trv26 said:
out of interest 1984, would you honestly say u were never interested in her sexually. And whatever the truth, anyone would be concerned about a gal passing out drunk at a friends place.
Also, consider the hypothetical situation that due to work or distance or other such legitimate reasons u cannot always get to spend as much time as you lyk with ur girl.
In such a situation its likely time would be spent with frens some of whom could be from long before I/you met her. What is acceptable in such a case and whats not? Also how do you convey ur point without seeming insecure?
No, I was never interested in her sexually. I mean, she's a beautiful girl, but I've known her for a long time, and I know how much of a burden she carries (edit: I guess I shouldn't say "burden", but she went through a divorce because her husband was cheating on her, and I became friends with her after that started, but before she found out and filed for divorce. Anyway, as a rule I don't hook up with divorced women.). I found her interesting, and liked hanging out with her. Simple as that. Plus she always looked out for me and hooked me up with her friends.
I'm not sure what's acceptable with time and distance restraints, but in the example I gave, the guy lived with her and had all the time in the world to spend with her. Despite that, he communicated with her through e-mails (I think they slept in seperate rooms, not sure, he wouldn't allow me in their apartment), and spent all of his free time playing WoW. She works at a bar that was only a block away from their apartment, and yet he couldn't find the time to walk down there and hang out with her for an hour or two after her shift. Ever.
Also, her and I lived together before the two of them started dating, so I don't think he had the right to act like an jealous ******* when she said she'd rather go to the bar with me than sit at home and stare at the wall while he played video games all night.
Anyway, I think there's a point to my *****ing here. As long as you don't act like this guy, and your girlfriend doesn't have a used condom sticking out of her hair the next time you see her, you should be ok. If you feel you can trust her, trust her. If not, you should break up with her and find somebody with no male friends.