Men in relationships that would rather jack off than bang their gf/wife

[CornbreadFed]

Hot Take: Sex is overrated after you figure out how to get it easily.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I think this is an excellent topic. I firmly believe the bedroom is the litmus test to the quality of the relationship.

As someone who has been down this path myself, I can think of a (non exhaustive) quick few reasons this happened:
- Personalities and mutual interests drifted over time / Disingenuous courtship / Ignorance of the truth
- Stressors / self-centered mentality / lack of empathy
- lack of exercise & health
- masturbation

Jordan Peterson is publishing a series called ‘On Marriage’. I may go give it a try

 

[SW15]

Hot Take: Sex is overrated after you figure out how to get it easily.

That is a hot take. I don't think that the majority of men get close to that point in life. A lot of men stay in longer term relationships and get married to ensure continued access to sex.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Hot Take: Sex is overrated after you figure out how to get it easily.

That is a hot take. I don't think that the majority of men get close to that point in life. A lot of men stay in longer term relationships and get married to ensure continued access to sex.

Most of the time, it's up to the man to keep the sex from going stale, but if guys are only interested in treating women as cvm dumpsters, the sex will get stale quite fast.

I think many guys don't consider a woman's pleasure important enough to get some good education.

I'm fine with that, though. More willing kinky poesy for me.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I concur.

The reality of most long-term relationships is that we become complacent and comfortable. It is almost inevitable.

Those "trendy-happy" couples you see on Youtube/IG are fake. Very few LTR keep it "fresh", "hot", "exciting", "new", or "all smiles".

The biggest reason is the "new and exciting" factor. And worse if she gains weight and ages.

Lastly, I am one of those believers in evolution and biology. The necessity and desire to spread our "seeds" as much as possible to secure our offspring's (genes) survival is still in our psyche and genetic code. So even if it is a "perfect" relationship, men will always crave that.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Couldn’t one just close his eyes & fantasize while fvcking his wife?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Couldn’t one just close his eyes & fantasize while fvcking his wife?

Sometimes even with a hot chick I’ve been schtooping for a while sometimes I will briefly think about another gal I’ve been with. It’s not that the sex isn’t good it happens even when it’s outstanding sometimes. No idea why.

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Couldn’t one just close his eyes & fantasize while fvcking his wife?

That stuff works for women while men are visual and direct.

Women dream about being railed from james bond after drinking champagne, men cant close their eyes and pretend that fat ass is brianna banks.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

That stuff works for women while men are visual and direct.

Women dream about being railed from james bond after drinking champagne, men cant close their eyes and pretend that fat ass is brianna banks.

I guess this Banks doesn't have a fat ass, but if someone is not into fat asses, what are they doing wifing up a land whale?

 

[MatureDJ]

Hot Take: Sex is overrated after you figure out how to get it easily.

I guess I am not overrating it then.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Further elaboration, but I just like the hunt and chase and knowing that I successfully got to see this girl naked or have her finally submit to and worship me. The actual fvcking part, I get tired of within a minute lol.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I just like the hunt and chase

The dopamine high of the seducer

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

I guess this Banks doesn't have a fat ass, but if someone is not into fat asses, what are they doing wifing up a land whale?

The problem is that there are no such things as "breach of contract" on modern day marriages when it comes on womens weight and ass size.

For example in order for me to make sure my gf (not my wife...just my gf) maintains the size I consider acceptable, I need to make fun of every fat girl we see and how I believe their husbands have full right to cheat endlessly.

 

[Smok1nAce]

where do you start and begin?


Low T, porn, the modern masculine fat woman, dudes marrying young and settling for a woman way below their standards, the instant gratification society we live in.

It all equals to a ***** whipped dude...if your 25+ and still masturbating you went wrong somewhere especially if you have a girlfriend.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

For example in order for me to make sure my gf (not my wife...just my gf) maintains the size I consider acceptable, I need to make fun of every fat girl we see and how I believe their husbands have full right to cheat endlessly.

My lovers know they have to remain attractive to me or I might stop giving them my attention and validation. And since my attention and validation never came for free, they don't want to lose what they worked for.

I don't need to make fun of fat women, because they know that fat women 'don't exist' for me as sexual beings. I don't 'settle' and even having a dynamite body doesn't make them a shoe-in for my affection. They don't want to get to a point where I no longer think they're attractive, so I don't need to control their weight. They will make sure I stay attracted.

 

[RickTheToad]

Medically speaking, a male is up to 80% less likely to develop prostate cancer if they ejaculate at least once a week. So, if you are not getting the release from sex, masturbation is the way to go and is healthy. When it interferes with your life; then it's a problem.

Some do not want to deal with females or they are afraid of STDs. Honestly, it can be a zillion different things.

 

[Murk]

That's still a "you" problem !!!

You've settled for a woman that is below your standards or has lapsed in standards and don't have the courage nor means to cut ties and be single again.

Mental Illness ................ is Nature's way of clearing out the gene pool ............. guess what according to evolution and the natural world your mental problems are just a manefestation of your weak genes ........... Deal with it as best you can.

These issues all stem from the man in the situation unable nor willing to deal with said situation in the most drastic and beneficial ways.

We are not meant to settle down and play house, you chase your dreams and keep setting new ones and nearly all your problems will cease to exist because people will realise they cannot keep up with you and they will dip out. This keeps things easy.

And if being alone is too scary for you then you can always go back to a blue pill lifestyle !!!

I smell the incel on you. Defo not seen even 10 different vaginas let alone 20.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Medically speaking, a male is up to 80% less likely to develop prostate cancer if they ejaculate at least once a week.

Good to know my wanking was medically approved. I already knew that it was good for my foreskin, but my prostrate is also happy.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I smell the incel on you.

Cheetos, stale sweat, gym socks and lube?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Most guys have boring sex lives and most guys aren't very good in the sack to begin with so the women don't really feel the desire to initiate anything with them after a while...how much boring, lame sex can you have before it becomes better to watch a movie or read a book?