Man, I need to work on some consistency :|

[cactus3178]

Whew.

I did a no-no last night.

My ex called me at like 2:30am the night before last and said she had a "question for me". I was asleep (actually fell asleep at 8:30!!), so I missed the call.

I called her back the next day and she asked me about the girl I've been chilling with.....since the cat's out of the bag....and I told her that if she wanted to talk, we could hang out the next later that night (Friday) and watch a couple movies and talk about things.

I went over last night and we chilled and watched movies and talked about how everything went to sh*t until around 1:00am, and she said she had to go downstairs to her bedroom or she would fall asleep. I said "So, you probably want me to bounce, huh?". She replied with "No, you can come finish the movie downstairs if you want". (movie was 'Blowback'...marginal at best, btw).

I did so, and we both kinda fell asleep next to each other, me behind her. I woke up a little later and got under the blankets because I was cold. Fell asleep again, and woke up some time later and we were facing each other, her leg was over mine, we had our arms around each other and my hand was on her breast.

Now, I'm guessing this was purely force of habit from the jillion nights we slept together before we split.....and when I woke up and realized what I was doing, I wanted to stop, but I couldn't.

She had her nose about a quarter inch from mine, and she looked so Goddamn hot. I swear I don't know what came over me, but I kissed her on the lips, she kissed me back....we did that for a little bit, then fell back asleep. We didn't have sex, but I swear I've never been so turned the f*ck on in my life. Especially over a little kissing.

We woke up this morning and took a shower. She had to go to work, and I left. She called me an hour later and left me a message asking me if I wanted to go out tonight with her and a couple friends.

In the meantime, the new chick called at 4am, then texted, so I called her back this morning....she wants to hang out tonight too.

Decisions, decisions. I've never been in this position before

***Now before anybody starts thinking I'm gonna fall for her again, think twice. I learned my lesson ***

But am I seriously f*cking up by even hanging out with my ex? It's so weird that all of a sudden things are like this. I'm guessing that ex's can never be 'friends' without somebody having some sort of feelings for the other.

Thoughts, flames, or beheadings?

Thanks gentlemen (and few ladies)

 

[Ice Cold]

uh oh!

You hug a cheek, your hand is on her tit and you're kissing her.

I'd be worried if you weren't turned on at that point.

If anything, you don't wanna hang out with your ex and her friends. Fukk her if you feel like it, but don't "hang out".

Good job. You have 2 girl over you.

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by Ice Cold
uh oh!

You hug a cheek, your hand is on her tit and you're kissing her.

I'd be worried if you weren't turned on at that point.

LOL, Ice Cold and his humor, gotta love it!

Cactus Cactus Cactus, you just love to keep putting yourself through this emotional rollercoaster, dont you? I am starting to think you actually enjoy it!

U know what u gotta do, I am not even going to bother saying it again.

 

[WaterTiger]

Originally posted by cactus3178
I did a no-no last night.

My ex called me at like 2:30am the night before last and said she had a "question for me". I was asleep (actually fell asleep at 8:30!!), so I missed the call.

I called her back the next day and she asked me about the girl I've been chilling with.....

A NO-NO????? Ya think that was a NO-NO???? Damn Cactus! You're driving me nuts!

Your first no-no was to call her back. (You do not owe her anything, not even a return phone call.) Your second no-no was to tell her anything besides :"WE ARE BROKEN UP! DON'T EVER CALL ME AGAIN, YOU MISERABLE SOUL SUCKING FREAK!" Then you slam the phone down...See? Wasn't that easy? Wasn't that FUN?

Let me warn you about one other thing. You have a third person in this mix, watching and learning from you. Your daughter, remember her? Do you know who teaches her what to expect from men? Yep! That would be YOU. You're teaching her guys will SAY they are broken up, then come running back, that you can play all sorts of silly games with them and they take it. You're teaching her that men don't mean what they say, that they are weak and easy to manipulate. This is what she sees in her father, this is what she's going to look for in other men.

Ten years from now, you'll see her in some one's "Field Report" as one of those crazy, controling beyotches that everyone LOVES to flame about.

Yes, you're hurting yourself by going out with the ex. You're also hurting your child. Get a grip Cactus, if not for yourself, then for her.

Peace,

~~~~WaterTiger