match with HB7 on Match, got number. Worth the drive?

[I_have_BDE]

I still use match from time to time but hardly anything within 50 miles of me or worthwhile in general anymore on there. Anyway, matched with a chick on there, 36, so just about 4 years younger than me, no kids, decent looking for her age. Anyway, as usually she's about 55 miles away from me. Career woman though. HR manager, HR director and just resigned from her job because she didn't like her boss and is starting her on HR consulting business in her words. Sounds like a nice lady when talking to her and conservative.

Is a lady like this a red flag? HR director?

 

[RazorRambo24]

Wouldnt even go 7 miles for a chick

 

[EyeBRollin]

Sure. One caveat: Make the date half way for the first meeting. Reason being, if she declines there is slim to no chance she will ever bother driving 55 miles to see you. And that is what it will take for this to be anything more than 2 dates.

 

[I_have_BDE]

Wouldnt even go 7 miles for a chick

Unless you live in Dallas, St. Louis, NYC, Chicago, Atlanta, LA, etc etc. that's not going to be easy.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Sure. One caveat: Make the date half way for the first meeting. Reason being, if she declines there is slim to no chance she will ever bother driving 55 miles to see you. And that is what it will take for this to be anything more than 2 dates.

I agree, make her invest in the date. Meet somewhere halfway, she'll be less likely to flake on you.

 

[SW15]

she's about 55 miles away from me.

Too far. It's likely not going to work. A woman might consider going 55 miles for a 'Chad'. Additionally, this woman likely lives in a more populated area than you do and likely has more options within 10 miles of her. Desirable women in general won't entertain longer distance options.

Wouldnt even go 7 miles for a chick

Unless you live in Dallas, St. Louis, NYC, Chicago, Atlanta, LA, etc etc. that's not going to be easy.

I do live in a Tier 1 one city like the ones @I_have_BDE mentions. When I used swipe apps, I limited my range to 10 miles. I also live in an area of my city with a high concentration of unmarried people. When using swipe apps (and dating websites prior to the invention of swipe apps), I noticed that it was challenging enough to get women living within 5-7 miles of where I lived to see me on a regular basis. This is due to female abundance as a result of swipe apps (and dating websites prior to that).

When attempting to arrange dates through in-person activities, I have generally also focused on women who live close to where I live. Almost all live within 10 miles, if not within 5-7 miles. If I meet a woman through in-person activities, I don't know if I'm competing against her abundance in a swipe app or in her Instagram DMs. It's still better to meet women in-person, but meeting women in-person who live close is no guarantee that she'll value the interaction much more than a random person on a swipe app.

 

[I_have_BDE]

Too far. It's likely not going to work. A woman might consider going 55 miles for a 'Chad'. Additionally, this woman likely lives in a more populated area than you do and likely has more options within 10 miles of her. Desirable women in general won't entertain longer distance options.





I do live in a Tier 1 one city like the ones @I_have_BDE mentions. When I used swipe apps, I limited my range to 10 miles. I also live in an area of my city with a high concentration of unmarried people. When using swipe apps (and dating websites prior to the invention of swipe apps), I noticed that it was challenging enough to get women living within 5-7 miles of where I lived to see me on a regular basis. This is due to female abundance as a result of swipe apps (and dating websites prior to that).

When attempting to arrange dates through in-person activities, I have generally also focused on women who live close to where I live. Almost all live within 10 miles, if not within 5-7 miles. If I meet a woman through in-person activities, I don't know if I'm competing against her abundance in a swipe app or in her Instagram DMs. It's still better to meet women in-person, but meeting women in-person who live close is no guarantee that she'll value the interaction much more than a random person on a swipe app.

Usually have to set filter for 40 miles. Even 15 miles just fatties or tats mostly. Match within 40 miles under 35 hardly anything. Fb dating, tinder undesirables in my location. Then when i visit a major city a lot more within short distance.

Why such a big discrepancy?

 

[SW15]

Usually have to set filter for 40 miles. Even 15 miles just fatties or tats mostly. Match within 40 miles under 35 hardly anything. Fb dating, tinder undesirables in my location. Then when i visit a major city a lot more within short distance.

Why such a big discrepancy?

Because you live in a craphole with a small population and a high median age of resident. Some places aren't good enough for dating. Most areas with under 150,000 in population don't have enough options for people 25+ to date. You need to move.

 

[Solomon]

I use to do 60 miles round trip for work, the last time I drove 50 + miles for a woman was 3 years ago after a break-up and I was in a drought, It was not worth it and very awkward since than the furthest I'v driven is 25 miles in the city (early this year) was recently dating a girl that I never had to drive to see her (she lived with her parents) she would always come to me which was nice( she drove 40 miles per trip frm wisconsin)

Now a days I can't be bothered going more than 25 miles unless the chick is a smokeshow (8+)

 

[I_have_BDE]

I use to do 60 miles round trip for work, the last time I drove 50 + miles for a woman was 3 years ago after a break-up and I was in a drought, It was not worth it and very awkward since than the furthest I'v driven is 25 miles in the city (early this year) was recently dating a girl that I never had to drive to see her (she lived with her parents) she would always come to me which was nice( she drove 40 miles per trip frm wisconsin)

Now a days I can't be bothered going more than 25 miles unless the chick is a smokeshow (8+)

I do 60 miles round trip and it sucks even though it's easy highway driving. Gas prices and car maintenance is a killer.

The last major city metro area i lived in literally everything was within a 20 mile radius in any direction. Needed shopping dr appt, go to the mall everything 20 miles and under. Hell mall was 2 mins from my house.

Where I live right now i have to drive 35 miles for an indoor mall. Major city I lived in before you only had to set filters to max 15 mile radius. Was no reason to look over 15 miles away on old. Hell sometimes 10 mile filter worked fine too.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Just about 4 years younger than me, no kids, decent looking for her age.

Yeah, I´d hit that. Go for it

 

[Barrister]

That isn't a red flag to stop you from going out with her. The distance is a little much for a first date though - hence why @EyeBRollin hit the nail on the head about meeting halfway. Not only does that lessen your drive time to something more reasonable for a first date, but it also lets you know how serious she is. If she hems and haws and insists you come all the way to her.....NEXT.

There are plenty of women closer to you that will give you more effort whether you live in downtown New York or rural Podunk, Arkansas. That would be a horrible start to your frame to drive all that way to see her -- even worse if the date is a dud.

 

[Solomon]

There are plenty of women closer to you that will give you more effort whether you live in downtown New York or rural Podunk, Arkansas. That would be a horrible start to your frame to drive all that way to see her -- even worse if the date is a dud.

Totally agree I've had numerous women in the past drive 2-3 hours to come see me. Granted usually I would never see them again after a hookup but if a woman is truly interested in you they will make exceptions. Personally, the longest relationship distance wise I ever had was 40 miles this was 14 years ago. Wasn't ideal but doable would I do it today? nope even in a small town there are women that live literally 10-15 minutes from me you gotta find them though

 

[Barrister]

Totally agree I've had numerous women in the past drive 2-3 hours to come see me. Granted usually I would never see them again after a hookup but if a woman is truly interested in you they will make exceptions. Personally, the longest relationship distance wise I ever had was 40 miles this was 14 years ago. Wasn't ideal but doable would I do it today? nope even in a small town there are women that live literally 10-15 minutes from me you gotta find them though

A number of years ago following my divorce I lived in a very small town (population 9000). While it wasn't Chicago, or even the smaller urban area I am in now, there were plenty of good looking, available women both in that town and in the surrounding area. Many of them were even HB 7-7.5 but were typically a little on the "trashy" side. Many times the local girls who graduated the local high school and never left or just came from the next town over. I was involved in dating apps at that point and I would sometimes match with women right at the limit I had set (50 miles). I always insisted on meeting halfway in those instances because it wasn't worth the drive when there were women right in my own backyard. I actually saw a 21 year old plate very regularly for about 3 months right after my divorce who was probably a HB 7 -- and she lived in the town just north of mine (10 minute drive).

I think it very rarely is ever worth that kind of drive for a first date. The point is there are available women literally everywhere - even if you think you are in smalltown Hicksville. And driving that far usually isn't worth it until a woman has truly proven herself to be worth her salt.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Unless you live in Dallas, St. Louis, NYC, Chicago, Atlanta, LA, etc etc. that's not going to be easy.

Oh believe me, its easy when you make them come to you or meet you somewhere in the city.

 

[Ricky]

Ive seen a number of women get involved in long distance relationships lately. in this case by long distance i mean them living several states away.

these distance relationships never work out but can drag on for multiple years at times.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

That’s an hour drive. Reasonable

 

[I_have_BDE]

Ive seen a number of women get involved in long distance relationships lately. in this case by long distance i mean them living several states away.

these distance relationships never work out but can drag on for multiple years at times.

And hardly any sex obviously.

 

[manfrombelow]

Sure. One caveat: Make the date half way for the first meeting. Reason being, if she declines there is slim to no chance she will ever bother driving 55 miles to see you. And that is what it will take for this to be anything more than 2 dates.

This.

OP's question actually has been posed numerous times by other people, and have been answered accordingly.

When the distance of travel is far, make her meet you halfway, that way at least you know she's also invested if she agrees.

If she doesn't submit to it, forget all about her and move on. 55 miles is too much work and investment and there's no concrete garuantee you gonna slay that pvssy. Even if you do slay that pvsssy, 55 miles still ain't worth it.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Corporate career women are the definition of hard work and unrealistic , thats why they are still single in their mid 30's by which point its really too late for them

I would expect her to be very masculine in nature and probably argumentative

If you like these types of women then by all means go for it

If you're going expecting a sweet one I wouldn't get my hopes up