Meet chicks where?
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yungballa
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I meet girls at school or through my friends, like you. I've only ever done ONE cold approach in my life and it turned out horrible, lmao. I hardly lead the convo on for longer than a minute or 2. I still did the approach, though! So, who cares!
I like to be careful with social circle game though. I find that taking risks can be very dangerous for me in social circle game, as doing the wrong thing can easily tarnish reptuation...
I like to be careful with social circle game though. I find that taking risks can be very dangerous for me in social circle game, as doing the wrong thing can easily tarnish reptuation...
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BlueAlpha1
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It's been my experience that cold approaches rarely pay off unless you're a super alpha or a celebrity. It's always easier when there's plausibly deniability over something that's going on around you.yungballa said:
"What time does this place close?"
"Look, there's a fight over there."
"Do you where I can find store X?"
When I was in Europe, 'lost tourist' game yielded some friendly responses because it's far less awkard than "I was looking at you from over there and just had to say hello!"
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BlueAlpha1
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This is just one man's opinion and some people don't see as much value in these things, but I think of a guy who has one thing that stands out very obviously among other guys.yun-j said:
6'5" or taller
Drives an expensive car
In great shape
Celebrity status or great social proof
Top 1% game
Your average guy (myself included) doesn't have any of these things yet, so I have to mix and match when I cold approach. I'm not saying you won't succeed in your cold approaches, but you may get 19 rejections for every one number. It seems to me that you can meet girls incidentally without such a huge strike out rate.
NSX-R
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I have to disagree. I use 100% cold approach and i can say i have 70% success. The reason i do only cold approaches is because of my strict rule ''don't have anything more that friendship with the girls on my circle''.BlueAlpha1 said:
Trust me ,this way you are gonna escape many awkward situations.
You just have to feel normal (like you are talking to your best buddy) to make a cold approach succesful . The djbible teaches you many tricks on how to improve your game.
I d also suggest using a learning technique called chunking when you're practicing your cold approaches. So maybe week 1 is practising commenting on your environment to 5 girls. Doing a false time constraint so she's not worried about being stuck with you. And asking her something general like what's happening today to get her talking.
Do that for 1 or 2 weeks until it's absolutely automatic. Then add one thing maybe its a dhv story maybe it's practising question and then statement. Whatever you want to work on. But the key is practicing it for a couple of weeks. Because of course by now you have practiced the first steps for 4 weeks. Then you add one thing again and of course this time you ve practiced the first steps for 6 weeks . This way it moves past being canned material and just becomes second nature.
Want to get there without doing all this work well geez don't we all but I'm afraid the Easter Bunny won't help you with your cold approaches. Of course somebody will say just relax and be natural. But for most guys to come to this forum that's like asking a fish to grow legs.
Do that for 1 or 2 weeks until it's absolutely automatic. Then add one thing maybe its a dhv story maybe it's practising question and then statement. Whatever you want to work on. But the key is practicing it for a couple of weeks. Because of course by now you have practiced the first steps for 4 weeks. Then you add one thing again and of course this time you ve practiced the first steps for 6 weeks . This way it moves past being canned material and just becomes second nature.
Want to get there without doing all this work well geez don't we all but I'm afraid the Easter Bunny won't help you with your cold approaches. Of course somebody will say just relax and be natural. But for most guys to come to this forum that's like asking a fish to grow legs.
devilkingx2
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except places where you really shouldn't meet women.Poon King said:
doctor's offices(sick people), clinics(people with STDs), mental asylums(literally crazy people), therapist/psychologist offices(people with issues and baggage), hospitals(especially the mental ward and the ER), prisons(felons, scammers and psychopaths), etc.
If you take cold approaches seriously you are generally going to have a bad time. You really need to not give a sh*t for the best results. The moment you become concerned about "succeeding" and grabbing their number, you've lost. The focus should be to have fun. You should think of cold approaching as an opportunity to talk with someone and enjoy yourself. It doesn't matter who you are, if the person you're approaching detects even the slightest amount of desperation or insecurity the situation automatically becomes unnatural and awkward.yun-j said:
It doesn't matter what you say as long as you say it in style. That's "super alpha".
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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I tend not to force myself to cold approach, rather just do it naturally. When I read these cold approaches on here where guys are doing it extremely often or super well, I always wonder how. But then I've recently come to the realization that I do it just naturally. I don't do it often though so don't think that it's like I talk to 50 random chicks a day lol. But every once in a while, I'll just feel like talking to soembody. It tends to work well because I don't ever think about getting in her pants rather just talk.
BlueAlpha, you don't need to be 6'5 or taller (that's actually too tall. 6'1 - 6'3 is prolly the best) or be super wealthy, as that is all external. It does help though.
Social proof or top 1% game is more like social skills which is internal. In which case is true. But if the woman is of high quality and not judgmental, then you don't really need either as much.
That top 1% of social skills by the way have great social skills because they STRONGLY believe that they do and are EXTREMELY comfortable with themselves. And when when you believe as strongly as that, you no longer think it, you just are it.
BlueAlpha, you don't need to be 6'5 or taller (that's actually too tall. 6'1 - 6'3 is prolly the best) or be super wealthy, as that is all external. It does help though.
Social proof or top 1% game is more like social skills which is internal. In which case is true. But if the woman is of high quality and not judgmental, then you don't really need either as much.
That top 1% of social skills by the way have great social skills because they STRONGLY believe that they do and are EXTREMELY comfortable with themselves. And when when you believe as strongly as that, you no longer think it, you just are it.
Yewki and ITDG nailed it. Standard principle of gamification unless something is fun you stop doing it
My reply was more about the next step when you want to move beyond just being a friendly guy. Simple solution mix it up. First approach just b friendly. Next approach try one pick up move. Rinse and repeat
In between times start getting knownvin your neighborhood. B that guy who knows everyone's name.
My reply was more about the next step when you want to move beyond just being a friendly guy. Simple solution mix it up. First approach just b friendly. Next approach try one pick up move. Rinse and repeat
In between times start getting knownvin your neighborhood. B that guy who knows everyone's name.
NSX-R
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That's true,i can confirm it myself. Thanks to my work i talk to more than 100 people per day and i have developed my character to cope with every situation no matter if it's awkward or funny.ImTheDoubleGreatest! said:
This is something that comes natural when you are doing it often. After a while you will feel ''how stupid i was back then''.
It's like riding a bike. Before trying it for a couple of times you couldn't move for more than 2 meters before you fall .
Harry Wilmington
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Here's the thing about cold approaches: the reason they don't work as well for as many people is because it's not focused enough. You're basically running around like a chicken with his head cut off, going after any and everything and hoping for a win, instead of doing the smart thing which is choosing one or two targets you REALLY want and only spending your energy on them.
This is how I used to get women at parties - or rather, the ONE woman at a party I wanted to get with. I'd see other guys at these parties trying to hustle 5 or 6 women, and they'd end the night with NO one. Meanwhile, I'd study the party for the first half hour and find ONE girl I wanted to connect with. Then, I'd spend the next hour doing all the "social proof" stuff I needed to do (talking to the host, laughing with others, dancing my butt off to the music) without talking to her. After that, I'd find an excuse to get near her, do a "transitional convo" opener, and from that moment she'd be hooked enough to where I'd either get (a) a phone number, (b) a makeout session, or (c) a full-on hook up. And all this was able to happen because I was FOCUSED in my approach instead of scatterbrained.
Anyway... in answer to your question, though: parties and online dating is how I'd meet chicks the easiest.
This is how I used to get women at parties - or rather, the ONE woman at a party I wanted to get with. I'd see other guys at these parties trying to hustle 5 or 6 women, and they'd end the night with NO one. Meanwhile, I'd study the party for the first half hour and find ONE girl I wanted to connect with. Then, I'd spend the next hour doing all the "social proof" stuff I needed to do (talking to the host, laughing with others, dancing my butt off to the music) without talking to her. After that, I'd find an excuse to get near her, do a "transitional convo" opener, and from that moment she'd be hooked enough to where I'd either get (a) a phone number, (b) a makeout session, or (c) a full-on hook up. And all this was able to happen because I was FOCUSED in my approach instead of scatterbrained.
Anyway... in answer to your question, though: parties and online dating is how I'd meet chicks the easiest.
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I meet them everywhere - in the bus, in the queue, in the shopping mall, in the basement, in the museum (very hot girl flock here), churches, bars, night clubs, department store, college - but my favorite is the streets ... I can see them walking and it is also high energy because we will be moving around walking if the initial approach goes well ... 