Managing Goodlooks

[RichardTheFrog]

It's a bit of a tangent but I wanted to emphasize something worth understanding as it requires fine social calibration:



The above sentence captures the essence of the razor edge of the fine line between incorrigible "bad boy" who loses redeeming qualities in his no fvcks given attitude who is more a user of women and the charmer/playboy who genuinely loves women but is extremely selective about who he gets involved with beyond just sex. As @fastlife notes, the two (bad boys and playboys) over lap and have the identical presentation upon initial encounter.

And this makes perfect sense. For both these archetypes are all about sex first and ask questions later. The vast majority of women succumb easily to both types, and therefore are never able to discern the two because they lose the opportunity to objectively consider the man before sex occurs. When sex happens too quickly the conquest is over and she's nothing special. Both types of man then move on to the next conquest.

High self esteem girls who have self respect and sexual restraint will flush out the user type sex only bad boys and thereby disqualify them quickly by not allowing sex too fast and this will reveal the possibly tamable playboy type who would be open to the right woman, but who has so much choice that the woman must be a standout in many ways (not just looks & physique).

A playboy is always intrigued by a woman who can resist his well rehearsed charms.

But she must resist him naturally and in a genuine way rather than in a contrived way, and so much the better if she is willing to show her interest/desire and still go home without him.

As relationships develop between high value partners each person is best served to retain the ability to walk away at any time, while consciously choosing to stay in the relationship. The best relationships are a result of two complete people choosing in real time to invest in each other and the relationship...even when either could entertain other options. It is impossible to take one another for granted in such a relationship and it consists of constantly being the best option for the partner while honoring ones self.

Needless to say this is not for the insecure or the faint of heart...and that is why neurotic behaviors, laziness and crazy making blow out relationships...one party was subpar relative to the other.

In contrast two whole individuals are able to relax and enjoy one another in the peace and sanctuary a solid relationship built by partners of similar high value. They "get" each other and create comfort together. They both benefit but they can neither get complacent.

And let me guess... You're part of this "high value club" with your Rico Suave who cheats on you every chance he gets? Because he's such a (fake) bad boy?

 

[BeExcellent]

And let me guess... You're part of this "high value club" with your Rico Suave who cheats on you every chance he gets? Because he's such a (fake) bad boy?

Want to know something very funny? The actual Rico Suave artist (I forget his real name) wanted to meet me years ago when that song was popular.

He was very short, like Prince, as I recall, but good looking, celebrity, blah blah blah. He was out one night after his show at a venue where I was. He sent one of his security guys over to approach me. The security guy got my attention, pointed out Rico Suave and told me Rico wanted to meet me.

I said to the security guy "Do Rico's legs work?" And the security dude said "Sure. Why?" And I said to him "Tell Rico Suave if he wants to meet me he can walk over here himself and say hello. Otherwise no thanks."

My attitude was not well received (but his expression was pretty amusing) when the security dude went back to tell Rico. So thanks for the opportunity to share that story.

Rico Suave stared at me the rest of the night and ended up going home with some chick.

So yup. Screened out the real Rico Suave immediately. He was looking for easy sex. That's not how I roll.

Your other insult about my guy? I'm not worried at all about that.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Want to know something very funny? The actual Rico Suave artist (I forget his real name) wanted to meet me years ago when that song was popular.

He was very short, like Prince, as I recall, but good looking, celebrity, blah blah blah. He was out one night after his show at a venue where I was. He sent one of his security guys over to approach me. The security guy got my attention, pointed out Rico Suave and told me Rico wanted to meet me.

I said to the security guy "Do Rico's legs work?" And the security dude said "Sure. Why?" And I said to him "Tell Rico Suave if he wants to meet me he can walk over here himself and say hello. Otherwise no thanks."

My attitude was not well received (but his expression was pretty amusing) when the security dude went back to tell Rico. So thanks for the opportunity to share that story.

Rico Suave stared at me the rest of the night and ended up going home with some chick.

So yup. Screened him out immediately. Just as I noted in my other post.

Great.

And I could have sex with a girl who was published in Playboy if I wanted to pay her enough. (From SA)

Curious why do you describe your guy as a bad boy? What does he do that makes him bad?

 

[BeExcellent]

Great.

And I could have sex with a girl who was published in Playboy if I wanted to pay her enough. (From SA)

Curious why do you describe your guy as a bad boy? What does he do that makes him bad?

My guy fits the classic description of a playboy type, which some consider a bad boy. He thinks of himself this way too, but it is more a persona than who he really is.

I make a distinction as I described but it's a subtle difference that is not visible initially.

In reality my guy is imperfect, as we all are, but is a solid man worthy of respect. There is depth to him, resilience, masculinity, humanity. He is a gentleman toward me with some lovable ass hole thrown in for good measure.

We have a ball.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

My guy fits the classic description of a playboy type, which some consider a bad boy. He thinks of himself this way too, but it is more a persona than who he really is.

I make a distinction as I described but it's a subtle difference that is not visible initially.

In reality my guy is imperfect, as we all are, but is a solid man worthy of respect. There is depth to him, resilience, masculinity, humanity. He is a gentleman toward me with some lovable ass hole thrown in for good measure.

We have a ball.

Interesting. I keep wondering who this fabled "alpha male" is that keeps getting mentioned on here.

I've been to prison, so it takes more than a leather jacket to convince me that someone is a "bad boy."

And I see hot girls with guys that are just normal guys. They aren't drug dealers from the hood. Just as likely to be guys with desk jobs.

 

[BeExcellent]

Interesting. I keep wondering who this fabled "alpha male" is that keeps getting mentioned on here.

I've been to prison, so it takes more than a leather jacket to convince me that someone is a "bad boy."

And I see hot girls with guys that are just normal guys. They aren't drug dealers from the hood. Just as likely to be guys with desk jobs.

Well my guy is retired career military. A high ranking officer in charge of the lives of the troops under his command. He took his leadership position & its responsibility very seriously. He's been in action and been under fire. I thought he had bruises when I first saw his body. I asked what happened. They weren't bruises. They were gunshot wound scars.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Well my guy is retired career military. A high ranking officer in charge of the lives of the troops under his command. He took his leadership position & its responsibility very seriously. He's been in action and been under fire. I thought he had bruises when I first saw his body. They weren't bruises. They were gunshot wound scars.

I get no credit for breaking my neck and recovering from a spinal cord injury. I suppose injuries aren't impressive if they weren't in military service.

Military guys who did nothing but sit on a base get more credit.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

dont see how thats going to help you

Sure it will. Tell me.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I've been to prison

state or Federal?

 

[RichardTheFrog]

state or Federal?

State. They filmed 6 hours of a show called Lockup on MSNBC, filmed about 2 months before I arrived. Santa Rosa Correctional Institution in Milton, FL.

 

[AriMamba]

I think this post made me graduate Don Juan school. I have been wondering why girls tell me I’m attratcive and that im a nice guy and blah blah but then part ways. And this is why. I look like a fkv boi but act like a nice guy. 2018 is going to be an interesting year