man I cant make the move on the girl, what up with me?

[Dave111]

was out clubbing for new year in town last night and got talking to this american girl who studies over here, she was giving off the signals that she wanted me, and even at that I couldn't grab the balls to kiss her, what the hell is wrong with me?, its as though I've got some kind of psychological problem with the idea of making a move on a girl.

any tips on how to over come this?

 

[slipstreamer83]

In my opinion you try to go too fast. I wouldn´t try to kiss a girl the first time I meet her. Slow down dude!!! You were doing OK, what you needed is to get info about her to contact her another day.

 

[DesertsFox]

Originally posted by Dave111
was out clubbing for new year in town last night and got talking to this american girl who studies over here, she was giving off the signals that she wanted me, and even at that I couldn't grab the balls to kiss her, what the hell is wrong with me?, its as though I've got some kind of psychological problem with the idea of making a move on a girl.

any tips on how to over come this?

Ignore the stupid post above. the faster u bang her, the better it will be. my recomendation, is to create opportunt moments, that way its like a little plan =). Step by Step. thats how i convinced myself the first time.

Be like, okay, im gonna put my arms around her, then lean in, then kiss. and it becomes like a checklist =).

 

[Gangster Of Love]

You are just freezing in the moment. Too much tension for you to handle. A.ka. chokin', it might happen to you often, or just in the presence of hotties. Just remember one thing, THEY EXPECT YOU TO MAKE YOUR MOVE. You are the man and MUST escalate things at all times, otherwise the hottie will never forgive you and write you off. No time for the timid here, no time for the gun shy.

 

[slipstreamer83]

Re: Re: man I cant make the move on the girl, what up with me?

Originally posted by DesertsFox
Ignore the stupid post above. the faster u bang her, the better it will be. my recomendation, is to create opportunt moments, that way its like a little plan =). Step by Step. thats how i convinced myself the first time.

Be like, okay, im gonna put my arms around her, then lean in, then kiss. and it becomes like a checklist =).

It´s ok if you don´t agree with me, but you don´t need to say that my post is stupid. Different strategies.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Re: Re: Re: man I cant make the move on the girl, what up with me?

Originally posted by slipstreamer83
It´s ok if you don´t agree with me, but you don´t need to say that my post is stupid. Different strategies.

It's stupid.

Haha.

Hesitation equals, well, you know the rest of that...

Hesitation is a low status-male type of quality, and will RARELY land you the hotties who will have other less hesitant guys after them, and will often get you a membership in the LJBF club. Its normal to freeze up and not know what to do to advance things to a physical level, specially if you are just learning and you are not too good with women yet. So yes, its a different strategy, yet rarely an effective one, unless you have your game in tact and you do it because you are in control and there is no way she'll escape. Most guys don't do it because of that.

There's a right strategy and a wrong one.

 

[slipstreamer83]

Re: Re: Re: Re: man I cant make the move on the girl, what up with me?

Originally posted by Gangster Of Love


Hesitation equals, well, you know the rest of that...

Hesitation is a low status-male type of quality, and will RARELY land you the hotties who will have other less hesitant guys after them, and will often get you a membership in the LJBF club. Its normal to freeze up and not know what to do to advance things to a physical level, specially if you are just learning and you are not too good with women yet. So yes, its a different strategy, yet rarely an effective one, unless you have your game in tact and you do it because you are in control and there is no way she'll escape. Most guys don't do it because of that.

Exactly.

My point is to avoid "freezing up" as you say. If you forget about kissing the girls the first time you meet her it won´t make you freeze up. To me kissing goes in the first or second date.

If you are a DJ you will stand between 100 AFCs, isn´t it???

Well, I live in a part of the world in which maybe the closest guy who gets into this stuff is several thousands of kilometres away since 5% of the population in my country speaks English, let alone access to sosuave.com or doubleyourdating.com.