A man who knows he's high quality will want high quality. A woman who knows she's high quality will also want high quality. To get a high quality woman we gotta be high quality ourselves, they don't settle for less just as we wouldn't. This means we have to possess the qualities we look for in others.
Hope I did that whole pasting in someone's quote properly...first time trying that...if not apologies!
Become your best self. Period. It doesn't matter who you are or where you came from. Be empowered in your own life. Water always seeks its own level. It gets said all the time because it is a basic truth. People who have accomplished something actually truthfully think differently than people who have not. People who are out doing things have learned how to harness their own personal power and it becomes a self-perpetuating cycle of "Gee THAT was cool (or not)... let's try THIS" while other people who are too afraid to try anything stand around uncomfortable because they cannot wrap their thought process around just DOING something. They worry about failure, they worry about saying the right thing, they worry about screwing up, doing it wrong...they worry themselves into inaction. INACTION is the problem. In business, in life, in interpersonal relationships, in everything.
Once you are a person who goes red pill and becomes empowered in your own life it becomes IMPOSSIBLE to undo. You can't unknow the truth once you have seen it. But good luck convincing others who don't have the courage to embark on the journey to find what the truth is. People can't believe in it until they grow the courage to DO it. Some people go faster down the path than others. Your entire outlook on people changes once you understand your own intrinsic value, make your own internal valuation. It changes EVERYTHING.
This gets back to "game" that you guys talk about. Inner game is the goal. Life game. Once you have inner game or life game you no longer need "game" or PUA or anything because you will emanate solidity of self in everything you do. People will be drawn to you all the time. You will speak with authority and people will listen. You will succeed in social settings because you don't care what other people think of you, you will attain success because you decide to and so on.
Think of it like this. Do not be fearful of the fire. Go through it. When you come out the other end you are changed. You are forged in the flames. You no longer fear because you know and understand how the fire will refine you. You learn to welcome it even though it is at times a hard process. Now you know what you are made of. Now you know who you ARE..And you will never be able to look at people who fear the fire the same way again. You can't.
At that point you look for other people who are also forged and refined in the flame. You can recognize that in others having been through it yourself. It is NOT gobbledegook (and if you think it is you are unwilling to endure the fire.)
I am only willing now to be involved with a man who has been through the fire because I have done so myself. I can't relate to someone who hasn't. The unattached men in that group are a small percentage of men generally speaking. The women who have done it on their own are an even smaller percentage (and I know there are men who have faced the fire WITH a woman alongside them for the process, forging them both, and I would suggest this is the ideal scenario in relationship) but not everyone is so fortunate.
For myself I enjoy people immensely, I enjoy men as people very much, and I am content to spend time by myself or with others (men or women). My value comes from within me and it confirmed by me. I am positive. I am never intimidated by anyone, and in my confidence I am happy for others to enjoy the limelight. I appreciate recognition but do not require it for my value. It is a liberating sense of being.
I like this forum for several reasons
1. I can see what other "forged" people have to say about handling different situations and be reminded that they DO exist (they can be rare to find day-to-day)
2. I can contribute where appropriate to help others see the potential in themselves and uplift others
3. I can encourage others to face the fire in their own lives and I can be reminded of the value of my own journey
4. Its an entertaining group
5. I can gain perspective about relationships and life that I would not otherwise have, which adds value for me as a woman and a mother of a teenage son
6. I can ask for advice from people with different perspectives if a situation arises that I am unsure of the best course of action and I can see various viewpoints
