Señor Fingers
Master Don Juan
I don't know how many of you are married here, but be honest.. do you still flirt?
Personally I love my wife more than I've loved any other women and cheating on her is the last thing on my mind. I hardly ever go out to clubs anymore.. unless its to DJ (the music kind, not the PUA kind) But last night I realized something..
I still got it!
An old friend of mine came to town and basically twisted my arm to go out with him. We ended up hanging at this small club downtown where the music was actually pretty damned good.
I was just hanging and vibing with him and a few of his friends when this really beautiful girl (who reminded me of Uma Thurman) sat next to me, to take a break from dancing.
Now my friend is no slouch in the player department..he's had a different girl every week for the past 8 years I've known him. He commented several times to me how fine this girl was and it was the first time I saw him look intimidated and not approach.
I had also been watching her and noticed that she would stop dancing when certain songs came on. So when she sat next to me I leaned over and casually asked "So you only like house music, huh?"
She was immediately receptive and we started to talk about music and traveling.. she was actually pretty cool and we were just kicking it for a while. At one point my friend caught my eye and had this shocked look on his face. (Later on he asked what my opener was..hehe)
We must have been talking for almost 2 hours. Things were going so well that at some point I began to feel a little uncomfortable, cause the girl was really digging me... touching me like crazy.. punching my arm when I cracked jokes and asking a million questions about me, where I was from, what I was doing after the party etc, etc. Her hand was on my thigh for most of the convo.
I had mentioned my wife a few times throughout the conversation, but she seemed to ignore it completely. When the club was closing up she blatantly asked me if I would ever cheat on my lady. I told her that I was happy/satisfied with my wife, but only a fool uses the word "never".
She actually number closed me, and I gave her a fake #. My friend's eyes were like dinner plates, LOL!
On my way back home I was thinking about you guys, and understood why a lot of you are bitter.. it's really difficult to find women of virtue in this day and age.
I think where a lot of us get led astray is in believing that this is a problem with females, when in reality most people in general treat marriage and commitments like they are disposable nowadays.
I also thought about the whole interaction with this chick, and how, aside from opening, I was not trying to game her at all... the game essentially played itself because there was mutual attraction and we both knew how to communicate well.
It made me realize how simple this mating equation can be.
Attraction + Opening + Vibing + Escalation = Hookup
Of course there is more to it, but when you have your confidence and inner game sorted out, things tend to fall into place easier.
Anyways it felt good to know I still got my mojo. The experience also showed me that I don't really need that kind of validation anymore. It was a nice ego boost, but it's not something I need anymore, if that makes any sense.
Any married dudes care to share their experiences?
Personally I love my wife more than I've loved any other women and cheating on her is the last thing on my mind. I hardly ever go out to clubs anymore.. unless its to DJ (the music kind, not the PUA kind) But last night I realized something..
I still got it!
An old friend of mine came to town and basically twisted my arm to go out with him. We ended up hanging at this small club downtown where the music was actually pretty damned good.
I was just hanging and vibing with him and a few of his friends when this really beautiful girl (who reminded me of Uma Thurman) sat next to me, to take a break from dancing.
Now my friend is no slouch in the player department..he's had a different girl every week for the past 8 years I've known him. He commented several times to me how fine this girl was and it was the first time I saw him look intimidated and not approach.
I had also been watching her and noticed that she would stop dancing when certain songs came on. So when she sat next to me I leaned over and casually asked "So you only like house music, huh?"
She was immediately receptive and we started to talk about music and traveling.. she was actually pretty cool and we were just kicking it for a while. At one point my friend caught my eye and had this shocked look on his face. (Later on he asked what my opener was..hehe)
We must have been talking for almost 2 hours. Things were going so well that at some point I began to feel a little uncomfortable, cause the girl was really digging me... touching me like crazy.. punching my arm when I cracked jokes and asking a million questions about me, where I was from, what I was doing after the party etc, etc. Her hand was on my thigh for most of the convo.
I had mentioned my wife a few times throughout the conversation, but she seemed to ignore it completely. When the club was closing up she blatantly asked me if I would ever cheat on my lady. I told her that I was happy/satisfied with my wife, but only a fool uses the word "never".
She actually number closed me, and I gave her a fake #. My friend's eyes were like dinner plates, LOL!
On my way back home I was thinking about you guys, and understood why a lot of you are bitter.. it's really difficult to find women of virtue in this day and age.
I think where a lot of us get led astray is in believing that this is a problem with females, when in reality most people in general treat marriage and commitments like they are disposable nowadays.
I also thought about the whole interaction with this chick, and how, aside from opening, I was not trying to game her at all... the game essentially played itself because there was mutual attraction and we both knew how to communicate well.
It made me realize how simple this mating equation can be.
Attraction + Opening + Vibing + Escalation = Hookup
Of course there is more to it, but when you have your confidence and inner game sorted out, things tend to fall into place easier.
Anyways it felt good to know I still got my mojo. The experience also showed me that I don't really need that kind of validation anymore. It was a nice ego boost, but it's not something I need anymore, if that makes any sense.
Any married dudes care to share their experiences?