Masturbation better than sex? Going soft ...

[FreeStyleZ]

Any other guys have a problem keeping it up during sex? I have been with about 7 girls (im not too old) and each time i was not able to achieve orgasm from just vaginal sex.. i had to pull out and jack off to that point. I dont think its the medicine im on since im able to masturbate just fine and achieve orgasm in less than a minute... so it could either be the condom, fact i dont know them on a deeper emotional level, nervous(maybe), or that im more accustomed to the feeling of my hand over pu$sy Anyone had this problem? I think i masturbate too often and at a pace that the vagina cant replicate (pretty fast)

 

[c-note]

I had the same problem. It could be that you are nervous or that you jack yourself too much. The best advice would be to stop jerking all for a week, then bang a girl and you should notice the difference. Your stuff should be harder during sex and you will enjoy the sex more.

 

[NewMan]

how many times have you had sex with these women?

It's sometimes happens to me the first couple times (max) I have sex with a new chick - but after that I'm fine.....

So perhaps it's that?

 

[FreeStyleZ]

Hmm that could be possible, i had sex with all of them just once.

 

[zimzum]

Originally posted by FreeStyleZ
Hmm that could be possible, i had sex with all of them just once.

what a dj...never a girlfriend... always *****s...mmm...yummy...

ok... I had the same problem... It happens for psycologicall reasons... If your feel insecure when your are going to **** a girl or something...just get a Viagra ...

 

[white_hype]

i guarantee you i know what your problem is

you are masterbating too much

try doing it 1-2 times per month MAX and see what happens... i am trying to follow my own advice but its hard as sh1t when i have the motherload of porn at my hands

last 2 weeks i didnt jack at all... i felt like a fvcking BARBARIAN, i was much more agressive and there was NO problems getting off... it also carried into other aspects of life (i lift weights and i felt more energy/stronger)

 

[G_S]

one word..


VIAGRA

 

[smooth666]

Originally posted by FreeStyleZ
Any other guys have a problem keeping it up during sex? I have been with about 7 girls (im not too old) and each time i was not able to achieve orgasm from just vaginal sex.. i had to pull out and jack off to that point. I dont think its the medicine im on since im able to masturbate just fine and achieve orgasm in less than a minute... so it could either be the condom, fact i dont know them on a deeper emotional level, nervous(maybe), or that im more accustomed to the feeling of my hand over pu$sy Anyone had this problem? I think i masturbate too often and at a pace that the vagina cant replicate (pretty fast)

What drugs are you taking?
Being able to masturbate in a minute does not mean too much.

Well, we all love pussies,but you are right your hand is always faster and therefore often more stimulating (mechanically) than a *****. It depends on the women and the position but you do not get that much of a "grip" in a *****. So if you are used to jacking off, your **** might just be too much used to a firm grip and a fast pace.
Maybe you should really give it a go like the guys above said and condition your **** to some other kind of stimulus.
Maybe try this: Jack off less often, do it MUCH slower (move your hand only as fast as you could actually "f***"), soften that grip so it gets as much "*****like" as possible. Spend at least 10 min jerking off,do not go for the ultra-stimulus-1-min-jack-off.

Cheers!

 

[quest]

yeah i've had 8 ONS, and 1 girlfriend, and now a casual partner..

only times i've ever blown from probably about 20 sexual encounters. super drunk, ignored condom use, and i blew (dunno how long it took or nothing) 2nd time i was drunk again, in a condom.. feeling nothing.. she wanted doggy style.. and man.. i blew in like 1 minute..
i really recomend that, if u can get them into it.. do doggy.. it was GREAT!

i was ****ing sober last sat night and i didn't blow, and i had no condom (casual girl i'm seeing)..
i was disapointed..
i think i have a prob with wanking too much..
i wake up in the middle of the night and i'm wanking.. and i find it SUPER hard to stop... it is very rare for me to wank less then 10 times a week.. i don't count, but i assume that i'm closer to twice a day then once a day..

 

[FreeStyleZ]

Well, all of these possibilities, im sure its one of them. Yes, I had masturbated 2 days prior to seeing her and this was our first time actually ****ing. I used a condom and was sober. When she was giving me head it stayed hard, but as soon as i put the rubber on and began hitting it from the back i went soft. Im going to try the advice here, b/c i think my **** is conditioned to be used to fast paced more aggressive stimulus's. Also if i felt more comftorable with her im sure that would help as well.

 

[FreeStyleZ]

white hype, you had the same problem before u cut back on your masturbating?

And smooth, im on SSRI's but i had the same problem even when I wasnt on them.

 

[quest]

everyone says feel comfortable..
i feel comfortable..
i totally think my prob is too much wanking, not enough doggy..
live and die by that and u'll be fine..

atleast i hope so. cause if ur not, i wont be!

 

[LuvMyArmyMan]

Originally posted by zimzum
what a dj...never a girlfriend... always *****s...mmm...yummy...

ok... I had the same problem... It happens for psycologicall reasons... If your feel insecure when your are going to **** a girl or something...just get a Viagra ...

its guys like you that give this site a bad rep

i agree, i think you're masturbating too much. how about training yourself not to cvm after one minuet? and holding your orgasms?

im sure some guys here could tell you how to do that....

 

[Ixnys]

I think if you don't jackoff and orgasm until you actually have sex with your girl, you shouldn't have a problem having an orgasm while having sex. Going a week without blowing will probably make you more sensitive and you shouldn't have a problem.

Or, before you see her you can jack-off that day, but not to FULL orgasm...just reach that point before you actually blow but don't go all the way. That might make it easier to reach orgasm when you actually start doing it with her. Kinda like doing some prep work before hand.

Or you can do what I mentioned, but right BEFORE you put your **** in her. I think you know what I'm talking about. That "hump" you get over while jacking off that puts you in that zone so that if you keep on going, you can reach full orgasm or if you don't you still are now in that zone that allows you to reach orgasm. Hopefully you understand what I'm talking about. Once you are in that "sensitive" zone, get inside her, start thrusting and it shouldn't take that long to orgasm.

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
its guys like you that give this site a bad rep

Pretty sure the first line was sarcasm.

 

[Big Pappy]

The last time I had that problem was because my *ick didn't trust the girl with my seed. It's purely psychological. Have a Vitamin E supplement and forget about it.

 

[NewMan]

Hmm that could be possible, i had sex with all of them just once.

This IS your problem. Trust me.

It's nothing to do with you masterbating to much. Perhaps if you did it 20 minutes before - otherwise forget it.

It may continue to happen until you get more experience c#ming with a chick.

You probably need a regular lay in order to break your track record.

 

[FreeStyleZ]

Ixny's

Ive done this before where after getting head I jack myself to that point of almost busting, and then i start thrusting and yes, it worked. But that's basically the same as jacking off. I dont want to have to stop in the middle of sex, jack off for a few mins and then continue in order to bust. And when im masturbating i dont blow in 1 min all the time, just mentioned that its possible as to say theres nothing wrong with me being able to bust.

New man

Yes i think this has something to do with it too, also meaning psychological and how comftorable i am with them. Im pretty sure that if I were to thrust something that felt like ***** (no i havent done this before lol, just for the purpose of giving an example) in the privacy of my own home that id be able to bust because id be able to concentrate on it.

 

[ToP DoN]

ask

your mom if she ever had this problem with guys before

 

[LuvMyArmyMan]

haha youre right MetalFortress. My bad.