Meetup dot com: Trash or Treasure?

[bonesmahoney]

There are some folks who discussed meetup as an option. It seems like it's switched to "virtual" events these days. Let's assume it returns to "normal" at some point or that actual meetups do occur in some places. Is this a platform that helps you meet attractive women?

I attended a few events a year in the past, but interested in your experiences as well. I assume quite a bit of variation from city to city.

 

[Georgepithyou]

If your into 50+ year old women sure, but in the younger demographic no

 

[bonesmahoney]

There are actually quite a few meetups (or there were) for younger adults. They're huge in large, metro areas, but even in smaller communities, many of the young adult groups are fairly active.

 

[logicallefty]

I’ve never attended a meet up for dating. But there used to be a singles group that met regularly at one of my regular after work watering holes. I was married at the time but I watched and listened to the group quite a bit. What I saw were about 60% men and 40% women. Out of the women that were there if there were 10 women in the group you would only consider wanting to date maybe two of them. The rest were very unattractive no matter your standards. And you guessed it. Every single guy was jousting and white nighting for the two best looking ones. It was one of the most pathetic scenes of adults socializing I have ever seen. I was embarrassed for the group and I wasn’t even part of it.

 

[sangheilios]

I’ve never attended a meet up for dating. But there used to be a singles group that met regularly at one of my regular after work watering holes. I was married at the time but I watched and listened to the group quite a bit. What I saw were about 60% men and 40% women. Out of the women that were there if there were 10 women in the group you would only consider wanting to date maybe two of them. The rest were very unattractive no matter your standards. And you guessed it. Every single guy was jousting and white nighting for the two best looking ones. It was one of the most pathetic scenes of adults socializing I have ever seen. I was embarrassed for the group and I wasn’t even part of it.

How long ago was this?

 

[logicallefty]

How long ago was this?

A while 2010 or so. When the online meetups first started.

 

[RickTheToad]

Banged a few females in their 20's back when I was there and you can actually go to events. As of right now, it's a waste of time.. Everything is virtual. FYI, don't go with the singles group, that's where the losers are. Go to the activities group.

 

[sangheilios]

Banged a few females in their 20's back when I was there and you can actually go to events. As of right now, it's a waste of time.. Everything is virtual. FYI, don't go with the singles group, that's where the losers are. Go to the activities group.

Do people actually consider a virtual meet up group as a form of socializing?

As for the singles vs. activities groups, I can totally see why one would be very awkward and forced, as people are there to meet someone. With an activities group at least you are there for the activity that you can enjoy and you are doing it with people who share similar interests (yoga, wine tasting, hiking, ultimate frisby, etc.).

 

[bat soup]

There are some folks who discussed meetup as an option. It seems like it's switched to "virtual" events these days. Let's assume it returns to "normal" at some point or that actual meetups do occur in some places. Is this a platform that helps you meet attractive women?

I attended a few events a year in the past, but interested in your experiences as well. I assume quite a bit of variation from city to city.

I joined but never actually went to any. I ended up completely forgetting about it. I have been to something similar though, which are couchsurfing meetings that are organised in a lot of cities around the world.

What I find is that there tend to be a lot more men than women and the women tend to be unattractive and/or turn up with their boyfriends. If there is one attractive woman, it's pretty much guaranteed she'll be surrounded by a circle of desperate men. Attention whoares love these meetings because of all the attention they get.

The other annoying thing I find at these meetings are the "practice my English on you" goblins. The moment you're alone some gob****e always latches on and asks a bunch of boring questions, one after another, and won't take the hint and go away.

Not to say you might not have better luck sometimes and it could be fun if you just feel like meeting new people (mainly guys). But I'd hardly call it a gold mine.

 

[RickTheToad]

Do people actually consider a virtual meet up group as a form of socializing?

As for the singles vs. activities groups, I can totally see why one would be very awkward and forced, as people are there to meet someone. With an activities group at least you are there for the activity that you can enjoy and you are doing it with people who share similar interests (yoga, wine tasting, hiking, ultimate frisby, etc.).

Sadly, yes. Until you can actually go do something in real life, Meetup is useless. If you want to see a sorry group of people, check out the single meetup groups. Unless their 1st time, the females are hideous. The dudes, and I use that term loosely, are like one's who just stepped out of their mom's basement after playing a dungeons and dragons marathon (still do not know what this is). It's why the good looking females rarely return. These are the dudes that life has generally passed over. It can be depressing. However, if you have your sh!t in order, you can land the average to attractive one's before they jet.

 

[bat soup]

Sadly, yes. Until you can actually go do something in real life, Meetup is useless. If you want to see a sorry group of people, check out the single meetup groups. Unless their 1st time, the females are hideous. The dudes, and I use that term loosely, are like one's who just stepped out of their mom's basement after playing a dungeons and dragons marathon (still do not know what this is). It's why the good looking females rarely return. These are the dudes that life has generally passed over. It can be depressing. However, if you have your sh!t in order, you can land the average to attractive one's before they jet.

OMG I'm fkking going. That sounds hilarious. After that I will go to a ballet group and compare the poon quality.

 

[Black Widow Void]

I've posted before about meetup. I've personally done fairly good on this platform.

I don't recommended the more 'dating related' groups though. The reason is because it's more incestuous (lots of town bikes that have been ridden by other fellow members).

The reason that I like meetup is because you meet women in an environment that they consider "nonthreatening." For those of us that are out of school (and I'm way past that age) it's like meeting a girl in class.

 

[RickTheToad]

OMG I'm fkking going. That sounds hilarious. After that I will go to a ballet group and compare the poon quality.

Hilarious and feeling sorry for the losers at the same time. Kinda like a real life dark comedy.

 

[RickTheToad]

Am I the only one who finds it weird that living with relatives and using entertainment media are somehow only considered to be a problem when men do such?

Sadly, it's more common than you think. A know a lot of dudes who live at home. IDK why.

 

[Paper Crane]

Its not a dating website and they usually block people from sending messages if you try hitting on girls. Most of the meetup groups are simply ploys to market/advertise restaurants, clubs, businesses and are usually formed by people who get paid from these businesses to bring in foot traffic.

Where it does work and what its useful for: niche interests, like Americans learning Japanese, people into card / board games, foodies, poetry groups, book clubs, etc

The only valid meetup groups I can think of that ARE on meetup are 1)Speed Dating events 2) Dance Classes . Both of these events/things you dont need Meetup to attend.

 

[SW15]

When Meetups were in person, I went. They were generally bad. It's trash.

While it is easier to do approaches in Meetup groups than on the street or in grocery stores, the quality of women at Meetups is low. 1-2 semi-attractive women may go once or twice, but they are swarmed by horny, thirsty simps. A guy who is normal can do ok there but its still a poor time investment even for that guy.