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penkitten
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depends on the person and the situation.
i think most of the time people try hard not to look or think about other people when they are married. then one day they really arent as happy as they used to be and fights are happening left and right and the passion goes down the drain. instead of working with their spouse to fix the problems since the foundation is still there, they finally give in to the temptations and have the affair.
what is the point of having the affair? you dont get that much good out of it, but loads of problems.
even if you arent caught, wouldnt you have guilt?
remember , whatever you do behind your spouse's back = they are also doing to you at this very moment.
i think most of the time people try hard not to look or think about other people when they are married. then one day they really arent as happy as they used to be and fights are happening left and right and the passion goes down the drain. instead of working with their spouse to fix the problems since the foundation is still there, they finally give in to the temptations and have the affair.
what is the point of having the affair? you dont get that much good out of it, but loads of problems.
even if you arent caught, wouldnt you have guilt?
remember , whatever you do behind your spouse's back = they are also doing to you at this very moment.
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Thanks for the reply. I was just thinking at what point do things change. My best guy friend (I'm a woman, btw.) is fantasizing about this woman at his work and he asks me what to do. He says he thinks about her when he's pleasuring himself and that she's always there. He has already kissed her and it seems so dangerous.
Thanks for the reply. I was just thinking at what point do things change. My best guy friend (I'm a woman, btw.) is fantasizing about this woman at his work and he asks me what to do. He says he thinks about her when he's pleasuring himself and that she's always there. He has already kissed her and it seems so dangerous.
Rollo Tomassi
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Hmm,..no.
Sounds sappy I know, but no. People like to say, "cheat on your wife" when they should say "cheat on your marriage." I'm involved too and so is my daughter. If I cheat on my wife, I cheat on my daughter, I cheat on our families, I cheat on myself and everything I've built up to this point for the last almost 9 years. Yet another reason guys need to choose wisely or not at all in marriage. It's far too easy to be selfish and think that the consequence of cheating on a partner will only apply to oneself. This is never the case.
Sexual experience is a great thing and (especially for a guy) variety of experience is a continual quest. I have cheated on girlfriends and been cheated on by girlfriends, but in marriage the stakes are much higher and not just from a financial point, but an emotional, psychological, family, etc. point. I like the self-knowledge I have in saying I've never cheated on my spouse and I'd like to be truthful in saying this for as long as I'm married.
Now, that said, I don't think for a moment that a majority of women even approach being able to appreciate what men sacrifice in marriage or understand this temptation and the rationale for avoiding/overcoming it. The deal breaker for any marriage is sex. I have a fantastic marriage and wouldn't think of leaving my wife, but for 2 reasons, she cheated on me or refused to have sex with me ever again. If either of these occurances happened, I'd be single the next day. 99% of men's infidelity is caused by a single reason; the wife isn't sexual up to his expectations. Ladies, if you want to keep your family, lifestyle and man in a happy functional order, real easy - stay in shape and always have sexual desire, this is the key. Wives want to turn it into drama, or emotion or psychological or financial distress, but it really comes down to keeping the guy happy in bed. Fvck your husband regularly, let him know you're enjoying it and he will have far less motivation to seek intimacy elsewhere - this is so friggin' simple, but women approach it like it's brain surgery.
I'm a good dog, but you've gotta pet me to keep me on the porch.
Sounds sappy I know, but no. People like to say, "cheat on your wife" when they should say "cheat on your marriage." I'm involved too and so is my daughter. If I cheat on my wife, I cheat on my daughter, I cheat on our families, I cheat on myself and everything I've built up to this point for the last almost 9 years. Yet another reason guys need to choose wisely or not at all in marriage. It's far too easy to be selfish and think that the consequence of cheating on a partner will only apply to oneself. This is never the case.
Sexual experience is a great thing and (especially for a guy) variety of experience is a continual quest. I have cheated on girlfriends and been cheated on by girlfriends, but in marriage the stakes are much higher and not just from a financial point, but an emotional, psychological, family, etc. point. I like the self-knowledge I have in saying I've never cheated on my spouse and I'd like to be truthful in saying this for as long as I'm married.
Now, that said, I don't think for a moment that a majority of women even approach being able to appreciate what men sacrifice in marriage or understand this temptation and the rationale for avoiding/overcoming it. The deal breaker for any marriage is sex. I have a fantastic marriage and wouldn't think of leaving my wife, but for 2 reasons, she cheated on me or refused to have sex with me ever again. If either of these occurances happened, I'd be single the next day. 99% of men's infidelity is caused by a single reason; the wife isn't sexual up to his expectations. Ladies, if you want to keep your family, lifestyle and man in a happy functional order, real easy - stay in shape and always have sexual desire, this is the key. Wives want to turn it into drama, or emotion or psychological or financial distress, but it really comes down to keeping the guy happy in bed. Fvck your husband regularly, let him know you're enjoying it and he will have far less motivation to seek intimacy elsewhere - this is so friggin' simple, but women approach it like it's brain surgery.
I'm a good dog, but you've gotta pet me to keep me on the porch.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
Isn't that the truth.....
I'd like to say I would not.... But when it comes to sex with a hot woman - I am but human and at times weak.
I've cheated before with women that have not been hot...
So being honest - I'd probably have to say I'd do it......
rollthedice
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easy solution, SWINGING!!!!! if she's up for it its a great way to live out crazy fantasies and keep everything honest. its not for everyone but do a quick internet search and you'll find tons of swinger sights full of regular people who are living an honest, normal life and living out fantasies on the weekends that most people spend their lives masturbating about. my wife and I have been doing it for a few years now. our relationship is hotter than ever and it actually helps the whole love thing too.
Francisco d'Anconia
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If I were married, I would sleep with another woman only if I didn't mind my wife sleeping with someone else AND she wanted to AND she didn't mind me sleeping around. In other words, if we were both into swinging, yeah sure. However, it's not my style and I wouldn't marry anyone who wanted to do that type of thing. I don't mind that other people do it though, to each his own.
rollthedice
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dude, swinging isn't about going on "solo missions." we always do everything together. we don't just go out and sleep around. its about fulfilling fantasies and and doing something a little crazy every once in a while, proving to yourself you're still alive even though you're married!! very life affirming, not just sexual.
you're right though its really not for everybody.
you're right though its really not for everybody.