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I lost my friend in that story not because I persued his girl, but because she persued me. My friend completely disolved our relationship because she was going after me.
allow me to tell you the whole story to the best of my recolection in shorthand so as not to bore you.
Met his girlfiriend, talked a little bit (with him there). When she left I told him that the girl was completely wrong for him.
He didn't listen (ok, w/e).
She broke up with him because he was too "clingy" (told him it would happen, and for that reason too).
She flirted with me remained friends with him. I told him she was flirting with her, so he tells her I said that! then he comes up with a hairbrained idea that it would be fun to **** with my head and have her openly flirt with me in front of him.
she doesn't go for it, gets my number from his cell phone.
texts me wants to chill. I tell him again that if he values our friendship than he needs to talk to her.
mind you he's trying to win her back (did i say clingy or what).
he get's pissed of at me for telling him that she's trying to get together with me and completely goes off on me for telling him about what she is doing.
disolves friendship.
I wouldn't recomend it, but I will say that it will test your friendship and if it's not strong enough you will loose a buddy of yours.
My BEST-friend however wouldn't care if it was an ex. hell he'd probably throw me the rubber and tell me to enjoy myself.
It's sh!t like this that defines an acquaintance and a true friend.