This post is on getting rid of late virginity, which I define as being past college age, or 25. If you're a virgin this long there are probably reasons. The common ones would be
1) Highly Introverted/shy
2) Religious upbringing
3) Health problems that prevented it
Also, for your reference is this thread:
Help I'm Turning into the 40 Year-old Virgin
For the purpose of this post, I'm going to assume that #1 or #2 was true.
First, go through the DJ Bible. It has a lot of good information on what's really happening with sex and sexuality. The core idea that it drives home is that there is such a thing as male sexuality, and there's nothing wrong with possessing it or expressing it. A couple of questions you might have if you have little sexual experience.
What's the quickest way to get rid of this virginity? Well, assuming you're willing to risk the STD and chance of getting thrown in jail, you can always get a prostitute.
DON'T DO IT. Easy is not the same thing as best, and you won't have really learned how to do what you want to do, which is establish a sexual relationship with a woman.
Is it hard to get a woman to have sex It's not hard. It's more like having to press a bunch of buttons on a computer in the right order. If you know the order, then sex is no problem, but until the seduction community arose, there was no way to learn this in an easy fashion.
Is it somehow demeaning to a woman to be interested in her sexually and to let her know?
No, No, no! This is one of the main problems involved in getting guys out of the AFC mentality. Basically, women like sex, as do men. For some reason, feminists have managed to make female sexuality into some sort of wonderful, ethereal, beautiful, spiritual thing, while male sexuality is supposed to be base, harmful and degrading. These are all lies. Sex is sex and it's necessary to continue our species. Nothing wrong with that.
What do I do to get rid of it the right way then?
I'm defining "the right way" as being able to meet a woman, express sexual interest, and progress to the actual act of sex. This can happen in a relationship or in a one-night stand, as long as it's consentual. This is what you want to aim for.
Since I don't know what level you're coming from, I'll assume that you're very shy. If you came from a very religious background, you may need to deal with the negative beliefs and attitudes about sex first, then deal with the shyness, if any.
The DJ Bible and other sites outline a the "newbie quest", which is the first thing you do to get out of shyness. You go into a mall or crowded place and say "Hi" to every woman, regardless of age, or looks. You don't have to have a conversation, just pass by, make eye contact and say "Hi" until you've done this about 50 times and it gets old.
Next, it helps to develop yourself. Read the DJ Bible about fitness and fashion, and start working on them, while you develop your situational comfort with women. Even as you are, there's some woman somewhere who wants to have sex with you, so start paying attention to the clues. Take this post as a general outline, all the specifics are there on this site and in the DJ Bible if you search for them.
Work on your conversational skills. Do this by sarging and also by sitting down and thinking through what you want to happen when you're talking to a woman. What she'll say, and what you'll say.
If you keep this up, you will meet a woman, and you will get laid. One advantage Mature men have over their younger counterparts is that they have access to older women, who are less reserved about their sexuality, who are more mature, and due to their declining looks, are less picky because they more rarely receive invitations to relationships.
Some movies you might want to check out to help you develop the appropriate mindset:
The 40 year-old Virgin
Deliver us from Eva
Hitch
The Tao of Steve
Keep in mind that Hollywood movies always end with the male lead going AFC. So pay more attention to what they do at the beginning of the movie than what happens at the end*
*In The 40 year-old Virgin, the main character stays AFC throughout, but some of the supporting characters are DJs and it at least runs the gamut of the dating experience.
1) Highly Introverted/shy
2) Religious upbringing
3) Health problems that prevented it
Also, for your reference is this thread:
Help I'm Turning into the 40 Year-old Virgin
For the purpose of this post, I'm going to assume that #1 or #2 was true.
First, go through the DJ Bible. It has a lot of good information on what's really happening with sex and sexuality. The core idea that it drives home is that there is such a thing as male sexuality, and there's nothing wrong with possessing it or expressing it. A couple of questions you might have if you have little sexual experience.
What's the quickest way to get rid of this virginity? Well, assuming you're willing to risk the STD and chance of getting thrown in jail, you can always get a prostitute.
DON'T DO IT. Easy is not the same thing as best, and you won't have really learned how to do what you want to do, which is establish a sexual relationship with a woman.
Is it hard to get a woman to have sex It's not hard. It's more like having to press a bunch of buttons on a computer in the right order. If you know the order, then sex is no problem, but until the seduction community arose, there was no way to learn this in an easy fashion.
Is it somehow demeaning to a woman to be interested in her sexually and to let her know?
No, No, no! This is one of the main problems involved in getting guys out of the AFC mentality. Basically, women like sex, as do men. For some reason, feminists have managed to make female sexuality into some sort of wonderful, ethereal, beautiful, spiritual thing, while male sexuality is supposed to be base, harmful and degrading. These are all lies. Sex is sex and it's necessary to continue our species. Nothing wrong with that.
What do I do to get rid of it the right way then?
I'm defining "the right way" as being able to meet a woman, express sexual interest, and progress to the actual act of sex. This can happen in a relationship or in a one-night stand, as long as it's consentual. This is what you want to aim for.
Since I don't know what level you're coming from, I'll assume that you're very shy. If you came from a very religious background, you may need to deal with the negative beliefs and attitudes about sex first, then deal with the shyness, if any.
The DJ Bible and other sites outline a the "newbie quest", which is the first thing you do to get out of shyness. You go into a mall or crowded place and say "Hi" to every woman, regardless of age, or looks. You don't have to have a conversation, just pass by, make eye contact and say "Hi" until you've done this about 50 times and it gets old.
Next, it helps to develop yourself. Read the DJ Bible about fitness and fashion, and start working on them, while you develop your situational comfort with women. Even as you are, there's some woman somewhere who wants to have sex with you, so start paying attention to the clues. Take this post as a general outline, all the specifics are there on this site and in the DJ Bible if you search for them.
Work on your conversational skills. Do this by sarging and also by sitting down and thinking through what you want to happen when you're talking to a woman. What she'll say, and what you'll say.
If you keep this up, you will meet a woman, and you will get laid. One advantage Mature men have over their younger counterparts is that they have access to older women, who are less reserved about their sexuality, who are more mature, and due to their declining looks, are less picky because they more rarely receive invitations to relationships.
Some movies you might want to check out to help you develop the appropriate mindset:
The 40 year-old Virgin
Deliver us from Eva
Hitch
The Tao of Steve
Keep in mind that Hollywood movies always end with the male lead going AFC. So pay more attention to what they do at the beginning of the movie than what happens at the end*
*In The 40 year-old Virgin, the main character stays AFC throughout, but some of the supporting characters are DJs and it at least runs the gamut of the dating experience.
