Man Sends Wife Excel Spreadsheet of All Her Sexual Rejections

[Rave18]

I was in a sexless relationship as well. I got all the excuses.

“I feel gross”
“I’m tired”
“I’m too full”

I remember reaching over to her to initiate it on a couple of occasions and her turning around and giving me a dirty look.

The only time she would give in is maybe after a expensive dinner or if some girl flirted with me in front of her. Then, it became a way to pull me back in. Like throwing a dog a few table scraps to keep them interested.

Think about what is given to the guy to entice him to be her boyfriend. Sex.

Think about what isn’t given to the guy when she doesn’t like him. Sex.

Women turn it on and off to get what they want.

Sex is the thing that men respond to. Women respond to emotions.

Want her attention? The best way to get it is not to bang another woman, it’s to text another woman or give another woman your verbal attention. My girlfriend even told me that me physically cheating on her wouldn’t hurt as much as me emotionally connecting with someone else.

Excellent post. This is something I've time and again heard from the wiser members.

 

[Kailex]

When I know a girl is interested in me and we are not yet dating or fvking, I will make sure to state in regular conversation that if I don't get sex from the girl I am dating, I will just go out and find it elsewhere.

I am curious. How do you manage to bring this up in regular conversation? I'd really like to know... I've done this as well, but usually in a conversation revolving, "What are you looking for in a potential relationship?". That's usually my trigger.

 

[Mike32ct]

I feel badly for these guys. It's like they've been scammed or "baited and switched." She will bhang you silly while you are dating, but once she gets what she wants such as marriage and/or kids, you eventually get cut off. Not all marriages end up like that, but quite a few do.

(As Jaylan points out, it's equally wrong if a guy denies his wife or gf sex too.)

Even worse are the guilt trips such as, "You only care about sex" or "Relationships are more than just sex."

Plenty of men (and women) really don't want to cheat. But when their partner cuts them off, it's frustrating.

I don't mind dry spells as a single person. Life gets busy and you focus on other things. But I wouldn't tolerate that shyte with a partner.

 

[backbreaker]

i wonder what would happen if he cheated on his wife, and brought this excel document to court to prove his wife was not having sex with him

 

[Kailex]

All you need is a loser to talk about (or a poor friend) and the topic of sex to come up and then you have an in towards it, just let it flow naturally

Funny you say that, because this is typically how I do it, as well. I pretty much use an example and go from there. Any woman who objects to what I am saying or my point of view on it, automatically gets DQ'ed. It's useless to try to argue a woman into seeing a POV where sex is important within the relationship.

If they don't see eye to eye on it, they pretty much are admitting that they don't care.

 

[Poop1337]

I would put up with a frigid chick who was otherwise pleasant to be around but that my friend is a paradox. This gf/wife who never/rarely puts out isn't also going to be some loyal house maker who is a joy to be around. She will likely be selfish in all area's of life. Just like the loyal joy to be around will at minimum make herself available to you even if it's not porn star sex.

 

[Colossus]

I think it is within your marital rights to have sex regularly with your partner, whether they "want" it or not, barring illness or a legitimate medical problem.

Now two reasonable people who love each other can work this out. My gf wants sex more than I do, and maybe 1/5 times I oblige her when I'm not in the mood. It's not like it feels bad, come on. But when you are married, I'd go so far as to say you have the right to TAKE it if she isn't giving it to you. Of course the law doesn't really see it this way, it's still considered "rape", but when you marry someone you are effectively giving them full access right to your body for sexual pleasure, within reason.

 

[Jaylan]

I think it is within your marital rights to have sex regularly with your partner, whether they "want" it or not, barring illness or a legitimate medical problem.

Now two reasonable people who love each other can work this out. My gf wants sex more than I do, and maybe 1/5 times I oblige her when I'm not in the mood. It's not like it feels bad, come on. But when you are married, I'd go so far as to say you have the right to TAKE it if she isn't giving it to you. Of course the law doesn't really see it this way, it's still considered "rape", but when you marry someone you are effectively giving them full access right to your body for sexual pleasure, within reason.

"Taking it" isnt within reason though. It wont be "rape", it will be straight up rape and end up having a dude fvk his life up. Its better to just find a more suitable partner, which a lot of people are too weak to try and do.

The solution to a spouse who wont be intimate is to divorce them. I wont say anyone has the right to anyone else's body, but I will say that within a marriage there is an understanding that partners will meet one another's needs on various levels (be that mentally, physically, or emotionally).

If your needs arent being met, bail. You cant force someone to willfully meet your needs. They have to want to do it.

I am curious. How do you manage to bring this up in regular conversation? I'd really like to know... I've done this as well, but usually in a conversation revolving, "What are you looking for in a potential relationship?". That's usually my trigger.

When testing a new woman and figuring her out, Id simply bring up this story. For example...if we were talking about the news or anything related to social media, I could say;

"Oh man, I was reading this story online that went viral. Apparently this dudes sex life was so bad with his wife, that he had to email her a spreadsheet detailing how often she turns him down lol"

And the convo would flow after that. Id see what she think about the story, and then I could say "Ive read and heard too many stories of people in depressing marriages lacking intimacy. I could never do it. Id just leave and find someone more compatible. I wanna feel connected to my girl".

Id figure out how she feels without judging her, if she happens to not be my type. If she isnt my type based on her answer, I simply never consider her girlfriend material. Anyways, yeah...I would either bring up the viral story, or take Danger's approach and relate it to some sap.

 

[zekko]

People have different libidos. From that spreadsheet, maybe that woman's optimum is every 9 or 10 days, since that seems to be what she's fallen into.

 

[Stagger Lee]

Money can buy sex but not loyalty. Id rather have a frigid but caring and loyal wife and just get some on the side.

Me too. As long as she's truly loyal, caring and attractive, I would work around lack of interest in sex. Loyalty is about impossible to find in a woman anymore.

 

[backbreaker]

yeah there is a balance. you don't want a wife that's humping fire hidrgents she's so horny lol.

 

[Stagger Lee]

Or humping other guys. It's good if she at least horny as you or more, but betwwen the two, loyal or horny, loyality wins out.

 

[backbreaker]

I don't think most guys here understand that he did not send the excel sheet because he wasn't getting laid. He sent it because he wasn't getting laid and then his wife tells him that she's going on a random 10 day business trip.

I mean come on lol. That's like CSI cheater 101 **** there lo


and I mean, FRIENDS RERUNS? I mean if you are going to turn me down for sex, turn me down for some **** you haven't even seen before?

I mean I can understand even sympathize with "damn girl the last episode of breaking bad is on" or maybe you just really have a TV show that you watch religiously. I don't even try to bother my wife when she's watching Rosolli and Isles or Covert Affairs she loves that ****. But I'll be damned if you turn me down for sex FOR A TV SHOW YOU'VE ALREADY SEEN lol.


can you imagine turning down sex from a woman, for watching the... Sopranos finale, which if you're like me you've seen 12 times already?

Watching ****, that i've already seen is more important than being intimate with you lol.