Married chick?

[topdog3853]

So guys, how would you handle it? So I'm seeing a married chick right now? And before you get your panties in a bunch, she has been separated for over a year from him. Anyway she tells me that he is in denial and doesn't believe it, but it is over between them, she's just finishing up the paperwork, BS. I do believe her before you doubt that too. Anyway she hasn't told him about me, but he saw us driving the other day, because we were in her car. Well he called her but didn't say anything about it, but she was a little nervous that he may have seen us. She wasn't nervous about being with another guy and him knowing but more the fact that he might get pretty pissed off and cause some problems. I wasn't worried but how would you guys handle if he does end up confronting you? If he starts throwing punches well then I will have to defend, and kick some A$$ but I don't like to fight or the thought of fighting. So hypothetically what would you do if your are confronted because it is bound to happen since their apts are only a few miles apart? Anybody ever had a situation similar to this?

 

[RKTek]

This is a joke, right? You are joking. C'mon, please repost and say this was a joke.

I mean, who would actually believe this story? Let's see, she's separated for over a year now. Uh huh, so since when is 'separated' somehow equal to 'legally divorced'? You're having an adulterous affair with a married woman so let's get this straight.

So, if she really wanted to get away from him, why is it taking over a year? And if she really didn't give a rat's *ss over this guy, why is he still in the picture?

He's "in denial"? Get a clue, she LOVES the fact that he's in denial. This is a manipulative woman's ultimate fantasy! She's got this guy who's still married to her, yet she's free to date other men. For an ego boost, he's "in denial". Wow, is that ever a turn-on for her! And if you ever get on her nerves or don't put out enough, or make her feel adored, she's got her ex to prance in front of you. She can keep you at arm's length if she just wants a date to buy her dinner and feed her ego by saying she's nervous about 'him'.

She says she's a little nervous he saw the two of you. WTF??? First of all, if she's divorcing this chump, again, who gives a rats patooty what he feels? And he might get pissed and cause some problems? Ha ha, does she have you or what? Like a mullet; hook, line and sinker.

Man oh man, what are you getting out of this relationship?

quote from another web site:

"Narcissists abhor and dread getting emotionally intimate and they regard sex as a maintenance chore, something they have to do in order to keep their source of secondary supply. Moreover, many narcissists tend to engage in FRUSTRATING behaviours. They will refrain from having sex with them, tease them and then leave them, resist flirtatious and seductive behaviours and so on.

Often, they will invoke the existence of a boyfriend/fiancée/spouse as the "reason" why they cannot have sex/develop a relationship. But this is not out of loyalty and fidelity in the empathic and loving sense. This is because they wish (and often succeed) to sadistically frustrate the interested party...."

http://www.drirene.com/6_nar.htm

Please be very aware and careful of what is really going on here.

 

[Aztec]

It isn't worth getting yourself beaten up or shot by one crazy, in denial husband for a piece of ass.

 

[topdog3853]

I'm with you guys. thanks for the input. Hey RK, thanks. At first I was pissed but I do appreciate your input. A simple WTF would have do the trick .. I do wan to throw my two cents in though. First of all I am not wining and dining her. It's the opposite. Secondly, its not stopping me from dating other girls. But it is amazing what a nice piece of a$$ will do to you. lol.

 

[RKTek]

Awright, apologies for clobbering you with the steam shovel first, but there have been, and you've probably observed, some guys who just don't 'get' the subtle approach. Ya tend to tippy-toe around trying to be all nice and sh*t and the next thing you know he's writing again a week or month later with almost the same problem. After responding to a few of these, you tend to want to get the bullhorn right up to his ear the first time. "HEY!!!!"

So okay this chicks got a million-dollar snatch. Nice, but the truth is, she's still legally married to a guy who still thinks of her as his, which, well, legally she IS. And until the ink is dry on the legal divorce papers, he's got a right to be predatory on any shlub tapping his wife.

And her. Look at what kind of woman she is. She's a slut. She may be a very beautiful slut, but sad nonetheless and birds of a feather flock together. You gotta ask yourself why her current husband WANTS a woman like this? And you've got to ask yourself, other than a ONS, why you'd entertain any ideas past a quickie, then a kiss and a promise.

 

[topdog3853]

Hey Rk did you just call me a shlub. just kidding. I just read through that article regarding narcissists. Rather interesting stuff.

Don't worry about using the direct approach with me. I'm not 17 year old here trying to figure out the traits of life. I been around the block and back and know when to listen to all sorts of advice. To be honest with you, I may not stop tapping that ass right now, don't get me wrong, but first and foremost, I'm not letting it stop other 'opportunities" but you gave me some sh*t to think about, and I will that's all I needed.
Thanks

 

[FlyGuy]

So hypothetically what would you do if your are confronted because it is bound to happen since their apts are only a few miles apart? Anybody ever had a situation similar to this?

You say you don't want a fight, but you're basically asking for one. If this guy finds out about you two and confronts you, he might just snap and who knows what could happen...

I'd drop her like a huge turd personally.

 

[topdog3853]

Nothing like living life on the edge!!!! Fvck it, lifes no fun without risk. I'm still pondering it though.

 

[FlyGuy]

Hehe, well I'm sure you won't be able to resist the lure of the pvssy... just be ready for whatever happens.