding your emotions and creating attachment. You'll start to think you know this girl better than you do and you'll expect her to react like the person you have mentally created. But when it comes to reality, you'll be unprepared when things don't go according to your visualisation.

I agree. I think if you have such a detailed plan ppl will rely on that and when things don't go as planned ppl will freak out. Plus some might get oneitis by doing this about a girl a lot. Keep building her up in their fantasies.

I like the idea of visualizing though as an outline. I prefer less specifics though. Its always good to have some kind of plan.

 

[Duke]

Woo! Tonight rocked. Everything went almost exactly how I wanted it to. Not EVERYTHING went the way I envisioned it, but that wasn't the purpose of the exercise. The purpose of the exercise was to visualize myself succeeding. And DAMN did I succeed.

Short story is that I ended up making out with a girl that had a few months back LJBF'd me. The mental picturing was KEY tonight. The conversation flow was awesome and I used a few of the things I imagined like teasing her after I asked her if she wanted anything to drink and telling her to lift her head so I could put my arm around her.

NO, I did not become obsessed with her and get one-itus. I simply ALLOWED myself to succeed and got out of my comfort zone. TRY Mental Dating. It worked wonderfully for me. You've got nothing to lose.

-Duke

 

[Dirtheart]

Congratulations on both your successful date and for finding a technique that worked for you. If it worked this time, I'm sure it will work again.

Unfortunately I tend to nurture my feelings along with my visualisations, so has often ended in disaster for me. But as long as you can avoid attachment then full credit to you. I read your journal entry and she sounds keen!

Best of luck!

 

[DJ Alejandro]

the thing about here is that at the back your mind you should also realize that what you're doing is just conditioning yourself to increase your chances of a positive response but NOT forget that you should prepare for the worst too.

 

[Duke]

Dirtheart
Thanks for the props! Yeah, I know what you mean. I didn't really get attached to HER when I visualized. I got attached to the idea of SUCCESS with her if that makes any sense. Would I have been disappointed if it had gone badly? Heck yeah! But I don't allow myself to think about that when I'm visualizing. Thanks for reading my journal entry. It's long, but...yeah.. it's long.

DJ Alejandro
Oh, by all means. There's no question that I'm conditioning myself for positive results. If I don't, then I condition myself for negative results, which I don't want. You can't destroy those negative thoughts by willpower alone, though. You have to replace them with POSITIVE thoughts. So instead of focusing on what can go wrong, I focused on the GOAL--what I WANTED to happen.

If "the worst" happens, then what's the WORST that could happen? I go for a kiss and she pushes me away? Big deal, hurt ego. So I didn't even allow myself to THINK about failure. That would only generate negative imagery and feelings.

I thought about how I was going to succeed, which produced positive imagery and feelings.

President Eisenhower was once asked, "Mr. President, what if Operation Overlord had not succeeded?"

He replied, "It would have been bad. However, I don't allow myself to think that way."

 

[Duke]

Yet more evidence from another book...

The following excerpt is from Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive
by Harvey Mackay William Morrow and Company, Inc. 1988
pp. 84-85

I came to realize that fantasizing, projecting yourself into successful situations, is one of the most powerful means there is to achieve personal goals.

It's what an athlete does when he comes onto the field to kick a field goal with three seconds on the clock, sixty thousand people in the stands, thirty million watching on TV, and the game in the balance.

As the kicker begins his move, he automatically makes the hundred tiny adjustments necessary to achieve the mental picture he has formed in his mind so many times...since he was a kid...the picture of himself kicking the winning field goal. Great athletes seem to have something in common: the ability to project. Even in the middle of the action, they see things happen a split second before they happen.

Human survival itself often depends on a kind of future vision, seeing oneself in specific situations as a healthy, thriving, creative person.

There was a study done of concentration camp survivors. What were the common characteristics of those who did not succumb to disease and starvation in those camps? I met a man named Victor Frankl who was a living answer to that question. he was a successful Viennese psychiatrist before the Nazis threw him in such a camp. "There is only one reason," he said in a speech, "why I am here today. What kept me alive was you. Others gave up hope. I dreamed. I dreamed that someday I would be here, telling you how I, Victor Frankl, had survived the Nazi concentration camps. I've never been here before, I've never seen any of you before, I've never given this speech before. But in my dreams, in my dreams, I have stood before you and said these words a thousand times."

Dream on.

 

[Duke]

My comments will be preceeded by ">>"

Originally posted by Duke
Mental dating? WTF is that!?
The goal of mental dating is to see yourself on a date in your mind's eye, and in EXCRUCIATING DETAIL, envision yourself succeeding. AFCs never have a plan. DJs alway have a plan.

Assume the sale and go from there. When you are imagining the date, ONLY IMAGINE POSITIVE OUTCOMES. If you think that you will lose, then you have already lost. If you think that you will win, then you have already won.

Remember... detail, detail, detail!! Picture EVERYTHING the way it would be if you were actually there. Sights, sounds, the sensation of touch, even smells. "The mind cannot tell the difference between reality and a vividly imagined experience."
- Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz

Later today, I'm going to have a movie date with this girl I know called HBCrazy. The following was taken mostly from my private journal and serves as motivation and an example of mental dating. Let the fun begin!

Dark, warm night. I find a parking spot at the movie theater. Since the tape player is broken, pop-radio songs linger in my head. I shake them out and replace them with the Face to Face line, "Inhibition and indecision are quite the same to me."

>>I was right, and I succeeded in shaking the AFC pop-rock from my head.

So it is clearly time to step it up and be decisive--that's what she's looking for. She likes you already--she definitely finds you attractive. It's your job-- and your job only-- to solidify the belief in her mind that you are fearless. Least of all of a little girl.

"Whatever happens, I can handle it" rings through your head. You see HBCrazy in your mind's eye sitting at a table at Barnes and Noble (our rendezvous point), waiting.

dream sequence while in my truck...
In the next moment, you're at her house and she's giving you a fukking insane bl0wjob! She looks up into your eyes as she tightens the suction of her lips around the middle of your shaft and dancers her tongue along the underside.

>>I did visualize this, and it helped me get into state.

The next scene, you are walking towards the theater with her. Then she's spread eagle on her bed, holding her pvssy open for you. her nude body shimmers and her eyes flick at you in anticipation. Through quick, shallow breaths, she gets out, "Fukk me, Duke. Please Duke. Fukk me." It's time to move.
dream sequence ends

I get out of my truck, grab my wallet, phone, and keys, and I lock the door. I shut the door and begin walking towards B&N. I walk slowly with my shoulders straight and my head high like an inflated balloon.

>>I did all that. Since I wrote it down, I remembered it doubly. It was like I was living a scene from a movie I wrote. The scene was destined to happen. I only needed to carry out the actions.

You find HBCrazy sitting or standing, just as you had imagined, at or near a B&N table. You make eye contact with her and give her a warm smile. Your words are LOUD and they flow like honey in a sing-song, deep pitch. You speak with the eloquence and assurance of a newscaster.

You remember that women's weak spot is ACTION. They are master communicators, but men create ACTION.

You keep approaching and say, "Hey, HBCrazy. Long time no see!" You are in a fukking GREAT mood right now. Nothing can stop you and success is virtually guaranteed.

>>I greeted her with something like this.

I lean forward and kiss her on the cheek. I pull back slowly and I speak SLOWLY. Everything is done extremely slowly. I maintain eye contact and ask with a smile, "Are you ready?"

>>I didn't kiss her on the cheek because I planned that part out of context. I hadn't done it before, and she would've given me a weirded-out reaction. I followed my gut instead of the outline.

I wait for her to say "Yes" and promtply remove the smile from my face. With a totally straight face I look her in the eyes and say, "I don't think YOU'RE ready for THIS jelly." (I've done this one in the mirror. It's pretty fukking funny.)

>>Yeahhhh.... I found that THAT line was a little too cheesy in context.

She laughs and we get up to walk toward the theater. We walk side by side. Seven or eight seconds after we start walking I say, "Wait" and use my arm to halt her. At this point she'll be thinking "Huh? WTF." I pat down her stomach and find that she got her backbrace removed (she broke her back a few months ago in a 4-wheeler accident).

>>I said something like "let's go" and I did pull this backbrace shinanigan. Whenever I stopped her, she was like "WTF", but I was like "Whoa, you're not wearing your backbrace! Sweet."

I remark sarcastically, "Well, looks like you're not the Bionic Woman anymore!" She will probably say something like "You knew I didn't have a backbrace! You just wanted to feel me up!"
At which point I say "Darling, I don't see you that way" and smack her ass. (mixed messages)

>>She goes "Yeah, first time I've been out without out." I go "Yeah, you're not the bionic woman anymore. She laughs.

Or she might just laugh. Either way. No matter what she says, I smack her ass after I feel her stomach. And there is nothing she can do about it! Muuwahahaha. *Ahem*

>>I didn't smack her ass, once again, because of context. She wasn't in the right state, and our previous interactions had not set the right frame for this to happen.

This might branch off into an intense butt-slapping contest!

>>I was thinking in terms of SUCCESS. That's the important part.

We make our way to the ticket-master, and I ask her how her summer has been going. I follow up with "What has been your favorite thing about this summer so far?" After she answers, I draw out her responses onto something positive. "Oh, Gulf Shores huh? I bet that parasailing was RAD!" And I let her take it from there.

>>The walk wasn't actually long enough to say all this. We went onto different, more spontaneous tangents. One of them involved her birthing black children. Funny stuff

She'll inevitably ask me the same question I asked her, "So, Duke, what is YOUR favorite thing about this summer?" Well, I just so happen to remember that the LESS I reveal about myself, the BETTER. So I reply with, "It's a tough call, but I have to say it's been my pimping business. Oh god, it really took off!"

 

[Duke]

Her: *laughing* "No, seriously."
Me: Yeah, seriously. Just because I'm white doesn't mean I'm not a pimp. Stop being racist. By the way, where's my money?
Her: What money?
Me: *shakes head*

We walk into the theater and await previews. I ask her if she wants anything to eat or drink. She will probably say "No." So I reply "Good. I wasn't gonna get you anything anyway!" and walk away before she can say anything.

>>This happened EXACTLY the way I predicted it would. She said no, and I hit her back with a ****y response.

If she says "Yah I want this and this," then I say "Well then you better go get it before the movie starts!!" Heheh. Cuz she probably thinks I will go buy it for her. Get it?

I come back with a Vanilla Coke or whatever and the previews start. We are sitting in the back row of course (MakeOut Valley as I like to call it) and I prop my feet up in the chairs in front of me. I tell her, "Make sure you let me know if my feet are blocking your view" and stick my foot right in her face.

>>This went exactly as planned as well. I came back with a Vanilla Coke and blocked her view with my feet. She got aggravated and tried to convince me to take them off. I wouldn't and she steamed like an oven.

She'll brush it away from her, no doubt, and I'll continue to sit back smugly in my seat. The stench of popcorn fills the air and M&M and Coke commercials commence to playing.

>>This happened exactly as I predicted as well *sigh*

When the Coke commercial plays, I say "Coke is bad for you. It has way too much sugar" and take a big swig of my Vanilla Coke. I will then offer her some. If she accepts, I'm in like Flynn. If she declines, then she might really be against colas. But she's here with me and that's all I REALLY need to know she's interested. Aside from her flirting with me all the time.

>>I say "Coke's so bad for you!" She goes "Yeah but I love it!" I drink some of my coke. "Do you want any?" "Nah, no thanks, she says." Hmmm...

I tell her to "Sit up" for a second. I put my arm around the back of her chair. I say "Ok, you can sit back down, now." I think it's better to do this than just put your arm around her spur of the moment or be cheesy and "yawn" to do it. It's like saying, "Yeah I'm putting my arm around you in plain view because I want to."
Very confident.

>>This move is SO MONEY. It's a combo of leading, letting her know you're a sexual being, and kino all rolled into one. It's simply FAAAAABULOUS! It's really good. Trust me.

Previews continue and I give her a good once-over with my eyes. If anything catches my eye, I'll be sure to ask her about it. She is definitely going to wear jeans, so I'm gonna push/pull her. "I like these jeans, but I think you should have worn shorts instead. They would make your ass look better."

>>She actually took the cue I gave her on AIM and WORE SHORTS. I made some comment about that. I think I said "Whoa! So you actually wore shorts this time! I wasn't expecting that. Bonus points!

Movie starts. I ask her what perfume she's wearing. Doesn't matter what she says. I sniff her. And I move in closer each time, just letting my breath fall on her neck. Now there's a chance she might say "What are you doing?!" and I'll simply reply "Well genius, it looks like I'm smelling you!"

"Ah, you smell like tropical fruitberries and wild citrus. Ahhh"

>>Another extremely money tactic. They can't resist this! It's a lot of fun, too. My only concern is that it might get old if you do it over and over. Or it might be a Pavlov's Dog type of deal where they get horny every time you smell them. Ideas?

Time wears on. Getting her horny, yadda yadda. I whisper in her ear "Let me see your hand." And I take her hand in my free hand. We hold hands and I message it. I tell her that her hands are soft. Whole point of this is to get her feeling girly and feminine and horny.

I initiate a thumbwar with her. "1, 2, 3, 4, I declare a thumb war!"
After I beat her, I simply make eye contact with her and smirk and lift my eyebrows in a "Who da man?" expression of dominance.

>>Yup, I did this. I won, and she relented, being more submissive to me than she ever did in the past.

Now hopefully my charms will start to wear on her around 1/3 of the way through the movie. If she leans into me, all the better. If I get nothing past what I've done 30 or 40 mins into the movie, I tell her, "Close your eyes. I have something for you." And then I kiss her breifly and act like nothing happened. At this point she either bugs out (but we are thinking POSITIVE SEE!!) or jumps me like a wild animal! Or she will sit there with a grin on her face. Probably the latter.

So I tell her, "Close your eyes again. I have something else for you." If she closes her eyes THIS TIME, then I am fukking IN, NO TURNING BACK. Full-scale make-out session right there. I will alternate gentle and passionate kissing, but I will avoid the cardinal sins of slobbering and shoving my tongue down her throat.

>>I didn't need to do all of that. She leaned into me, like Shygirl did. I had my arms around her, sitting almost sideways in my chair. She commented that I looked uncomfortable but I told her I wasn't (i really wasn't). I asked her if SHE was uncomfortable (easy out for her if she wasn't enjoying my kino). She goes, "No I'm good." Awesome

If I succeed at that, then I will rub her leg, and only god knows what will happen after THAT!!!!!

>>I actually did rub her leg. I got lower and lower down her thigh and to her ass, and she kept bringing my hand back up. I kept dropping it. Eventually I stopped cuz she was getting serious and I was breaking her state and igniting ASD.

WOOOOOOO!

I feel like I have done all this shyt already! I felt everything like it was really happening, AND I HAVE NO DOUBT IN MY MIND THAT I CAN PULL THIS OFF! I will throw you fellas a field report tomorrow after the date to let you know how things went. This is my first field-test of Mental Dating, so I'll let you know how it goes.

But goddamn, I believe it will work. Ever had to deliver an oral presentation? Well you won't succeed at giving one unless you prepare frontwards and backwards. And I am fully prepared for tomorrow. I'm gonna ace this shyt! Wish me luck!!

>>I did do it all pretty much just like I imagined. The night ended with a makeout session in her car. I owed a lot to my ability to embrace my sexuality and my desires, but I also owed a lot to outlining the night. I hope some people will try this out, as I guarantee that if you do it RIGHT (how I described it in the premiere post of this thread), then you WILL most likely get the results you want.



-Duke [/B][/QUOTE]

 

[jakethasnake]

Interesting.

 

[duke007]

BUMP!

This thread provides an excellent practical example! I have a date tonight and I've already been visualising how it will pan out. On previous dates I have used one or two pre-planned moves or conversation threads that came out successful. It definitely makes you feel in control.

Excellent work Duke! Are youi still using this technique?

 

[Duke]

I stopped for a while, because I didn't make it a habit, but I am definitely going to re-use this. It has served me very well in the past, and recent examples from Tony Robbins have again shown me the power of this technique.