people like David Deangelo talk about not giving a girl gifts except for a couple very special occasions a year. and not to give gifts too early, either. complication comes when you start dating and it's her birthday soon. umm. here's an excerpt i found ...
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In other words, I think that deep down, most of us guys
really want to treat women VERY WELL.
We WANT to do nice, thoughtful things for a special woman,
and have her do nice, thoughtful things in return.
Amen?
The problem comes when we go overboard and start using gifts
and favors TOO MUCH, and start communicating to the woman
that WE ARE OWNED BY HER.
If you're going to do wonderful things for a woman that you
care about, make sure that you do things that MAKE AN
IMPACT. And make sure that they AREN'T PREDICTABLE.
If you want to give her a nice gift that doesn't cost a
lot of money, cook her a meal, then give her a massage, and
finally wrap up with feeding her fruit in bed... etc.
Women want things that communicate THOUGHTFULNESS. Not that
they don't enjoy diamonds... lol. But if you do something
that says "I was thinking about you, and I wanted you to
have a great experience" it will make FAR more of an impact
than an expensive gift that wasn't chosen with care.
But as I mentioned, don't OVERDO the gifts and favors...
don't ever become PREDICTABLE.
And, interestingly enough, this can be a great test to see
how a woman can handle extra-nice treatment. If she starts
acting overly demanding and spoiled after you give her a
gift of thoughtful experience, then you might have a
damaged woman on your hands. Pay attention.
-----[credit: David DeAngelo]
yeah..
-JP
