Originally posted by insomniac
Another thing, is match now lets you know who has looked at your profile and how many times. Don't know what to make of that...seems to take even more of your privacy away.
Sounds like you've had success getting casual sex. Myself, I've just dropped everyone from the beginning because I wasn't that attracted, or if I was, I didn't want to deal with it. Still, how do you personally go about the casual sex with women off match? What's the progression? How do you determine which ones are up for it? I've never tried that route, but have thought about it.
I am glad I hid my profile before the newest feature. I might have dumped half of the girls I know from match for being obsessive stalkers. Maybe that's why it was developed.
I don't feel like a total expert, but maybe I am not a bad person to give advice to newbies because I am fairly new and I've been successful. Most of the women I contact from match are 7.0s and probably a bit below my ideal level of attractiveness. I still would think I did well if I picked any of these women up for a ONS, so I think the online thing is great but not perfect for getting some. The 8.0s on match are hard to pull, but I haven't really tried very hard. I am too busy with all the 7.0s. Very few 9.0s on match as these women are probably afraid of meeting a serial killer and I don't blame them.
You should follow the DJ bible word for word and you'll do fine.
Here's a bit of a summary but I recommend you read and follow the bible closely as that's how I kept on track.
1. You'll need a good photo, profile, and a catchy first email to initiate contact with a lot of women. Experiment and work the database hard.
2. After getting winked back, swap a few brief, interesting, and funny emails. Some of this gets a little cut and paste because it does take alot of time and you know when you put together something good. Don't get lazy and try to be real. Women can flush out a form letter a mile away. Pay attention to everything she emails, says, and thinks because all of this information are the clues to allow you to push any sexual tension between you.
3. Get the digits then call her. Don't email yourself to death. 3 is my limit unless she's really hot. Some women complain that I emailed them too much, weird.
4. The phone call is a science in itself. Please see the DJ bible. Short, sweet, and funny then set the date within 15 minutes and hangup because you're busy. This one girl I talked to a few days ago heard my cell vibrate as I was talking. She joked about how good that would feel for a woman. Bingo. I predict a very good first date. Always appear busy. Once you're successful, you will be busy with all the girls that want you.
5. Meet for coffee or something else cheap but fun in case she sucks and you want to bail. I haven't bailed on one yet but I came close last weekend.
6. Learn the bible. I use EC, kino, and many other rapport techniques. I'm part Italian and being handsy and intense is in my blood so this is my talent in escalating sexual interest. Using your eyes and getting to a point where you apply your touch is my best advice to fast seduction. Don't be shy and pay attention to her. When she laughs, give her a little squeeze and see how she responds. When you think she likes your EC, take her hand. Then take it away. Make her miss your game.
Listen real hard to what she says and she will provide you all the invitation you need if she's interested. If she's not, no biggie. There's more where that came from. Next. The rest of tit is just pure "don't screw this up and make her feel good" advice. Read the bible.
Overall, what works for me is pretty complex for the beginner, and I've been doing some of this for so many years its second nature. Give yourself time and build up slowly.
That's how I'm doing it. Pretty classic DJ stuff.
