thecurtainfalls
Senior Don Juan
I'd like some advice from some of the more experienced men on where I possibly stand in this situation. I don't want keyboard jockey advice from virgins (the situation is far too complex and requires real-world experience to objectively analyze), and I'm not interested in people telling me not to mess around with a married chick. I don't feel like justifying why I'm interested in this, so save me the morality play please.
I've known this woman (who's married and in a sexless/loveless marriage) for a long time. We are very close. We frequently talk about sex. She has shown me pictures of her breasts. She describes her body to me in great detail. She asks me about my c0ck, how long it is, what it looks like etc. Just tonight over AIM she brought up the idea of us showing each other our "goods" just for kicks. She's a very sexual person... but not with everyone. She also trusts me a lot.
Here's the thing though. Even though that all sounds good, we'll be rolling along in a conversation like that and she'll throw in a game-stopper like "don't forget, I have boundaries that need to be respected because I'm married, so don't go too far". This is a girl who has given me a full on massage in her bed when her husband was out of town. We've never actually hooked up but there is no doubt that our interaction has ALREADY been very inappropriate, as you can obviously see. Her actions and words are often VERY contradictory, but when she throws that game-stopper in there, it sounds very serious... not half-hearted or something. When she drops those resistance lines, they appear very serious and legitimate. She will frequently say something like that right when our convos are getting good... and even though SHE initiated the subject matter, and frequently had just said something entirely inappropriate herself. She's very beautiful, and to add to the frustration I'm fairly sure that if she was not in a relationship I would be able to hit it at least a few times.
We are going on a trip together soon with some mutual friends. Husband on the other side of the planet. Should I ignore the boundaries she keeps talking about and try a move when we're drunk, or should I just accept that she enjoys being flirty and sexual with me but does not welcome a real advance? I fear failure in this situation more than any other I've ever been in, because I actually have something invested in this girl. We have a very good friendship that I don't really want to detonate, but I feel like there is fvck buddy potential lying just below the surface.
Note: The husband himself is a non-factor as far as any sort of threat is concerned. I do not fear him, I could easily beat his ass (he's a Silicon Valley dweeb), and he does not own any firearms, so spare me the "he's going to kill you" talk. This girl would NEVER be anything less than 100% discrete anyway.
I've known this woman (who's married and in a sexless/loveless marriage) for a long time. We are very close. We frequently talk about sex. She has shown me pictures of her breasts. She describes her body to me in great detail. She asks me about my c0ck, how long it is, what it looks like etc. Just tonight over AIM she brought up the idea of us showing each other our "goods" just for kicks. She's a very sexual person... but not with everyone. She also trusts me a lot.
Here's the thing though. Even though that all sounds good, we'll be rolling along in a conversation like that and she'll throw in a game-stopper like "don't forget, I have boundaries that need to be respected because I'm married, so don't go too far". This is a girl who has given me a full on massage in her bed when her husband was out of town. We've never actually hooked up but there is no doubt that our interaction has ALREADY been very inappropriate, as you can obviously see. Her actions and words are often VERY contradictory, but when she throws that game-stopper in there, it sounds very serious... not half-hearted or something. When she drops those resistance lines, they appear very serious and legitimate. She will frequently say something like that right when our convos are getting good... and even though SHE initiated the subject matter, and frequently had just said something entirely inappropriate herself. She's very beautiful, and to add to the frustration I'm fairly sure that if she was not in a relationship I would be able to hit it at least a few times.
We are going on a trip together soon with some mutual friends. Husband on the other side of the planet. Should I ignore the boundaries she keeps talking about and try a move when we're drunk, or should I just accept that she enjoys being flirty and sexual with me but does not welcome a real advance? I fear failure in this situation more than any other I've ever been in, because I actually have something invested in this girl. We have a very good friendship that I don't really want to detonate, but I feel like there is fvck buddy potential lying just below the surface.
Note: The husband himself is a non-factor as far as any sort of threat is concerned. I do not fear him, I could easily beat his ass (he's a Silicon Valley dweeb), and he does not own any firearms, so spare me the "he's going to kill you" talk. This girl would NEVER be anything less than 100% discrete anyway.