Incredible breakdown on the root of the 'violent male' myth and his subsequent disposability to society.
Outrageous since men built society!
http://www.saveindianfamily.org/articles/blogs/1062-chivalrous-men-cannot-protect-themselves.html
quote: "there is an invisible flip side to this social behavioral pattern and attitude. As long as men indulge in violence (often against other men) in order to protect others – women, children and senior citizens – its acceptable, but if the man makes any effort to protect himself from any violence from a woman, immediately he is tagged as selfish, violent, aggressive and devilish and even basic human rights are snatched from him. He is made to feel guilty even if he’s innocent and thus he accepts the abuse therein and suffers silently. After all, he is the Protector, if he cannot PROTECT himself, how can he PROTECT others?
As explained about Male Disposability in Male Disposability – Myth or Reality, men finished off with their utility are considered disposable and their abuse becomes irrelevant for the society. Same holds good for a man trying to protect himself. As his utility as a Protector is finished off, no one bothers about blatant violation of his human rights. He is a deemed criminal and deserves only punishment.
It is a proven psychological fact that no violence starts physical – it’s actually the emotional violence that precedes physical violence. Going by the above analogy, any man who is accused of physical violence (even true allegations) is actually trying to protect himself. But, as explained above, a man trying to protect himself, more often than not, finds himself at the receiving end of social abuse, social neglect and social death.
Having said that, I want to categorically mention that violence (in any form be it physical or emotional) is unacceptable. However, current social setups punish only the man when he is accused of violence by a woman, whether true or false. No attempt is made to understand the root cause of violence – the emotional violence that sparked the physical violence and the visibly failed protector is given no opportunity whatsoever to protect himself.
Such a trend, poised precariously against men, is extremely harmful and is a major reason of growing resentment of men towards society, relationships and commitments. Not only that, the invisible bias that exists against men – justified due to male disposability – is devouring the stability, lifeline and lifetime of relationships. It is one of the major reasons of skyrocketing suicides by men"
Outrageous since men built society!
http://www.saveindianfamily.org/articles/blogs/1062-chivalrous-men-cannot-protect-themselves.html
quote: "there is an invisible flip side to this social behavioral pattern and attitude. As long as men indulge in violence (often against other men) in order to protect others – women, children and senior citizens – its acceptable, but if the man makes any effort to protect himself from any violence from a woman, immediately he is tagged as selfish, violent, aggressive and devilish and even basic human rights are snatched from him. He is made to feel guilty even if he’s innocent and thus he accepts the abuse therein and suffers silently. After all, he is the Protector, if he cannot PROTECT himself, how can he PROTECT others?
As explained about Male Disposability in Male Disposability – Myth or Reality, men finished off with their utility are considered disposable and their abuse becomes irrelevant for the society. Same holds good for a man trying to protect himself. As his utility as a Protector is finished off, no one bothers about blatant violation of his human rights. He is a deemed criminal and deserves only punishment.
It is a proven psychological fact that no violence starts physical – it’s actually the emotional violence that precedes physical violence. Going by the above analogy, any man who is accused of physical violence (even true allegations) is actually trying to protect himself. But, as explained above, a man trying to protect himself, more often than not, finds himself at the receiving end of social abuse, social neglect and social death.
Having said that, I want to categorically mention that violence (in any form be it physical or emotional) is unacceptable. However, current social setups punish only the man when he is accused of violence by a woman, whether true or false. No attempt is made to understand the root cause of violence – the emotional violence that sparked the physical violence and the visibly failed protector is given no opportunity whatsoever to protect himself.
Such a trend, poised precariously against men, is extremely harmful and is a major reason of growing resentment of men towards society, relationships and commitments. Not only that, the invisible bias that exists against men – justified due to male disposability – is devouring the stability, lifeline and lifetime of relationships. It is one of the major reasons of skyrocketing suicides by men"
That's sad, man. That will be the die that I suicide, if it ever occurs.